I just wanted to be real with my friends here at Obesityhelp. You hear all the time about increased divorce rate with bariatric surgery patients. Well I guess I am one of the "statistics". When couples are obese they accept alot of crap in life especially with eachother. Food becomes the couples focus and helps to ease the pain of a stressful marriage and becomes an unhealthy bond. At least that was my experience. To complicate things I battle with bipolar disorder and depression. She has been there for me through the good and bad and I love her deeply for that. I thought if we were both "skinny" we would have an awesome active marriage. Well she got the surgery, lost lots of weight, looks great and well things still didn't work out. Once the weight was gone and both of us started feeling good about ourselves and food was out of the equation we realized we really didn't have mu*****ommon. We were pretty much roomates that called eachother husband and wife. It was a brave bold move on both our parts to actually follow through with the divorce. We know that we both deserve to have a passionate marriage and we both love and want the best for eachother. While I don't expect many of you to understand my situation I assure you we both are in total agreement on the matter. We will continue to be friends and share our lives together at a distance. I moved to a different town to start my life over again. So can bariatric surgery cause divorce. Well the answer is complex. It can definately bring truth to a marriage and really test the compatibility of a couple. When your fat and miserable and wallow in the trap of food to ease the pain you both kind of settle. Once you break out of your shell and realize and discover who you both really are things can change.
To make a long story short it is what it is so to speak. We both love and respect eachother and will always be lifelong friends. Sure our marriage has ended, but it a pleasant, drama free, mutual decision and to make things even easier there are no kids involved. Well thats my confession so to speak and I hope you don't judge me too much.
Plastics - Extended Tummy Tuck - February 6th 2013