bullyanky’s Posts
Post Date 7/27/09 7:47 pm
Topic: RE: FIRST POST OP REGRETT

Thank you very much.. I'll talk to just about anyone who can give me a little hope. Im just not ready to give it up yet.. Yes he did have the surgery as I remember.. I did make an appointment with someone next week so hopefully its just a matter of retraining.
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Post Date 7/27/09 1:45 pm
Topic: RE: FIRST POST OP REGRETT

Thank you for the encouragement.. This sucks totally not being able to do something I never had to really think about....
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Post Date 7/27/09 8:52 am
Topic: RE: FIRST POST OP REGRETT

Many,,,, Nothing more recent then 2003 though. I have a country band that I have traveled with for many years and was hoping and they were hoping that I might be able to get back to that. But, this has kind of put a question on that.

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Post Date 7/27/09 4:55 am
Topic: RE: FIRST POST OP REGRETT

Thank you all for your support... I'm holding on to the hope that I just need to learn to use my instrument in a new way.. I will keep you all up to date.
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Post Date 7/26/09 7:43 pm
Topic: FIRST POST OP REGRETT

In addition to being a comedian just about my entire life I have also been a singer. Classically trained,, since the age of 6.. Singing has since been a HUGE joy in my life and often the ONE thing that has made me truly happy,, even at 400 pounds.. But, I have not sung since surgery in February. Friday night I did.. I met up with some friends at a local bar for Kareoke night… Normally it’s a lot of fun. I go I knock them dead with my singing voice get lots of OOOs and Awwwws. However, this time was different. For the first time in MY LIFE I was awful.. Well not awful as compared to the other people that were there.

Its not that I forgot how…. More like my body just wont let me do it. A singer’s, control pitch, resonance come from the abdomen you use your abdominal muscles to regulate the flow of air over your vocal cords. Suddenly I either don’t have the abdominal strength or I’m just not able to get enough air from my abdomen to control the sound the way I used to..  Is there anyone out there who can relate to this problem??? I suppose “I” should have thought about this before surgery. But, it has TOTALLY caught me off guard and I’m not sure how to deal with it. I mean is that part of my life over now because I had this surgery??? Do I just have to learn to live with it? Or do I need to start seeing a coach again and learn how to use it again? If I have to give up music then I will say that this has to be my low point after surgery.

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Post Date 7/22/09 9:20 pm
Topic: RE: Wifes Weight

Thats a good point that you might want to bring up to her. It might shut down discussion and it might be hard to bring up the topic again anytime soon. But, if she knows what your concerns are,,,, It might just give her some food for thought.. It might not sway her toward surgery and lets face it,, surgery is not for everyone. But,,, it might make her think that another try at the old fashioned way would be worth some effort... I promise you though this kind of conversation never goes down easy on either side....

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Post Date 7/22/09 3:14 pm
Topic: RE: Sushi?

Ooooo Rice... Not my favorite either...
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Post Date 7/22/09 7:57 am
Topic: RE: Sushi?

I am really not a sushi kind-a-guy... But, I would have to say that I have tried it and will say that not all of it is really all that bad. I do like the tuna... Try it.. HUGE!!! amount of lean protein in fi****s worth the adventure. I'm a bandie anything not cooked is kind of difficult but, take SMALL BIGHTS and CHEW CHEW CHEW.... and it seamed to work out just find. I did feel better after sushi.. I dont know if there's something with the raw fish nutritionally but, I had more energy and just felt better after eating it.
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Post Date 7/22/09 7:50 am
Topic: RE: Wifes Weight

As you know you really can do nothing to force someone Else into taking control of their lives. You can only offer unconditional support and understanding.. When She is ready she will make a choice that's comfortable for her. Example is sometimes the greatest encouragement you can offer another so keep doing what you're doing maybe down the line when she finds the strength in her own heart she will do something to help herself. Till then love is good medicine. Congratulations on your success..
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Post Date 7/20/09 7:50 pm
Topic: RE: New to the forum

WELCOME and thank you introducing yourself. Welcome to the club.

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Post Date 7/20/09 7:46 pm
Topic: RE: I really need some help/advice---what can I do?

There is no such thing as ONLY 31 pounds. Congratulations,, just loosing 10 surgery or no surgery is remarkable. Keep doing what you're doing... I might try to eat a little more give your body something to burn... But, I know at this stage in the game it's very difficult. But, you'll get over the hump. Just stay positive.... You've made the right choice especially if you've come from where the rest of us have.  

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Post Date 7/5/09 8:52 pm
Topic: RE: This should be an experience

I was afraid to be away from home at first but, since I've done it not so much anymore. Now I'm going to Itally in a month the LAND OF PASTA (that will be a test)
You've done all the right things you're prepared you'll be fine.. Enjoy yourself you're going to be out and active and you'll probably have a GREAT TIME!!! Just think what this would have been like 55 pounds ago.. CELEBRATE and have a great time.
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Post Date 7/5/09 8:40 pm
Topic: RE: Haters. I cannot stand people who speak on subj. they do not know.

Its really hard to take a defensive stance when you know that negative comment is coming from a place of caring. The only thing I feel you can do in a situation like that is to listen note their concern and use to opportunity to educate. You may never win over a person like that but, you never know in a year if you see her and she notices the change in you,, You just might turn her around.

