I hope you can feel my hugs over the internet. Sorry to hear about your experience. I firmly believe things happen for a reason, and in the end it all works out.
I have a suggestion – please go and speak to another Doctor or two to get their opinions. I have no idea who your Doctor is, and they are probably a very good one. However if you’ve been having these issues since August, and they are just NOW making their decision, I would be a little concerned. Now if you haven’t been making follow-up visits, then that’s a legitimate reason.
There are other options out there besides bypass. You may want to look into a different band (lap band); the sleeve (which is like the cross between a band and bypass); as about a BIB (some Doctors have trials concerning this),
Maybe what you’ve learned so far will help in your future. I know a person who had the band, lost weight, had complications, had the band removed and gained only 20 pounds of her lowest. It’s been over 2 years now, and she’s still doing fantastic.
Good luck, and know no matter what happens, I am here for you!!