Bariatric Surgery and Divorce - my reality

Kevin.

Not to highjack another post but i just wanted to tell you how proud I am of you for being a single Father.  Not many men would fight for full custody of their kids, compared to women, that is. I think you are a great guy and I hope you find a great woman in your life, you definitely deserve it!  Have a great Father's Day weekend my Friend! 

 Thanks!  My oldest moved out and made me a grandfather but I still have my 16 yr old at home with me :)  Dreading the day she goes away to college.  Thanks for the kind words.

I agree....that is pretty damn awesome. 

As others have said, there's nothing to judge.  Also, how wonderful both you and your wife are on the same page - makes it so much easier for both of you and you still have each others' support as friends.  I'd say it's a win-win situation!,

((hugs))

Not judgement here just a big hug.   My husband left at my 4 month mark.   At first I was a mess but over the last 4 months I have found my groove and am moving on.  We have a daughter but both still live in the same town and I see him several times a week and talk to him everyday.   He has been making moves like he wants to come back but I am really happy with my life and the way it is.   It wasn't a bad marriage but the WLS helped me regain control in my life and I don't think he liked it.  

I am happy we are still friends and I am happy to hear that you are moving on and still friends also.

No judging here.  In my case, the divorce came before the WLS, but the story is very much the same.

I totally agree with you that sometimes food and compulsive eating is the only thing that holds a relationship together.  That was the case with my relationship with my ex.  The only thing we really enjoyed doing together was cooking and eating horribly unhealthy foods. 

I respect your attitude about your divorce.  My ex and I have remained good friends.  He lives across the street from me and we are awesome co-parents. 

I have spent the last year examining my part in the failure of my marriage -- I have learned a lot and if I choose to enter another relationship, my eyes will be wide open and I will be in a much healthier place to form a strong, happy partnership with someone.  For now, I am enjoying finding out who I am as a thin, healthy me outside of a dysfunctional relationship.

No judging here, either. 

 No judgement here. Wishing you both the best! You guys are both grounded, in reality, and brave. 

I see no reason to judge you either. I just wanted to chime in and say that I wish you the best in starting over in your new town.

Hey, no judgement from me. Divorce is one of those things that happen when people change or grow apart. It's sad but it's true. I was divorced once when I was thin and young and it had nothing to do with weight. We simply grew apart and didn't have mu*****ommon. I chalked it up to the old "It's better to have loved and lost, than to never have loved at all". I firmly believe in that. I enjoyed the good times and cherished them but then things fell apart and that was that. I met my current husband about a year after that and that was ten years ago. Thankfully, we never bonded over food. We are more of the "bonding over movies" type. I am very lucky with him. Divorce happens and I know that love can happen again. I wish you and your ex the best of luck and love. Good luck!