Its really not something thats worth getting worked up about... This is something that I run into even now that I have had surgery..... I've gotten used to it.
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Post Date 7/5/09 8:17 pm
Topic: RE: Questions and Pondering

I know I went through the same thing this weekend. There's just something about the 4th of July and BEEEEEEEEEEEEEER..
Im a Bandie so I cant say that this is so for RNY.. But, empty calories as someone else just said is just one issue.. And Keep in mind that the carbonation is the real enemy for us. Remember high school science class when they put the balloon over the soda bottle and the balloon blew up.. Well the carbonation will cause the same type of reaction to your pouch. So unless you want to drink flat beer.. (Ewwwwwww) I wold avoid it not just because of the calories but because of it effect on your stomach.
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Post Date 7/3/09 12:53 pm
Topic: RE: My first posted fart...

Congratulations I cant wait to get to a waist  size under 40 thats a big accomplishment
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Post Date 7/2/09 8:37 pm
Topic: RE: Everything was turned into ins. yesterday!!!!

As long as all the ducks as they say are in a row and you sent in everything that they require then you'll be approved.. Good luck and keep us up to date... From here (as long as the insr co approves you) its all down hill. The fun is just beginning... 

CONGRATULATIONS just getting to this point is a HUGE deal...  

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Post Date 7/1/09 8:19 am
Topic: RE: Sorry to enter the Man Cave but my friend needs some manly advice.

Almost anything that you purchase that is too big in the neck can be tailored. Shop around there is stuff out there to fit him... Try the Internet.. The casual male might be a good place to start but, Im not sure how large they go... I shopped there till I got to be a 56 waist thats not the largest they Carry but, not sure what the top is for them.

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Post Date 6/27/09 7:01 am
Topic: RE: Do we lie or tell the truth??

Thats a topic that has come up in my support group A LOT lately and I'm always surprised at the answer from some people.. There are MANY who feel that its no one Else's business and there for will just respond with a statement like "DIET AND EXERCISE" quite honestly that's ain't very far from the truth..
But, I've aways maintained the position of honesty.. I mean friends families co-workers if they're asking then that means they care about what is happening to you and lets be honest if you've lost a significant amount of weight in a relatively short span of time they probably already figured it out. So respond honestly in my opinion.. If you dint they're going to wonder and really you dont want speculations.. But, beprepared to answer some quetsions.
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Post Date 6/26/09 11:05 pm
Topic: RE: Life began yesterday 6-25-09

Well the truth part I can handle its the naked part that scares me. I've see enough naked fat men over the years just gazing at myself in the mirror to give me a nightmare the rest of my life.

It certainly sounds like you had an ordeal.. I'm really glad everything turned out okay...... After all that I'm surprised they sent you home. Since they did that must mean you're doing just fine. Do keep us posted.. Congratulations!!!!

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Post Date 6/25/09 7:50 am
Topic: RE: Health insurance

I really think its time to battle this... Honestly.. We're HEALTHIER.. Here's new thing to as to my soap box... Thanks for the information....
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Post Date 6/24/09 8:44 pm
Topic: RE: Health insurance



Now that gets me just as fired up as you are.. Do that not realize that you're a much better risk then you were before the surgery!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I would never have thought about that being a problem.. I would start writing letters.. Get you're surgeons support maybe have his write a letter.. See if any of your doctors can help. I seam CRAZY that now you ARE a much healthier person and why will not grant you coverage because you achieved better health because of surgery.
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Post Date 6/23/09 6:55 pm
Topic: RE: LETS PLAY A GAME..

Thank YOU... I drew a blank for some reason Babe Ruth and Ben Franklin Both fit the bill.. Thanks for uncorking my writers block

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Post Date 6/23/09 5:43 pm
Topic: LETS PLAY A GAME..

As many of you know I have a background in comedy and comedy writing…. Over the past few months I have been writing a MUSICAL about body image.. Called “FAT MAN,,, THE MUSICAL” its coming along nicely.. So far very entertaining I have a producer and everything so this is going to happen..

 

I need a little help from all of you.. So I was hoping you all might want to play a little game.

 

As some of us know being a portly man or fill figured woman was not always a problem. Through out history MANY MEN and WOMEN were revered as QUITE SEXY despite their large stature.

 

I need the names of FIVE such men in history. So far all I have in King Henry The 8th.. I know there are others. Please respond with your answers..

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Post Date 6/23/09 8:14 am
Topic: SMART FIRST LADY

I dont know if anyone saw the Michelle Obama interview this morning on Good Morning America.. Here's the link...

part 1

http://abcnews.go.com/video/playerIndex?id=7905341

part 2

http://abcnews.go.com/video/playerIndex?id=7905457

What do we all think??? 
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Post Date 6/3/09 6:41 pm
Topic: RE: WHAT???? HOW??? NO WAY!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Oh,, Im convinced I need a new scale.... But, I did go back to Weigh****chers this morning on the way to work and their did cnfrm about an 11 pound weight loss. Other then a WHOLE LOT of gas last night I cant think of at thing that was different. I did have a very HEAVY work out Tuesday morning though. I dont think that did it.
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