That's very rude of him!! Sounds like he's feeling jealous, insecure & hostile with his words. I get it. Imagine if we were in our husbands shoes. Your husband is probably paranoid everyday that you're going to leave him because you're a new you, a better, healthier, more attractive version of the old you. I completely understand where you're coming from. We as women need our husbands to tell us we're beautiful & at least try to make us feel good not because they have to but because they want to & also because they love us just that much...
Do you compliment him at all? I know you said you're feeling less attracted to him but it does go both ways.
Did he used to compliment you before WLS?
Do you feel like you flaunt the fact that you're more attractive now & since other men notice that he better start noticing now too?
I'm only asking all of these questions to get a better understanding of you & who you are & a better understanding of your husband too.
It's a hard situation that you're in because you do look & feel better & you want to go out more & live your life, have some excitement for once, have people notice you because they hadn't for awhile & then you come home to this bump on a log with his 6 pack who doesn't say anything flattering to you & he could give 2 craps about the way he looks. Are you stuck with this forever? You want to live now & I mean live it up.
I get it 110%, I really do.
Do you think he may be depressed? Do you guys tell eachother how you're feeling?
I know this is such a quick & simple answer but counseling may help, if you want your marriage to last it may be just what you both need & exactly what he needs. It sounds a little bit like you already know what you want to do though. You want to live your life & live it to the fullest with no one holding you back, especially not someone who doesn't even make you feel good anymore. Right???