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 Bowie, MD Member Since: 08/02/05 [Latest Posts] | Post Date: 2/7/12 5:00 pm Hi guys!! I was at a party Saturday night where one of the husband's of a gal that was there spent just a little too much time staring at me, trying to ply me with drinks, and generally just making over me. A mutual female friend approached me and asked if I was aware he was gawking, etc. I told her I saw it but didn't really know what to do other than keep my distance as politely as I could. I was really concerned his wife would be upset so I tried to keep my distance. The next day that same friend called me and we got into a discussion about sex appeal. She said, "You ooze sex. It's your eyes, your mouth, the way you posture your body." I said I was completely unaware of what she was talking about. She explained that she didn't think it was something I did, but that sex appeal is something that I have. It probably comes as no surprise that I am completely floored to hear this from her. Me? Ooze sex? Seriously? WTF? It's almost laughable to me. This leads me to my question: Do you think that sex appeal is something you have naturally or is it something you try to do? Or do you think it can be some of both? I'd hate to think I am unknowingly putting out some sort of vibe that is perceived as some sort of come on, least of all in the presence of someone's wife!! So do tell--what do you think? Thanks! Denise Do what you've always done and you'll get what you've always gotten!! |
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 Member Since: 04/19/10 [Latest Posts] | Post Date: 2/7/12 7:16 pm Sex appeal-- I think is a combination of confidence, the way you dress, and groom yourself.I work in a very conservative office.. where they measure the length of skirts, dont allow sleeveless shirts or low cut shirts at all.. no sex appeal going on there.. no transparent anything.. no tattoos are allowed.. no distracting jewelry.. you would think I worked with Nuns.. However,during our Christmas party.. I really dressed up. Most people I worked with had no idea how sassy I could look.. when I walked around ..my good friends stopped me and told me how hot I looked.. it was a real boost to my self esteem.. I wore a floor length gown, high heels, and all the right supportive garments..  |
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 Member Since: 04/30/10 [Latest Posts] | Post Date: 2/7/12 7:26 pm Confidence is sexy! I would expect that after your WLS and PS you are projecting a confidence and joy most people don't have with their bodies. Personally, I'm not shooting for perfect. The improvements I've made in my health and appearance are incredible. I'm happy with who I am and there is no doubt I project it in my demeanor and carriage (despite the "I've had my stomach muscles tightened" hunch). Your confidence makes you sexy! Now ... YOU'RE SEXY AND YOU KNOW IT!  (sorry, I couldn't resist the pop culture reference). Kay |
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Bowie, MD Member Since: 08/02/05 [Latest Posts] | Post Date: 2/7/12 7:42 pm I LOVE the pop culture reference--just not when my 5 year old sings it (which she really has--ugh!). I think there is definitely something about how someone carries themselves when they have a strong sense of self confidence--shoulders back, head a little higher--not shrinking into the background. I think the joy you speak of is something that is very much in play with me. One thing I've heard so often since my surgeries is that my smile exudes pure joy, and so often now I am truly joyful. Whether or not that translates into sexy is not something I'd put much thought into, but whatever it translates to, I'm not willing to change a thing, so if the worst thing I am perceived as is being sexy (although I don't think I'll ever believe it!), then I'll take it! LOL! Thanks! Do what you've always done and you'll get what you've always gotten!! |
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 TX Member Since: 03/12/09 [Latest Posts] | Post Date: 2/8/12 2:11 am I agree....confidence is very sexy and draws people to those who have it.
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Bowie, MD Member Since: 08/02/05 [Latest Posts] | Post Date: 2/8/12 9:49 am Funny you say that because my friend that talked to me said those very words--that people are drawn to me. I think it is because I always have food in my hand and they want some!! LOL! Do what you've always done and you'll get what you've always gotten!! |
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 San Jose, CA Member Since: 06/12/10 [Latest Posts] | Post Date: 2/7/12 10:08 pm I don't know where you get it, but can you give some to me? 
3/5 Plastics: LBL, 3 Hernias Fixed, BL/BA, Rhinoplasty & Septum Fix. OMG!! |
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TX Member Since: 03/12/09 [Latest Posts] | Post Date: 2/8/12 2:08 am Great response.....I would not know what to do with it.
