Hi Kelle! The most common symptoms of PCOS are irregular periods and ovulation (or lack of them), increased body hair growth, head hair loss, unexplained weight gain, insulin resistance, skin tags...the list can go on. Try going to www.soulcysters.com
That last one has a "quiz" to check your probibility of PCOS. Your doctor can confirm PCOS with a blood test and ultrasound if necessary. Like you I have been off of bcps for years and have yet to get pregnant. You are definately not alone. Please let me know if you have any other questions!