Hi everyone.  Well, I had quite a journey of escape over the past weekend to get off of Nantucket island and away once and for all from my EX fiance.  What I thought was my soulmate was simply a man using a woman, demeaning her in every way, taking control of everything including holding all the debit cards, phones, finances, even my income tax return.  we went to nantucket to build a life together, so i thought, but it was really so he could get me islolated away from everyone and everything.  He even limited and monitored my computer usage and we 'shared' a cell phone that he never let me talk on.  The only horrible thing he didin't do to me wa**** me with his fists but mental, emotional, and verbal torture i think may be worse (my exhusband was the same way as this guy).  I am safe with a realtive now and today I start an intensive 5 day a week outpatient mental health program to help me get over this.  It is local and from 9-3 every day.  The healing starts now.  

I am back though and have a plan!!! I got laid off from my job in nantucket last monday and will be able to collect unemployment. I am taking this opportunity to go back to college (once I'm more stable) and begin my dream of becoming a nurse. I have a lot of old baggage that hasn't been completely worked out yet either, stemming back from being physically and verbally abused by an alcholic father and now its time to break the chain of abuse.  I have my two sister kitties that I took with me on the journey home.  

Please pray for me because I know this is not going to be easy.  I will emerge stronger and healthier than ever though its just going to take some time.

Mallisa

Hugs & prayers being sent to you as you begin you journey of healing.

Praying for your health, safety and success!!!

Oh my goodness!! Thank god you left, i know how hard it must have been to leave.... BUT you have to be a very strong woman to do this, i may not know you but i am very proud of you and wish you all the best with your treatment and your new life. Take care and enjoy your freedom!

Sue

Mallisa, glad you got away from the situation.  Wishing you only the best (((((Mal)))))

Best of luck on your new ventures, and glad to hear you're taking care of yourself. 

Praying for you as you begin to heal. I'm glad you are out and getting the help you need to break thithisthis cycle. You are a beautiful compassionate strong woman and deserve so much better! Glad you got the kitties too. Stay strong!

I'm so sorry you have had to go through this Mal. It sounds like you are on the right path and getting the help that you need. I wish you all the best!

Martha 

Sorry you had to go through this and glad you escaped.  One piece of advice from my therapist, you need therapy to recognize and work through your issues or will will choose the same sort of person again.  When you are done with your program continue seeing someone till you can truly recognize that personality.  Good luck and much success .

lyn

((((((((((((((((((MALLISA))))))))))))))))) I am so glad that you are out of that bad situation .... MY BEAUTIFUL SISTA ... DO NOT GO BACK!!!.... keep on looking forward and take advantage of therapy and all else that is available to you... Love YOU first ... and please do not think I am preaching to you ... I speak from experience .... I was one of those who stayed a day too long and almost paid with my life... RUN! the future is yours ... you are young, strong and beautiful and would make an awesome Nightingale ... You will be in my thoughts and prayers .... Feel free to PM me if you would like to talk ... I am your sister on the journey..... CHIN UP ... keep your feet on solid ground and do not go back .... LOVE YA!!!

Praying for you today Honey! You hold onto that dream and don't give up! I know it was hard, but you did the right thing. I left an abusive husband once, I know how practically impossible it is to get away. I left him with nothing, not even a dollar in my pocket. I went back home to my parents and went to nursing school and turned my life around. You can do it too!

God bless you and keep you

Good for you for getting out and for having a plan. Do not fall into the "victim" mentality. Dust yourself and move on from here. You are a strong woman and can do this!!

We're here for you. I am sending good thoughts your way. Take care and keep us posted.

Mal,

You are so strong to get away from that situation.  It's sometimes very difficult for women who've been abused to escape and it does take a lot of courage.  I agree, the verbal/emotional abuse can sometimes be more painful than the physical, and it for sure does a number on your mind.  As I read your story, I was struck by the pattern of your life that is similar to mine - abusive alcoholic father, abusive first husband, and again abuse in another relationship.  It seems history repeats itself, until we finally figure out that we really are worthy of much much more.  I've finally gotten to the point where I'd rather stay home with a good book and my cats than waste time on someone who doesn't respect me and treat me well.

My thoughts and prayers are headed your way. You sound like you've definitely worked out a plan, and I wish you much success with it.  Please keep us up to date on how you are doing.

Kathy