Well my hospital went and did it.  They banned all visitors under the age of 18.   I know it's for the safety and health of the kids, but I want them to meet their baby  sister in the hospital.  : (   

I'm also totally freaking out about who is going to watch our kids if I go into labor and my parents are not here yet.   They live 4 hours away and I am due to give birth in winter.   I don't know what the weather will be like and we don't have a backup plan yet.    Honestly, we don't have anyone we could call at the drop of a hat.  


Edit:   Ladies, I am the LAST person to censor someones views or opinions.  This is an open forum and we are ALL entitled to say whatever the hell we want.   I have no qualms with people who are for a hospital banning visitors.   I get that it's done for the safety of the patients and for the other people coming in and out of the hospital.  I get that some people on this planet are stupid and don't know better about staying away from people in a hospital when they are sick.  A little common sense should tell a person if you are (or a child is) hacking and sneezing, then don't bring them around others to spread the wealth.   Keep them at home.   No one wants what they have.  

My issue is not the difference of opinion here.   My issue is that I posted a simple rant about how I am personally feeling and I essentially was told eh, so what.   You want to boast about how fantastic this new policy is, great.  What's the reasoning behind doing so in my rant?  The only reason I could come up with is to rub salt on it.  

This was a simple post to say how sad it made me feel and how freaking nervous I am that I have no one to turn to if I go into labor and my parents are not here yet.   This wasn't supposed to be a political debate on hospital policy.  

I have several nurses and Dr's in my family.  All of whom will agree with the hospital, but they wouldn't dare rub it in my face when I am upset about it.  

Julie that just stinks that the hospital institutes a rule like that! I think that it should exclude siblings. The baby is going to be exposed to everything they have to share the minute it goes home anyway. Pretty soon the mom and newborn are going to be quarantined and Dad isn't even going to be allowed in.

I hope that your parents make it there on time - can they come out a few days early "just in case"? I am fortunate to have 95% of my family within a 40 minute drive, my parents are 15 minutes away and I have an uncle 1/4 mile down the street.

Here's to hoping that your little girl comes when she is scheduled so all works out!

Liz

They probably could, but that just means I will go into labor a week before they are due to arrive and at 2 in the morning.   Oh and in a blizzard. 

I hate that it will effect you so negatively but I'm thrilled with the policy and I hope if my hospital hasn't already put it in place that they do before I have my baby.

I never planned on having my children see us at the hospital.  my little germ monsters can stay home.  When I had my RNY I was in for 6 days and they didn't visit then either.

life moves on and everyone can be together at home. imo.

WOW... You are thoughtless.

thoughtless?  no hon, I have plenty of thoughts and I'll restrain from expressing some of them now.

my son currently HAS H1N1.  so I know very well what others are dealing with when this thing comes around.  if that means that some kids don't see thier new baby siblings AT the hospital then I'm sorry that is how it is.

getting pissy about it with ME isn't going to change the policy at anyone else's hospital.  I don't want or need anyone's kids running the halls or even being NEAR the nursery when my newborn arrives.

if you have issues with that you may want to address your hospital and thier policy.

First please don't call me HUN... You don't know me and I don't consider you someone I would talk to on a regular basis...

I said thoughtless because you don't take into consideration the position Julie is in... You just open your mouth and think what you say is going to rule the roost... WHATEVER.

Sometimes if you have nothing good to say don't say anything at all.

whatever.

I did add that I felt bad that it was going to effect her negatively. what else can I do or say?  my mom was going to come up a week early to help me (*she lives 4 hours from here) but i've scheduled a repeat csection instead of trying for a vbac just to eliminate issues. I guess I'm lucky to be able to do that.

I take back the hon bit but really why did you feel the need to jump on me? its not my fault her hospital put this in place and I fee bad for her.  but again what can I do?  I support the decsions being made by facilities regarding the flu outbreak.  sorry if that makes me the wicked witch in ohio.

