Hi all:  I am so thankful for this site, and all your prayers that brought me through such a rough time in my life during the month of July.  I was definately challenged, and prior to surgery would have eaten my way through all the stress.  Things are getting much better, still a little rough but I see a big light at the end of the tunnel, and I am working my way through.  I am finally feeling stronger, and soooooo happy with my decision on this surgery.    I am walking more, and definately not feeling so depressed.  I actually feel a bit more normal.  I sometimes have to remind myself, oh yeah, I did have surgery.  My first week, I was ready to return the surgery like I would have returned a top I didn't like.  Oh my, it was tough.  Yes, we have to remind ourselves this was a major change in our life, and time is needed to accept the change, heal and be mindful of what the future will hold.  I am so excited about my weight loss, I am in my 5th month already, can't even believe it.  I love that I can sit in a chair, and not be eating the chair with my a....!        I can cross my legs, and sit like a lady!!    

I again, just wanted to say Thank You from the bottom of my heart with all your prayers and suggestions last month, it really helped me a lot.  We are still working on a suit toward my husband's former employer and that will be a process.  He found another job within the week, and I have been promoted since, so good things come out of bad that is for sure!

 Sorry to all.....I did not mean to post something that would be against the rules.. Did not intend to do something against the rules....please forgive me!  I really enjoy this site!!  I was just giving an update, and looking for support...I am working on all the suggestions tomorrow!  Thank you for your support!!

 I AM FEELING A BIT LESS ANXIOUS THIS MORNING.  AFTER SLEEPING SOME OF IT OFF, I AM JUST SO NERVOUS ABOUT OUR RENT.  THAT IS THE MOST IMPORTANT TO ME RIGHT NOW.  THANK YOU TO EVERYONE WHO IS GIVING ME ADVICE, I REALLY APPRECIATE IT.  IT IS SO NICE TO BE ABLE TO REACH OUT HERE AND GET SUPPORT.  I LOVE IT!  THIS WHOLE ISSUE REALLY MADE ME REALIZE HOW DEPENDENT ON FOOD I HAD BEEN IN THE PAST, DEALING WITH STRESS OR DEPRESSION.  WE JUST DON'T DESERVE THIS.  MY KIDS DO NOT DESERVE THIS.  WE CAN'T AFFORD TO MOVE, NOR WANT TO MOVE.  I REALLY HOPE WE CAN GET THIS WORKED OUT.  THANK YOU FOR YOUR PRAYERS, THAT IS COMFORTING.  WHEN THIS IS NOT OF YOUR OWN DOING, ITS JUST REALLY HARD TO GET BACK IN CONTROL.  I AM PRAYING FOR PATIENCE AND GRACE.

 WILL DO!  THANKS FOR THE INPUT.  I AM JUST SO OVERWHELMED BY THIS I CAN'T THINK STRAIGHT.  WE JUST CAN'T AFFORD THIS AT ALL!

A HOT BATH AND A BOTTLE OF WINE WOULD BE GOOD, BUT I DON'T HAVE A GARDEN TUB, I HATE OUR LITTLE BATH TUB, AND I CAN'T HAVE ALCOHOL YET!    I WILL GO FOR A WALK SOON, AS SOON AS IT COOLS DOWN A BIT.  THIS COMPANY LEFT MY HUSBAND HIGH AND DRY, HE DID NOT EVEN HAVE $ ON THEIR GAS CARD TO GET HOME, THAT IS ALSO HOW I FOUND OUT THEY HAVE NO $.  NOT ANSWERING OUR PHONE CALLS, EMAILS OR TEXT MESSAGES.  TALKING TO 2 OTHER DRIVERS, IN 2 OTHER STATES, THEY HAVE NOT BEEN PAID EITHER.  RENT WAS DUE 2 WEEKS AGO, AND THAT WAS TO PAY THE RENT.  OUR LANDLORD HAS BEEN ASKING ME DAILY WHEN IS IT COMING, AND I CAN'T ANSWER THE QUESTION.  IT SEEMS LIKE YOU HAVE TO BE LIVING UNDER A BRIDGE BEFORE YOU CAN GET ASSISTANCE WITH THE STATE.  IT'S HORRIBLE.

