Okay, got it. So my first suggestion is to rinse your hair every day with lukewarm water, even if you don'****hen apply a bit of light conditioner and rinse it out. Then try blotting and squeezing the water out with a t shirt instead of a towel. This helps to keep your hair shaft from getting roughed up.
After that, detangle it with a wide toothed comb and use a spray leave in conditioner. Keep it away from your roots so they don't get greasy. Then do your best to not touch your hair. As another poster said, it will cause more frizz.
Frizz happens due to lack of moisture, so try a deep conditioner once a week. If you don't want to buy one, you can always mash an avocado with a little honey and slather it on and then rinse it out after 20 or so minutes. Try to use lukewarm instead of ho****er to keep your hair shaft smooth.
Since you have lighter hair, you can also try a rinse with chamomile tea (brew and cool) for extra shine. You might also want to try a sulfate free shampoo. Sulfates can be very drying to your hair.