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Hello Heather,

First off, this is your body! Secondly, this is your body!!

That being said and thought of first... What do you think? No family or friends can be you. They can either support you in what you would like for the betterment of you or you can find the supports you need else where. You are the best person to know what you want to do and what you feel or know you need. Sounds like you have the support of your doctor's already. That is sometimes a hard battle and much necessary one to be able to have the possibility of WLS.

You have to be the one to decide to do this for you. This is true for any person who feels any pressure to either not have the surgery or the persons that are being pushed to have the surgery.

Do your research, think about it (and it sounds like you have been thinking about it), and do what it is that you feel is right for you. If you have dieted and have not had the success with it... And for a number of years have not had success that can be tough to choke down. Be honest with yourself. Know that the WLS can make it easier in ways to lose the weight. It will still be a lot of work, but it can make it easier in ways. The long term keeping it off and finding what works for you will be what you will need to figure out with your new tool, if you go WLS. Everyone's bodies are different.

Do not allow any person to hold you back from what you beleive you need. I would think that people around you that care about you and love you truely would not want to see you in so much struggle. No one else can live your life! Go with what you feel is going to be for the betterment of yourself.

Lastly, this is your body!!

Hugs,
Sherrie

The reason that I canceled is because I am afraid on the unknown. I am the kind of person that has a very hard time making big decisions. One day I can't wait and another I am back to being afraid.

Betty, two weeks ago, I had my band removed and had RNY done. It is a completely different tool from the band and I've already lost almost 20 pounds. It works with your body in a different way. Geez, sometimes I want to jump through my computer and stuff sock into people's mouths.

Here is the bottom line for both you and Heather. You have to decide what's right for YOU. Screw what everyone else says. YOU are the one who will be living with whatever decision you make, not your friends or co-workers. Maybe it would be best to just not say anything else to anyone you know is against it. If they bring it up, it's very okay to say, "thank you for your opinion.". Then do whatever is right for you.

For anyone who thinks this surgery is the easy way out, they are very misinformed. It takes dedication and a lot of, hard work.

Heather, if you aren't already seeing a therapist, you might consider it. My feeling is your self esteem is very delicate so a therapist might be able to help you realize your worth. Ive been therapy continuously for the past 4 or so years and on and off many years prior to that. When I think that I may be wasting my time, all I have to do is reflect on how I was 20 years ago to see how far I've come. It makes me happy that I've stuck it out.

So for both of you, this is a great time to put yourselves first, value your opinions and start trusting yourselves.

Wishing you both the very best!

I would listen to your medical team.  For me, WLS means extending my life, and living a wonderful life where I can run and play with my grandkids.  I'm not a blob on the sofa anymore with Type 2 Diabetes, and a terrible need to stuff myself for comfort.  I felt that if I DIDN'T have the surgery, I would have been dead within five years from a stroke or heart attack. I'm off all of my meds!

That's my story, and I'm sticking to it.  Good luck to you