Topic: RE: Unhappy Husband
What is it about a BIG BUTT they like? Silly MEN! LOL
You know?, the changes we go thru after this WLS is confusing..The weight comes off remarkably FAST and our heads are left behind for a while..it's unbelievable to our minds and also to our husbands..it really does take time for eveyone close to us to adjust to all the changes in us.
I think I have this "thing" my husband is going thru all figured out..he's not too much overweight, but enough to feel self consious about it, especially now that I'm thinner than he is. He felt fit when I was so overweight, and his confidence was higher, then.
So here I am, wearing nice new stylish clothing, feeling so much more energy and leaving him behind in a way. He's still wanting to sit infront of the TV, snacking away..something we've enjoyed doing togetherin the past...but now I just can't sit that long and can't eat the junk anymore..I've managed to get him out of the bed in the morning a time or two to either walk or swim with me before he leaves for work, but he'd rather sleep and does that most days. He still wants to eat the same way as before..and I've tried to feed him healthier, but I'm having to fix him somthing else soon after the meal because he's just not satisfied with the "light meal"..
Well anyway, I'm having to make him feel good about himself by being the aggressor now. It's all strange to me because he has always been the one to chase me around..and too often...LOL It all just came to a screaming halt after the surgery and tho' I didn't mind at first, but it eventually started to make me feel unattractive and I started to worry.
I'm sure there will be more role reversals to come..one thing I need to remember is my husband loves me very much. I know that and I shouldn't have panic'd the way it did..I just need to figure this out..and I did.
Oh, by the way..congratulations on your dicision to take this journey..You are beautiful now, so I guess we can see how the hubbie would worry about how much more beautiful you'll be after the surgery..we just have to keep their ego's up, just as they done for our big ole butts..LOL