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STRESSED
I have told a few of my family/friends I was thinking about having WLS. Some of them have been very supportive and others have made comments like why cant you just try to lose it the natural way, start cutting back on your food, exercise, and ect. I have tried all that and its easier said than done. I dont think by me choosing WLS Im taking the easy way out, it was a very hard decision for me to choose to have WLS!!! I cannot lose the weight on my own I need help and the sleeve is the tool I need. I just hate the negative remarks some people have about Wls!!! I would love for some of the of them to walk in my shoes for 1 day and see what.a morbidly obese person goes through!!!
I agree!! I really haven't told anyone except my husband and kids. I don't want to hear what everyone thinks.
I have made up my mind and I am having the surgery.
My husband who has never been overweight is supportive, but still keeps asking questions like...Is it just that you are hungry or is it the kind of food...what excatly is the problem...If you have never had a weight problem you will never understand. I try to explain, but it doesn't seem to work. He is trying to understand. If I knew all the reasons why I am overweight and fnd it hard to lose I wouldn't be overweight.... Right???
Julie
I have made up my mind and I am having the surgery.
My husband who has never been overweight is supportive, but still keeps asking questions like...Is it just that you are hungry or is it the kind of food...what excatly is the problem...If you have never had a weight problem you will never understand. I try to explain, but it doesn't seem to work. He is trying to understand. If I knew all the reasons why I am overweight and fnd it hard to lose I wouldn't be overweight.... Right???
Julie
I have only told my husband (not even my teenage kids) for that very reason. It was a hard desision to come to and now that I am hear and on my journey I don't want people trying to push me off my road. I am just a few days away from surgery and I have enough fears in my head I don't need to hear everyone elses. I know it is the right decision for me and I know I have tried everything else I could think of before deciding this.
Good luck. Stay strong and stay true to yourself. Remember you only need to answer to you.
Lowplaces
I see this lament pretty much daily on these boards. The thing is, YOU are in control. If you're talking with someone who is unsupportive, stop talking to them! If they continue to press you, say: "Thanks for your feedback. I've made my decision and it's final. I'd love to have your support, but if you can't give it, this subject is closed for discussion". And then stop talking!
I hate to hear of people being belittled around this subject! Be firm and know that you've made the best decision you can, for YOU. One of my favorite quotes is from Eleanor Roosevelt, "no one can make you feel inferior without your consent".
Hang in there!
I hate to hear of people being belittled around this subject! Be firm and know that you've made the best decision you can, for YOU. One of my favorite quotes is from Eleanor Roosevelt, "no one can make you feel inferior without your consent".
Hang in there!
WLS is no easy way out by all means. Its a tool and we still have to deal with our heads.
This is a life style change and we have to work at it one day at a time. In the beginning,
the restriction is awesome and the time to create new habits. Once we get further out,
things change a bit and requires more discipline and dedication. Its work and the results
are amazing!
Stay away from those who dont support you. Many are uneducated and you have our support now.....
Huuuugs
This is a life style change and we have to work at it one day at a time. In the beginning,
the restriction is awesome and the time to create new habits. Once we get further out,
things change a bit and requires more discipline and dedication. Its work and the results
are amazing!
Stay away from those who dont support you. Many are uneducated and you have our support now..... Huuuugs
✿ L♦O♦V♦E ✿ & ✿ P♦E♦A♦C♦E ✿ღ ✿ & F♦R♦I♦E♦N♦D♦S ✿ ღ
"Keeping The Faith!" "Slim by Summer!"
HW: 250 - SW: 241 - CW: 141.1- GW: 140
1 month: 22 pounds (216) 2 months: 12.2 pounds (203.8) 3 months: 10.6 (193.2)
4 months: 9.7 lbs (183.5) 5 Months: 6 pounds (177.5 ) 6 Months: 12 lbs ( 165.5)
7 Months 7.1 lbs (158.4) 8 Months +1.6 pounds(159.8) 9 Months 2.7 pounds (157.1)
10 Months 8.1 lbs (149) 11 months +2 pounds ( 151) 1 YEAR!!! 2.6 pounds (148.4)
Hit "One-derland April 9th, 2011 (199.7)
"Half-Way Goal" April 25th, 2011 (194.8)
"Happyland 80`s" May 14, 2011 (189.6)
"Groovyland 70`s" June 20th 2011 (179.9)
" Hippy Dippyland 60's" July 16th (169.8)
" CQQL-land 50`s" August 25th ( 159.8)
"Normal BMI" 24.8 October 21st, 2011 (154.5) I am 5`6
"AWESOME-land 40's" Dec 1st 2011 (149)
"Century Club 100 Pounds" Dec 1st 2011 (149)
' ONE YEAR SURGIVERSARY!!!"
Two Year Surgiversary!!!"
I get sick of the geniuses who say these things! I am fortunate nobody asked me that, with my big mouth I'm not sure what I would have said in return ;-)
The only EASY part of the surgery is that you can only eat so much. That part is a cinch.
Making the right choices 100% of the time is the hardest for me, by far. Learning to eat or drink, but not both, was hard.
Learning that my eyes are STILL bigger than my stomach was hard.
Commitment to exercise and portion control prior to surgery was hard.
Most of us can lose some weight but we ALL put it back on, or we'd not be here. If a drug addict WANTED to have a surgical intervention and there WAS one, it would still only be a tool, right?
You just have to learn to ignore (one way or the other) the people that think all the negative things and just go on with it. Whomever can't support you doesn't need to be in your circle just now. Hopefully they will when you're on the loser's bench!
CONGRATS for taking the leap, researching, and finding out your options. WLS will not fix your life but it sure makes it easier to navigate.
The only EASY part of the surgery is that you can only eat so much. That part is a cinch.
Making the right choices 100% of the time is the hardest for me, by far. Learning to eat or drink, but not both, was hard.
Learning that my eyes are STILL bigger than my stomach was hard.
Commitment to exercise and portion control prior to surgery was hard.
Most of us can lose some weight but we ALL put it back on, or we'd not be here. If a drug addict WANTED to have a surgical intervention and there WAS one, it would still only be a tool, right?
You just have to learn to ignore (one way or the other) the people that think all the negative things and just go on with it. Whomever can't support you doesn't need to be in your circle just now. Hopefully they will when you're on the loser's bench!
CONGRATS for taking the leap, researching, and finding out your options. WLS will not fix your life but it sure makes it easier to navigate.
Lisa J
HW: 277 Day of Surgery: 234 CW: 161 Goal: 135 sounds good but....? Who knows!
HW/277 EVAL/260 PREOP/246 SURGERY DAY/243 CW/162 1/3/2011
HW: 277 Day of Surgery: 234 CW: 161 Goal: 135 sounds good but....? Who knows!
HW/277 EVAL/260 PREOP/246 SURGERY DAY/243 CW/162 1/3/2011
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