Hello Harmonic,

I am still awaiting insurance approval for my surgery but I can see where you are coming from. I too am experiencing some of these same feelings. The worst fear for me is that I won't survive surgery and there would be no one to blame because I was the one who ate myself into this position.

I was advised by the psychologist who did my eval to speak to a therapist who will be able to help me deal with these feelings. I am doing just that and she has helped me to realize that most of these fear comes from having to give up control....I have to give up control to have the surgery (put to sleep), control of eating what I want when I want and as much as I want. I am still seeing her and learning more everyday. Maybe you should see a therapist also..it helps even when you don't think it will because this is a major life time decision. Good luck with your surgery and hope you will share that journey so that those of us waiting can learn from it.

Bablot

Thanks for your responce everyone. You would think by now they would have come up with one that taste better! I was finally able to get rid of the after taste. I used a combination of different things (almonds, sobe 0 cal apple & pear vitamin water and a pinapple creek 2% yogurt) after all that the taste went away and then the stomach ache took over *smh*. At least it came out that "end" so I didn't have to deal with vomiting.....I hate vomiting...I always cry for 5 mins after I do (have no idea why). 8:41 AM and my stomach is back to normal!

Hi Cindy..I brushed my teeth and gargled with listerine and I still taste it...going to get some gas x strip. Hopefully that works.

Hope everyone is healing nicely and losing lots of weight. I had my upper GI test today (the first one ever) and the doctor said everything looks good. That stuff they gave me to drink is so horrible and I am still tasting it after having almost 1.5L of water to drink so far (test was done at (9:00 Am). Can anyone tell me what to drink to get rid of it? Every time I belch I taste it...YUCK!

 Hello Mandy... I did write her an email explaining the benefits of the surgery..I didnt mention my feelings about her reaction because I couldnt think of a nice way to tell her how much she hurt me. Now its up to her...my husband supports my decision...we actually made it together weighing the pros and the cons....watching and reading everything we could get our hands on for the pass year. Thanks for ur response :-).

 Hi Lisa....I emailed my mom all the links and web pages to learn more about wls..I even sent her my EMMI whichshow the surgery from start to finish and explains tht having wls will clear up high blood pressure etc. I dont think she bothered to watch the video or visit the website. This is for me..and I am doing it

 @Princess...thank you. @ Maria..the funny part to all this is that she had a hesterectomy..a complete one( reproductive organs removed) for health reason . Thats why her reaction floored me. *SMH*

 Thanks wls! I don't think people realize how they make us feel when they are so negative towards us and our decision to be healthier by whatever means necessary. I hope she wil come around and if she doesnt I will get over it and so will she when I tell her that I am off the meds and healthy after surgery. Thanks for your support.


bablot

Thanks everyone for your replies....I hope she reacted from worry and will come around after she sees the good that comes from the surgery. I emailed her different sites that she can get information about it from and I even sent her the EMMI link and the password that I was given from my doctors office so she could see exactly what they will be doing from pre op - surgery - post op; this shows everything from the start to finish. I am praying that she looks at it. Even though I don't care what anyone else thinks about me doing surgery...this is my mother...and I expect different things from her than everyone else...guess I expect too much *sigh*.

Hello Jule,

It is very hard..I tried to include her in my life as much as possible and exepect her to support me in my decisions because she is my mother. Guess that is expecting too much. I am doing this for me...I have been reading all the post on here and I have read the good, the bad and the ugly (so to speak) and all the post has been a big help making my decision. It took me an entire year to make this decision and I am sticking to it no matter what my mom or anyone else says. I was not planning on telling anyone except my husband and best friend...I should have stuck to that.  I turn to you all to get what my mom should have given me...SUPPORT...Thank you  

So I decided to tell my mom that I am waiting for insurance approval to do the sleeve gastrectomy...her response totally floored me . According to my mother I should not have to do surgery to lose weight and no one has the right to cut anything out of you that you were born with. Now this is from someone who had a hysterectomy by the time she was 30 because she already had 6 kids and did not want anymore.

This is for my health..I am 39 yrs old.. 5 ft 7 inches, weighs 290 lbs.. have high blood pressure, high cholesterol, I get panic attack and I have depression. Instead of telling me that I need to do whatever I can to get healthy because my 3 boys need me to be there to see them grow up..she said some bull like that?

My husband is with me all the and my best fried has been my supporter...she has attended the seminars and the consults with me...she has helped me to do research and she has asked questions that I didn't ask or think to ask.  Why can't my mother see that I need this for me? I tried everything else..I did lose weight...but gained back twice as much and she know this and has seen how much I struggle with my self esteem and everything else.

I was raise to always listen to my mother, but this time I WILL NOT LISTEN TO HER...I need to do this for me...and I am going to do this for me.

Sorry everyone but I needed to vent and I hope that someone here can understand and give some advise