Topic: RE: Partners Addiction
I am so lost and not sure what to do. A few weeks ago I discovered that my fiance had been binge drinking vodka to the point of passing out. He was hiding the bottles in his bathroom downstairs. When I finally figiured it out I confronted him and asked him why he was hiding and drinking so much alcohol. He told me he had no reason for it. I told him him if that was the case I wasn't comfortable with him drinking like that and wanted him to stop. He promised he wouldn't do it again. Next weekend I go downstairs to do some laundry and he is acting goofy and I ask him what he is drinking and he tells me water. I pick up the glass and smell it and it is vodka. I go pour it out and ask him where he hid the bottle and it is in a new hiding place in the bathroom and I make him pour it out.
The next morning when he is totally sober I had a conversation with him and told him if he had a drinking problem I would support him if he went to treatment, but if he didn't and continued to drink we were done. He swore to me he didn't need to seek treatment and he didn't have to drink and it was a stupid mistake and he wouldn't do it again. I firmly told him that if it happened again we were over and he would be moving out. I asked him if he understood and he said yes.
Last night I am awoken at midnight by a loud crash in my bathroom and I have no idea what the heck is going on and I yell out to him if he dropped something and he said yes. This morning I woke up and the towel rack was completely torn off the wall. So I went downstairs to his bathroom and started looking and guess what I found. One empty bottle of whiskey and another half empty bottle of one hidden behind the toilet.
I am at a total loss what to do. I feel like I have given him chance and chance again and he just keeps doing it. Obviously, he has a problem but refuses to get help. If he would get treatment I would let him stay, but I feel like I can't trust him at all anymore and I am just heartbroken over the whole thing. If I keep giving him more chance I know he will just keep drinking and quite honestly it is no good for my mental well being.
Sorry this is so long...thanks for taking the time for reading...