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    dewey95
    on 12/11/11 5:27 pm
    Topic: RE: feeling alone post surgery
     Back in 2009, my husband of 15 years had gastric bypass surgery.  A year and a half later, he turned 50.  I think after losing 150lbs and hitting that milestone hit him hard. We can fight and yell and scream at each other. Nothing changes.  He thinks he can drink like when he was 21. He can't handle it. Is it normal to go thru changes where you feel you don't need anyone after you have this surgery.  He gets mean at times. Especially when he drinks. He is not violent or abusive, just likes to yell at me and my son when he thinks we are "attacking" him or arguing with him.  Its just been very different since he had the surgery. Don't get me wrong, Im glad he had the surgery and lost the weight. It was a health issue and he needed it, but part of me wants the fat jolly guy back. I think 50 hit him hard and mentally hes having a hard time coping with the changes in his body. But i dont know how to help him. I keep hoping it will pass.. He was smoking for a while because he thought that would help curb his appetite, and he is getting one back. He gained 16 lbs and he thinks he is getting fat, he is afraid of being 300 lbs again. I just don't know how to cope with this anymore. When he drinks, and not all the time. He says we should just "end it" I dont want a divorce, but Im not sure how long i can kep going. Any help or words of wisdom out there. Please
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