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Bowie, MD Member Since: 08/02/05 [Latest Posts] | Post Date: 2/8/12 9:49 am Well, apparently it can be purchased for the low, low price of overcoming a lifetime of obesity and 23K worth of plastics!! LOL! Do what you've always done and you'll get what you've always gotten!! |
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TX Member Since: 03/12/09 [Latest Posts] | Post Date: 2/8/12 2:07 am I think natural sex appeal is something people have...they just do. I can think of one woman in particular who when she walked into a room she just oozed with it. It was very interesting to me because I always tried to figure out what it was. She is only one example. Some women just naturally have it. On a side note...I feel so sorry for the guy's wife. It is a sad existence for any woman to be married to a man who is that type of womanizer. I'm certain they cannot go anywhere in public without him constantly scanning the environment. Guys like that always send back messages..."you are not enough." Maybe one day she'll realize she is worth more and deserves better than that.
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Bowie, MD Member Since: 08/02/05 [Latest Posts] | Post Date: 2/8/12 4:46 am It did make me very sad for her. I thought if he is that brazen in front of her, good Lord what must he do when she isn't around! I'm guessing that wedding ring falls right into his pocket and it's game on. It is the epitome of disrespectful. I dated a guy years ago that was a woman gawker right in front of me. I was heavy then. Broke my heart every time. Eventually we broke up, but it took a toll on my self-esteem for sure. I guess I was always the one envying the women (and quietly hating them for some unknown reason-probably that mouthy boyfriend of mine) that everyone stared at and surely never thought I'd be one. Thanks! Do what you've always done and you'll get what you've always gotten!! |
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 (03/01/11) Member Since: 12/12/11[Latest Posts] | Post Date: 2/8/12 7:07 am I think its confidence and your attitude. You have a great smile and you look fantastic. I imagine you looked the same way overweight. Even when I was overweight I tended to dress sexy (when I went out, not at work) and flirt. Just my personality. I'm generally happy, and even happier after a drink. Now that I have lost weight I feel that confidence tenfold, and working out has increased it - it makes me feel invinceable. I think that translates. Its a good, powerful feeling, and it sounds like you know your place with it - you are happily married and you state that. So as long as the people around you know it, you should feel good about yourself!!! Enjoy it.  |
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Bowie, MD Member Since: 08/02/05 [Latest Posts] | Post Date: 2/8/12 9:53 am Thank you. "Even happier after a drink." Boy do I know about that one!! LOL! I was always a big flirt when I was heavy, but I knew most people would never reciprocate so it felt "safe". I think I am still learning that the same flirty, fun demeanor may be taken very differently when you are in a different package. It does feel good to not be burdened with the pain of self conciousness and to finally be free from feeling uncomfortable in my own skin. Thanks again for the feedback! Do what you've always done and you'll get what you've always gotten!! |
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TX Member Since: 03/12/09 [Latest Posts] | Post Date: 2/8/12 10:37 am You have him pegged for sure....the kind of guy who takes his band off when he goes on business trips.
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 Member Since: 06/24/09 [Latest Posts] | Post Date: 2/8/12 7:12 am Bonus check is in the mail. |
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Bowie, MD Member Since: 08/02/05 [Latest Posts] | Post Date: 2/8/12 9:54 am You must be using the pony express because it sure is taking a long time for those checks to get here!! LOL!  Do what you've always done and you'll get what you've always gotten!! |
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Member Since: 06/24/09 [Latest Posts] | Post Date: 2/10/12 9:58 am Something I would happily buy, for myself if someone else didn't get half my income geez laweez.  |
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Bowie, MD Member Since: 08/02/05 [Latest Posts] | Post Date: 2/10/12 12:30 pm I don't know that purchasing it is an option, however, if it becomes an option, I know a few people who would like some so maybe you can get some sort of group groupie groupon discount! Oh, and 1/2 of nothing is still nothing! That's what she said!! Do what you've always done and you'll get what you've always gotten!! |
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Member Since: 06/24/09 [Latest Posts] | Post Date: 2/13/12 7:00 am I don't know if I can purchase anything now, still licking my wounds from the casino the other night. Oh, and 1/2 of nothing is still nothing! did you figure that out on your own or wha****er wet, sky blue does that help you out any champ. |
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Bowie, MD Member Since: 08/02/05 [Latest Posts] | Post Date: 2/13/12 6:37 pm Leave the licking to Bacchus--seems he knows how to get the job done. You are the mathmagician, not me, Mr. 81 million beat figure outer. Sky blue if no clouds. Water only wet if you touch it. Fire hot. Grog still not sure what use for. Champ better than loser... Do what you've always done and you'll get what you've always gotten!! |
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