It sounds like you mother needs protein, calcium, B12, iron and  another multivitamin at least.  Has she been back to her surgeon since her surgery?  Has she had her labs done recently?  That may be the place to start.  Encourage her to get a check up.  Maybe buy her some protein  powder or Greek yogurt to get her started.  Also, some exercise might help her muscle tone.  Maybe you two can join a gym together or at least walk together regularly.

You sound like a good, caring daughter and hopefully she will listen to you, or at least her doctor.

I don't know of any 2 scales that weigh the same so I would go with the scale at home.  It may be different or even inaccurate but it should tell you whether you have lost weight or not.  But you may be better off staying off it completely, at least for the first few weeks when you may find that there is a gain from the fluids you get at the hospital.  If you can hold off weighing yourself except weekly or even monthly you will be much happier with what you see.  If not then remind yourself that the number you see is for information only and not a personal reflection of your worth as a person then you may be able to get away with weighing more often.

You will probably be getting weighed at the doctor's office, too.  What I did was weigh myself immediately before I went, in the same clothes as I would be wearing and then I could compare weights on the different scales.  Again, the number is only for information purposes and that will help you gauge your progress and know what is working or what you may need to change, it is not to be used to make yourself feel worthless or discouraged.  It takes a while to divorce yourself emotionally from the number you see but it can be done.  I have weighed myself pretty much daily since my surgery 2 1/2 years ago and I use the information, especially now that I am learning maintenance.  I have no way of knowing what my body needs to live on so by keeping track of what I eat and what I weigh I can learn how my body works and how much fuel it needs.  

I second the taco casserole.  I still eat this several times a week.  In fact, I need to whip up a triple batch to freeze to keep handy.

Not dumping.  My attitude is if you have to ask if you dumped you probably didn't.  

How far out are you.  I would definitely give your surgeon a call and at least let him know about what happened.

Traditionally revisions are said to have slower weight loss then first time people having WLS but I was a revision from a very malabsorptive procedure.  I had the revision to reduce the malabsorption and had my sleeve revised to a RNY pouch.  I fully expected to lose slowly, if at all.  In fact, my surgeon cautioned me several times that I may not lose any weight.  At that point the goal was to stop the side effects and the weight gain.  I was very surprised to find myself losing weight faster then even my first WLS which just shows that we are all individual and we can't predict what our rate of loss will be.

I just plan in a late snack.  Sometimes I don't eat it, sometimes I do, but if I do it's no big deal.

I just had all of my teeth pulled.  I am sure some of them could have been saved.  Two different dentists didn't want to pull my lowers but I was in constant pain and no one could find the cause.  My thinking may have been skewed but here is what I was looking at.  

1. It was agreed that my upper teeth had to go.  If I had kept some on the bottom I would have needed a partial and the color of that would have to match the remaining teeth, and of course the upper would have to match that.  My teeth were badly discolored and could not be whitened.  I was told it was like a scar or tattoo type staining.

2. If having the partial didn't resolve the pain then I would then have to have the remaining bottom teeth  pulled and a new lower made.  Plus the upper would have to be redone to match the lower.

It was just more cost effective to get it all done at the same time.  A partial would have actually cost more then a full set of dentures.  And then I would still have to have a full set made after paying for the partial if my problems weren't resolved.  Plus more office visits equals more cost.

I spent the last year trying to save my teeth.  Because of cost I couldn't do a lot but I had one tooth that was filled a few times but really needed a root canal, which I couldn't afford.  I just gave up and when I was able to get dental insurance I just went for it.  I am not sorry.  Of course not only is my dental pain gone but the severe headaches and neck pain that has plagued me for the last year are gone too.  That was what ultimately made me go for it.  After many, many tests and treatments the only thing that wasn't ruled out was dental issues.  I was fairly certain that my teeth were the cause of my pain and I was right.  I haven't had a headache since I had my teeth pulled.  After the pain from the extractions was over I haven't had to take a pain killer since, not even a Tylenol and I was taking too many of those and with high liver enzymes it wasn't a good thing.  This is the longest I have gone without taking medicine for the pain in a year.  That is worth all the pain.

As an aside, some of my teeth were in really bad shape and required a lot of effort to be removed.  One, which happened to be the site of the worse pain, had the root fused to the bone and it was a very difficult extraction.  I think that was the cause of all the pain in my lower teeth.  When I saw my teeth after the extractions they were awful, brown and yellow and just disgusting.  I can't tell you how glad I am rid of them.

What I am trying to say is that there is a lot that goes into the decision to have teeth pulled, even healthy teeth, and money is a big one.  One of my friends just put in over $9,000.00 to have her teeth fixed.  I just don't have that kind of money.  I haven't had dental insurance in years and it was a hardship to see a dentist, which of course contributed to my problems.  When a tooth got painful I would see a dentist and of course by then only a root canal could help and those are ridiculous in cost so I would have it pulled.  About half my teeth were gone anyway so know I have whiter looking teeth and no gaps that made me look like a hillbilly (no offense to any hillbillies).  Plus I couldn't chew well and I worried about the affect that would have with my surgery.  

Dental work is very expensive and many people are having to make hard decisions based on cost rather then the best treatment for them.

Awesome!  Problem solved.

You look great! Congratulations on a year!

What's worse then spending a lot of money on clothes is spending a lot of money on clothes that you won't be able to wear soon.  Goodwill (and other thrift stores and consignment shops) are your friend.  While you may be able to sell some of the things you are buying most likely you are just going to make some other person very happy to have all your hand me downs.

All I know is that I have heard of many people who had WLS that developed mysterious pains in the area you are describing, including me.  Nothing has been found on my tests and since I don't have it all the time I haven't really pursued it but those that have usually wound up with an exploratory surgery and most seemed to have a lot of scar tissue and adhesions, which don't really show up on tests.  I tend to think that is my problem, too, since I have had so many surgeries.

I would insist on an exploratory surgery if nothing shows up on the testing.

I would forget to eat all the time if I didn't plan it out.  I keep things with me if I'm going to be out and basically I eat by the clock.  If I only ate when I was hungry I may not eat all day.  I've had times where I've gotten very busy and distracted and I realize I haven't eaten all day.

It's 2 1/2 years for me and I'm not complaining.  It is easier obviously to eat healthier when you aren't hungry all the time.

Also, you don't need to be in love with what you are eating.  I have times where nothings sounds good.  I just make the best choices from what's available to me.  I often cook in batches so I have a lot of frozen dinners so I don't have to cook if I don't feel like it.  I don't really get excited much by food anymore.  Same thing for me with the protein drinks.  I really wouldn't be upset if I never had to drink another one but so far I am not able to get close to my goal of at least 100 grams of protein a day with just food alone.  I have at least one or more a day and keep a can with me when I'm going to be out so I can at least have that if nothing else is available.