 OKAY, SO I AM HAVING A VERY HARD TIME HERE TODAY, AND JUST WANT TO EAT, EAT, EAT!  I AM SO STRESSED OUT OVER THIS WHOLE SITUATION, I CAN'T EVEN THINK STRAIGHT.  MY HUSBAND HAS BEEN WORKING FOR A COMPANY NOW 3 WEEKS, AND WE WERE TO BE PAID YESTERDAY, COME TO FIND OUT, THEY HAVE NO $, AND THERE IS NO PAYROLL.  THAT IS OUR RENT AND GAS $.  OMG, I WANT A BOWL OF PASTA RIGHT NOW.   I AM AT A COMPLETE LOSS RIGHT NOW.  THIS WHOLE ECONOMY HAS BEEN A HUGE IMPACT ON OUR FAMILY, AND I NOW REALIZE HOW MUCH I DEPENDED ON FOOD TO GET ME THRU THE TOUGH TIMES.  I AM SO THANKFUL FOR THIS SURGERY, ITS KEEPING ME FROM EATING WHAT I SHOULD NOT BE EATING, ITS JUST I AM DEPRESSED ABOUT IT, NOT BEING ABLE TO DROWN MY SORROWS IN A BOWL OF PASTA.  WHO CAN LIVE WITH THEMSELVES IN HIRING EMPLOYEES, AND THEN NOT PAYING THEM????????  UGH!!!!

 Not sure if these are in your area, but I buy my syrups from Cash-n-Carry or United Grocer's.  It's a market that is kinda of like Costco, but more for restaurants, large quanities of food items, but in a small area of store.

 Thank you for your post, I have often passed by the Enchilada's at Costco, and almost buy them, but then pass.  I can eat enchilada's but home cooked, and only about 1/4 of it.  I will definetly watch  more of what I have been eating...this is certainly a wake up call for me for sure.

 This may sound stupid, but I am wondering if Egg Drop Soup is the same as Egg Flower Soup.  I love Egg Flower Soup!

 You know I guess I thought dumping was only when you had to go to the bathroom, not actually vomit with foamies ect...so when you feel nausiated that is dumping?  I don't really look at all the nutrional facts all the time with what I eat, because I am a nibbler, if I get a piece of dessert, it's like 2 bites and I am satisfied.  My problem was always carbs, pasta, and bread.  I did not even think about the sugars in this dish.  At least now I know.  I have made a home the crab puffs w/cream cheese and dipped into hot chili sauce, and I ate 2 of those and was fine.  I had 3 bites of this lunch, and I am feeling awful now.

 You know this was a question...post...I did about a month ago.  I felt guilty not telling ALL of my family...but it was conveyed to me in everyone else's post....it's okay to not want to tell everyone....I agree that it is no one else's business.  For those that are pushy, I love the idea of being honest in that you are just eating 6 small meals a day...watching your sugar intake...no diet soda's ect...  It's true most people tend to back off, and will be proud of you that you can do it.  Who cares that you have a tool they may not have in helping loose the weight.  It was your decision, and a very private decision, and NOT an easy road to take, it's a very brave decision, and healthy decision.

I did not tell my mom to avoid judgement.  She was not around when I had surgery, and came home from Arizona after I was 6 weeks post op.  She did notice, and has noticed since, more weight coming off.  Her 1st comment....'You didn't have that surgery did you"?  It just confirmed for me, I was very thankful to keep it to myself.  I am not lying about it, I did have surgery, but for a medical reason I need to keep to myself.  That is okay, and I am now well with that decision.

I am finding that life is becoming back to normal...eating out is a bit of a transition...I usually share with my husband now.  I ask for a child portion if I am with him, if I am with people that don't know, I just take home left overs, and say I drank a lot of water prior to dinner to help fill me up!!   Good Luck with you surgery!!  Take it slow!!

 Wow, that is a scary situation....vomitting is not fun no matter how it comes....I hate it.  I have had issues with foamies after eating a few bites that did not agree with me....I will then just stopp eating and about 1/2 hr later feel better....as far as toast.....I am only 3 months, and I can eat a 1/4 toasted sandwich, but I need to dip it into dressing for some added softness.....I had a grilled chicken sandwich tonight with baked french fries and used dipping sauce and it worked great