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Have you ever heard of the book Fatso?? I read it years ago and it talked about how fat people should be accepted and I loved the idea. And I believe the woman who wrote it was one of the first fat acceptance/pro plus body size leaders in anti-sizeism. But I am the first to admit I judged people on being thin, or at least I used to. I used to think that thin people automatically hated me because I was fat and I hated them because I was so large and why couldn't they be? I would always feel eyes on me (if people even decided to acknowledge my existance by making eye contact - lots of people don't if you are large) but IMHO I think that you can and should be accepted for any choices you make.  I can see most fat people (and personally I hate that word. The only F word not allowed in my childs vocabulary is the word fat) - let me reword - I can see most obese people who are pro-plus size would be critcally harsh on those who decided to have WLS. I think that it is mainly ignorance for this attitude. I never expect or will work toward a size 0. I will never expect to wear my husbands T-shirt or fit into his jeans. I am just not going to be a incredible small person. And quite honestly I don't want to be really thin. I want some chunk on me. My husband met/dated/married me over 300 pounds so you can bet I did not do this because he wanted me to (except for the health aspect of course.)  I think that if you can't be accepted for any choices you make you need to re-evaluate the positive aspects any group is making on your life. I get encouragement here at OH. My family is a bunch of MO people who don't want to change their lives and I can't really associate with them right now because they react negatively to my weight loss. I am almost smaller then my oldest sister who has always been the lightest of us all. She is going to get awfully angry when I pass her weight. She probably won't want to talk about it. That is her loss. I would never throw it in her face but if she can't handle it that's her problem not mine. And I can't wait until I here "Well you had WLS..." Well ummmm yeah - I did it the way that I knew that it would work for me so I can be around for myself and my daughter and hubby! And you think I'm dumb? Hell no!  Sorry about my long post. I just think that if you can't be accepted fat or thin then that group has no room in your life. Just think of it this way - if you decided to leave this group would you think they would say behind your back "Well she had WLS and now is skinny and wants nothing to do with "fat" people!" If you think they would say that then I think you have your answer. Love ya sweetheart. Stay happy - WLS is the best thing I have ever done for my life. MY LIFE. No one elses.  

I agree 100%!  The sad part is I'm now allowed to keep my "fat girl" membership card.  Let me explain that comment.  I was standing in line at Target one day when two ladies behind me were joking about not trying on their clothes before they buy them.  They were both MO.  I've always been the kind of person that would talk to a wall if it would listen.  I talk to total strangers all the time.  So, being me, I turned and with a big smile on my face said something about how much difference there was inches wise in two pairs of pants both the same size and how much I wished there was a set rule on clothing sizes.  They looked at me like I had two heads and one of them said something about what would a skinny little thing like me know about bigger sizes.  They both turned away.  WHAT?  I'm not allowed to talk to MO people anymore now that I'm thin?  I've had similar things happen.  I've always been one to look you in the eye and smile as I walked past you.  99% of the time, I got a smile back.  Now, I've noticed that MO people DON'T smile back and they look away!  WTF?  At the gym, I'm friendly too.  And, I get dissed by the overweight people.  It's not fair!  I didn't want to give up my membership card.  I wanted to keep it!