I don't sugar coat stuff to make folks feel better.  sometimes that sucks.  and trust me...I don't always respond to threads because I know my opinion will be pretty unpopular.  I'm ok with that. lol

I'm so glad that you are excited that my wishes will not be met.  *eye roll* 

Sorry that your son has swine flu, but this mass hysteria is ridiculous.   It's the FLU!   People get the flu day in and day out.  People go on, recover, and live their lives after the flu.   I get that it could potentially be fatal, but you know what, so could a hang nail. 

My hospital has a private room for me and there is no nursery for my child to be in.  She will be in my room at all times.   I even have the option to deliver her in my room. 

So am I supposed to just wrap her in a plastic bubble when we are released from the hospital?  Get real.  

I didn't realize that by supporting a hospital's policy that I was infringing on others.

for what its worth I meant what I sent in a pm.

feel free to block me or whatever.  I don't mind.

I don't push the mommy button because I can take it.   Trust me, I don't sugar coat anything either. 

You supporting your hospitals (and mine) policy doesn't infringe anything upon me.  You pointing out that you are excited that my hospital has instituted such a policy while I'm upset about it just makes you a ***** 

And yeah, common sense would have me keeping my kids home if they were sick and going to be running all over the damn hospital.  That's not the case.   Trust me, I'm not trying to intentionally get my kids sick with the swine flu, but I'm not locking my family in the house until the mass panic is over.  

It's a terrible ass kicking illness, but what does me being afraid of it accomplish?  Nothing. 

name calling really?

I never said I was happy you were in a bad position.  that isn't something i'd ever say.

I think there are too many hormones running around here.  maybe that is part of why I'm rarely bothering with this section any more.

call me what you want.  At least I never went there.

Well kudos to you for not saying what you are thinking.   You don't sugar coat anything and neither do I.  

And you think that I'm hormonal?  What the hell tipped you off?  Could it be that I'm pregnant?  Well color me shocked!  

And P.S.  I'm okay if you want to call me a *****  It wouldn't be the first time and I'm sure it's not going to be the last.  

not my style but thanks for the permission.

Get out of here and go to the R & R board where your kind of attitude is welcome! 

wtf?

R&R board is a ****fest and I stay clear of that.

I said one thing about supporting a policy that I hope my hospital has and I'm the bad guy??

whoa ladies.  you are toooo much. ha ha ha.

No no no I agree with you! I don't know why you are getting so much greif about your response! I'm pretty sure I replied to the previous poster - Sara S. but it appears like it may have went to you. I just think some ladies on here love to start drama for no reason and that makes the newbies a little standoffish. I see this kind of stuff on the R&R board not on here! I don't think you were being mean by your response what so ever! And I agree w/ what you said. I understand the policy but I also understand why people are upset by it.

-Ashlie

oh ok. sorry about that.

lol

I just figured it was to me since it all seemed to be.  thanks for letting me know.

I understand why so many are upset and I feel for them on that. I do.  I'm just glad I had already decided how my children will meet their sibling and it will be at home, always was going to be.  so this new policy will only benefit me from having unwanted or unneeded visitors and germies.

So if someone has an opinion, it can't be stated here? Only on R&R? That's nuts. I don't have a say on either side of this because truly, I agree with both and am not in the postion of either of these ladies having to give birth under these rules.

But opposing opinions shouldn't be "taboo". It's a public forum. With many people from all walks of life. So there is bound to be difference of opinions.

Wow is correct. Wow you would call someone thoughtless for their opinion.

To the OP, I feel very bad for you that you are stuck in such a terrible situation. I hope you can find a way to make everything work out for you and I hope the little one stays on schedule so your parents can make it there on time or you can find an alternate just-in-case plan.

As for the policy, I actually like it. I am not terrified of the H1N1 and I too believe that everyone is overreacting and the hysteria is overdone. But at the same time, that does not mean we should ignore simple precautionary tactics that could reduce exposure. I understand everyone wants siblings to meet in the hospital (I may not have my own child yet but my nephews are like my own) but I also understand the ban. Children are a breeding zone for illness (not that adults aren't because some definitely are) but kids just seem to be able to carry around more. They do not yet understand the importance of washing their hands frequently, covering every one of their coughs and sneezes, and even doing those things into their sleeves or a tissue rather than their hands. They just share things easier. At the same time, I think 18 is a little steep and should be more like 14-15.