Personality change after gastric bypas

on 3/29/13 12:59 pm

Has anyone had a problem of people saying your personality has changed after gastric bypass?? My mother in law says my personality has changed for the worst. I don't see that I'm doing anything different except I'm happier and I don't want to be negative about anything. Feel more self confident too.

any ideas on this subject???

on 3/29/13 1:05 pm - Jenison, MI

I'm struggling with my relationship with my best friend of 5 or 6 years. I may be changing a little, but like you, I am much more confident, happy, and positive! 

Sara O.
on 3/29/13 1:14 pm - NC
RNY on 03/12/12 with

My family thinks I've changed for the better. I'm happier, healthier, confident, and I actually like the way I look for the first time in my life. Its all positive. I may joke that I am vain but no one really thinks so. Your mother-in-law may be experiencing what a lot of families do: they see you change and are no longer the big person and no longer fill the role they're used to you filling. Its her reaction to change and not everyone takes change well. I would ignore her comments and just keep doing what you're doing. Not everyone is going to cheer you on during this journey but its important that you remember that you did this for you and not them. I wish you the best of luck.



on 3/29/13 3:17 pm - Morris, IL
RNY on 06/04/12

I'm sure some think mine has. I feel the only thing that has changed is I'm more confident and happy like yourself. But I'm sure to those who wanted me in the role I was in to stay there I'm changing for the worse. I honestly can say I no longer care what they think about me I'm sure that bothers them too and may come off as a personality change but personally I refuse to ever be a doormat again!

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5' 3" - HW: 244 SW:234  GW:120 LW: 107 CW:110 Made goal 3/16/13!    

Christy R.
on 3/29/13 3:26 pm - AK

I see that you have made it to your goal weight.  Congrats!

Age: 36, Height: 5' 5", Surgery Weight: 390, RNY Surgery Date 4/24/12 


Christy R.
on 3/29/13 3:24 pm - AK

I too have heard this and from my husband.  He says that I have changed for the worse and that I'm mean.  Thats crazy. I too am happier now than I have ever been.  Its almost like he is looking for things to be wrong.  

Even with all the relationship issues this caused I still say it was the best decision I ever made for me! 

Age: 36, Height: 5' 5", Surgery Weight: 390, RNY Surgery Date 4/24/12 


Michelle W.
on 3/29/13 10:15 pm
RNY on 03/13/13

I'll admit this is something I fear from my husband as well. But I genuinely agree with most of you: our friends and family have placed us in a niche in their life with a role to play. Whether that role is the friend they can always count on to go to Denny's at 2am (this was me once), the fat girl who always makes them feel better when shopping for clothes (also me), or the wife that doesn't have the energy to travel around the country and drag her husband out of the house (yup!). I've decided that I'm going to focus on me, keep making new friends, and if my lifestyle change makes them uncomfortable then so be it.

Mo Diggity
on 3/29/13 5:01 pm - poughkeepsie, NY
RNY on 07/03/13

Maybe you're more confident now & she is threatened by it ??

Maureen Tired of Living my Life in the Dark

on 3/29/13 9:22 pm - Ridgewood, NJ
It sounds like a touch of jealousy to me?!
brenda D.
on 3/29/13 9:49 pm - OK

I think most of our families and friends resentful for us fighting to get out of our fat bodies cause we Will No Longer Be Doormats. And they just think we were gonna be like that forever.  Most weightloss surgery does cause seperation or divorce, the mood swings are horriable I have them now I can only imagine after I get my sleeve. But my hubby is very scared that I will leave him, and most spouses are. They marry us at a certain weight and expect us to be like that always

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