Hi all,

I don't post on here must anymore because I am not preggo anymore and I spend the majority of my day on Facebook.  But I didn't want to post this over there because my mother in law is one of my friends and she would think I am crazy for this.

We are closing on a house next week and are moving the following Saturday.  Nothing has been packed or boxed in our current house we are renting, it's hard with an active toddler and a demanding 7 month old.  So, my hubby and I decided to send the kids to his parents house for a day or two so we could concentrate and get the entire house packed, cleaned up, etc.  They will be going Saturday and I will go either Sunday night or Monday morning to get them. 

The thing is, my in-laws live about 4 hours away.  I HATE thinking my kids are going to be that far from me.  I have cried about this a few times.  Am I crazy for sending them away?  They will be fine there, it's ME that is the problem.  As much as I complain about my kids driving me crazy, I will miss them and I hate, hate, hate thinking they will be so far from me.

My hubby and I are actually hoping to pack the majority of the house Saturday and maybe go to dinner or a movie that evening, then finish packing on Sunday and do some cleaning.

Am I crazy?!  I feel like a failure because I can't pack and care for them at the same time, it would take forever!

Sorry for rambling.  :o)

It's totally normal- 4 hours is a long way. However, I think it is a good plan. The last time we moved I had to arrange for daycare for my daughter- it was too much and she always wanted attention. It might be tough, but I think you'll be so busy with so much to do the time will fly by and you'll be picking them up before you know it. Plus, the time with hubby is so precious and a nice bonus too. Think about it this way. Your stress affects the way you parent. You'll be a better mommy for taking care of what needs to be taken care of, and the kids get to spend some extra time with grandma, which is always a plus! I know it's tough, and I wish you the best of luck!! 

Carrie  

Thanks Carrie.  I know we alot more done without the kids here.  Plus, I am really excited about moving.  :o)

I think you are feeling what any Mom would and that is normal. I agree that it would be so hard to pack with the kiddos and their care. I can barely get ready for work in the morning with Emad demanding all my attention if he is awake before I am ready. It will also give you a chance to pack and make sure you get all your to-do's done and also enjoy some alone time with hubby because the unpacking will probably be just as stressful. Hopefully it goes smoothly. I am sure they will be fine!

I didn't even think that working moms go through this every morning!  My hubby is happy to be kid-free because we are going to actually get to spend some time together if we get alot done during the day.

Thanks for your input.  :o)

OMG, I can't believe you would even consider packing/moving with the little ones in tow!  Can you say S~T~R~E~S~S?  I think you are very wise to have them stay at your IL's.  Kids can sense stress too, so even if you are calm and collected, the changes and disruption of having everything torn apart might be hard on them if they were there.

My parents just took all 3 kids for 2.5 days.  They live 2 hrs away.  It's the first time I've been away from Everett for more than an hour.  I had a hellish week and thought I looked forward to them being gone.  I cried before the car left our driveway.  Then I was so busy that I didn't have time to really think about it.  The kids survived and in their minds, it was just a blink in time.  I survived and felt rejuvenated and able to deal with all the kid-mom issues again.  Not to mention, the time with just hubby was VERY much overdue.  However, I would not recommend calling and talking to them on the phone.  That just made it worse for me and probably for them as well.

You certainly have a lot on your plate right now!  I hope things go smoothly.  FWIW, I think missing your kids and not wanting them gone are signs of what an awesome mom you are, not that you are weak or silly!

Hugs,

Thanks for your thoughts, I know it's the right thing to do but I feel bad that I can't be 'super mom'.  :o)  Dylan will be totally fine, he might fuss at bedtime but that's it.  Cassidy is going through a stage of 'I WANT MOMMY' so I am a little worried about her.  I know I will cry when they drive away (we are meeting 1/2 way since it's a 4 hour drive). 

I just want to pack this house and get to our new one, I hate this **** hole we live in.  We have 1000 sq. foot townhouse with 2 bedrooms for 2 adults, a toddler, an infant and a large lab.  We are buying a 1800 sq. townhouse with 4 bedrooms!  We are so happy to have found it.

I know we will be fine, I guess I just needed to know that other great moms do it too.  :o)

I speak from experience when I say you are doing the right thing.  Sure, it stings because those are your babies and you don't want to be away from them, but it will be so much easier to pack. 


We packed up and moved (and I don't know how the hell we did it because we had the kids the entire time) when the twins were 2 months old.  

It would have been a lot less stress had we been able to ship them off for a few days.   However, my parents did come up the day before we moved and helped us finish packing and they also helped us unpack in the new house. 

Now, we are going to be doing it all over again.  LOL  

You get to move with twin 1 year olds and be pregnant at the same time?  Wow, aren't you lucky?  LOL.  

My mom lives only 2 hours away, but she lives by herself.  I didn't want to impose my wild kids on her.  My in-laws can tag team my kids, plus their 19 year old son lives with them and Dylan and Cassidy has a 3 year old and a 2 year old cousin that live in town that my MIL baby-sits everyday so they will be very happy to see each other.  It's ME with the problem.  :o)  I can't let go!!  LOL

I can't wait to pack up this **** hole and move!  We have had so many  maintenance issues that go overlooked, it's been a headache to rent this townhouse.  The one we are buying was built in 2000 and the elderly man is selling it because his wife just died last year and he is moving into a senior apt. community.  It's a win-win scenario.  He gets out of  a mortgage and we get a house that is almost twice the size of where we are living now for like $60 more dollars a month.

:o)

Oh no.  LOL   We haven't sold our house yet.    We are putting it on the market because I hate everything about it.  

So I will have all 3 kids here by the time we move.   I'm thinking 6 months to a year (crossing my fingers that my house sells immediately). 

I guess this idea is foreign to me. I never have any stress about kids having to go to my moms, etc. However, we are in a unique situation where we literally use the "it takes a village" mentality in our families. We all take each others kids, ship them off for hours at a time or over night, when we need to do something or need some down time. It's just how we have always been.

Now I feel guitly that I don't feel guitly. Does that make any sense? LOL

Remember, they are in good hands. And it has NOTHING to do with what kind of parent you are. Get your packing done and enjoy a nice dinner with hubby. You deserve it!

I think it's great that you get to send your kids away occasionally.  Honestly.  I guess we probably would too just for a break but we don't live close to any family.  My mom lives 2 hours away and my in-laws live 4 hours away.  If I lived in town with either of them, I am sure my hubby and I would have our date nights at least once a month!  I do love my kids, but I sure could use a break.

Don't feel guilty!  I envy you.  We are going to get packing and throwing stuff out.  Whether my hubby wants to or not, he is throwing out his crap that is in boxes and just taking up space!  LOL  We will probably just fight all weekend.  :o)  Hopefully we will get alot done and get out to dinner or a movie.  Or to a bar and get drunk.  Just kidding!

:o)

I threw alot of crap out. We just moved 3 weeks ago. He has NO idea yet. ****il he wonders where his Nascar Trading cards from 1989 are at!) Bwah ha ha ha ha!