I just HAVE to answer this even tho it is weeks old and hopefully you will receive it.
First of all, I am here on the spouse forum cause I wanted my hubby to maybe read some to help him learn what I will soon be going thru and how maybe to handle his own thougts.
I will be having surgery very soon.
My hub and I have been married 42 yrs and like you, we've have seen each other thin and obese and all the inbetween. We are both obese. We have been eating buddies for all these yrs.
It's our fav thing to do!!!! That's pretty bad eh? Our lives will be drastically changing very soon due to my surgery. Surgery may be in his future also but that's yet to be determined.
I also 10 yrs ago lost my breasts to cancer. I am now a survivor but I hate looking at myself in the mirror still. My body is not beautiful that is for sure. Has it changed his love for me?
I need to point out to you that first of all, by the worlds standard or should I say medical standards you are considered obese. That's just the stastistics At only 40 lbs overweight you are still looking good. Sure, you could stand to lose some, and you no doubt will. Unless you are going to sneak foods to eat that he cannot, you will be eating similar things, correct? The weight is going to come off you. It is not a race! Besides, men always lose weight faster.
I'd say, take a deep breath, relax, and enjoy the ride. You will both be eating healthy and getting healthier together. Don't be so worried about it.
I don't consider you a lunatic! You're just scared. Everything will be ok.
My hub and I will not be eating buddies any longer. We'll have to find other enjoyment, right?
You take good care of yourself. Now I need to go back to the forum I should be on.