ObesityHelp

I am in a somewhat similar situation pre surgery. My FB page contains probably 50-75 trainers from my gym and fellow work out buddies who all supported me in my 80 lbs loss. They have patted me on the back and basically yelled at me on days I didn't go to the gym. As my weight creeped back on it was ok what is your diet like your in the gym enough you need to work on your diet let's get someone to help you with that. I feel like a failure in admitting I am having the surgery. I told a few close friends but I wonder too do I put up body shots on FB after? HELL YEA! Do I say anything before? NO WAY I am to scared. But I feel that I am taking this drastic step and this surgery is a part of me. I will have my insides redone and I will be on the way to a new healthier self. People can judge me and say I did it the wrong way or that I took the easy way out. But I will have a answer for that.

I don't think you are selling yourself out. I think that you are selling yourself short if you don't enjoy the journey and share it with your friends and family on FB. People that truely love you might not agree but they will love you heavy skinny but most of all they will be happy you are healthy. I might not put body shots up until I am at a mini goal along the way....no surgery day pics here LOL!
Hugs it is a personal decision but I think that you can do it....save it for memories down the road I love the new timeline being able to look back at stuff!
Michelle

I think you're absolutely right, Amy! I appreciate that my family knows what my limits used to be, but like everyone has said... if I feel good and I'm giving my body what it needs to push this hard and I'm pain and injury free.. I'm going for it!

Keep up the good work to you too! :)

Yay! Welcome to the otherside!! Im glad to hear your home and doing well, keep walking, it helps the gas!

Thinking of you as you go through your surgery today.

You're only 9 months out. Your hormones are still going crazy from the weight loss. I remember that time well. That plus being on birth control (I used to be on depo shots) made me feel like I was going insane. I never sought help. Looking back, maybe I should have. I got off birth control and as my weight loss slowed down, I felt much better. I just kept telling myself "this too shall pass".

If you think you need to see a therapist, then do so.

Sarina that was a great sentence. I keep tossing it around if I should go to one not for my weight just my marriage and life in general....I keep thinking about that dang co pay but you are right it is the best gift you can give yourself! Eboni I think you should do it if you are wondering if you should go why not go and see how you like it. Do you feel better walking out of the office etc.
Good Luck,
Michelle

For me this was a decision that was very personal for me and in the months leading up to surgery I told a very limited number of people. I simply did not want to hear the comments about it because we all know that everyone seems to "know someone whe had a horror story," but since I had surger on Tuesday the 22nd I am finding now it doesn't bother me to tell people, I figure it is done and I am feeling pretty good since I just had major surgery (RNY as well as gall bladder removal)...it seems to me that people don't react as adversly and I felt they would react prior to surgery...anyway that was my reasoning for keeping it quiet beforehand.

I agree what is your NUT saying? Have you spoken to him or her about maybe coming in and doing a food menu plan that you can work with? Also working out how is that going? 2-3 lbs in 24 days would drive in insane too. I would probably be crying at my Drs office doors every am telling him something is wrong or he didn't do the surgery something crazy and off the wall because I would be nuts. But I am glad you came here to vent so I suggest this and in this order for you today.

1. THROW OUT THE SCALE....or give it to a neighbor tell them you will ask for it back in a month and not to give it to you sooner!
2. Find a pair of pants that are tight on you can get up but are tight. Every Friday try them on again and see how your size might be changing vs the scale not moving....trust me it happens.
3. Call your NUT and ask to be seen or if you can email over what you are eating and see if they can come up with a menu food plan for you for the next month. Tell them you need help with this. They are here to help.
4. Go for a walk go as far as you can and clear your head. You had this surgery I haven't heard of anyone having the surgery and only losing 2-3 lbs so it is going to come off. This isn't a race and we didn't get morbidly obese overnight. If it takes time coming off and you can't do anything else about it and you are just a slow loser wouldn't it be more fun to just enjoy the ride vs. being sad and upset daily?

I hope you can enjoy the ride and I look forward to your I hit goal post! I know you can do it!

I think a therapist is the best gift any person can give themselves :)