Very clear, I like what you say.
Perhaps a different flip of the coin, the thought that came to my mind when I read your subject line (perhaps not on topic to your point though) is that a lot of what we do is about MAKING CHOICES
If you don't LIKE your protein and don't take it, that's a choice. (However, some few simply can't keep it down, that's NOT a choice)
If you don't WANT to be thirsty for half an hour after eating, and you CHOOSE to drink with your meals, that's a choice.
Sometimes, I see threads where individuals KNOW what they should do, and they don't do it, and they make it sound like it is NOT a choice. Like somehow "not liking" the flavor of the vitamins makes it okay not to take them, or that "I hate being thirsty" is a good enough reason not to follow the drinking with meals, or "I know that potatos and rice and bread and pasta are slider foods and might make me fat, but when I eat dense protein I'm full forever" ... like choosing easy is the only choice.
CHOICE.... i really feel that word has an enormous power. In our lives we make zilllions of choices. Sometimes we make them over and over and over again, and for some of us that was an integral part of why we got obese. We must exercise the power of choice. if we CHOOSE to break the rules and we KNOW it will result in failure if we never choose differently, we need to OWN that failure. If we CHOOSE to make the right choice, and we make that choice consistently, we also OWN that success.
I choose to follow my carb/sugar guidelines 95% or more of the time. Sometimes I choose not to. I understand that if I don't follow the guidelines, I might dump and I might have RH and I might be faced with both. I own my decision, and I also own the power of getting back on plan, or making one deviation into my new reality. For me it is easy to keep my carb guidelines, but I'm not absolute about it. I can choose to go off plan from time to time, and if I do it with care and forethought, I might even avoid the complications likely to ensue. The important thing is to get back on task.
Being responsible for your own actions and reactions to the world around you is one of the most empowering things in this world. I hold the power, and I do not yield it up to others, or to my excuses (most of the time, I am only human).... but if I own all my actions, I feel stronger in choosing the actions that will work best for me most of the time, and sometimes it's down to me that I choose to go off the rails.
when I lost my mum, it threw me badly. I realized that as much as I normally choose to be a happy, bright, sunny, quirky and yeah, kind and gentle person.... I also had to realize that it is sometimes important to choose to give in to my dark feelings, and give them some temporary power. So long as I don't transfer my "power of attorney" (my responsibility for my own actions) permanently over to my sadness, my desire for sweets, my passion for any one thing... as long as I retain the ultimate authority and don't give it away to others "He caused me to feel ..." or "A feeling of thirs made me..." or the ubiquitous "THEY make me..."
And this is probably WAY off your topic Kelly, but I'm sort of in a rambly mood. As always I love the way you put things, your take on things is always valuable to me.
~Lady Lithia~ 200 lbs lost!
March 9, 2011 - Coccygectomy!
I chased my dreams, and my dreams, they caught me!