Two year ago today, in the wee hours - just after midnight, my mother passed away. She just took her last breath and was gone. My father, sister and I were all in the house. You see, she had suffered several strokes two weeks before and the hospital could do no more for her. She was so paralized (all but one hand) that rehab wouldn't have yielded much. They put a feeding tube into her nose and she pulled it out twice letting us know that she didn't not want any part of it. So with hospice's help, we took her home to die.
It is still hard to write that. What does this have to do with WLS? To me, it has everything to do with it. Right after her death, I went to see my own doctor. I looked at her and said "I'm following in my mother's footsteps - I already have diabetes and high blood pressure. I have coronary artery disease and strokes coming. What can I do?" She suggested WLS.
Rich (my fiance at the time) had WLS a month and a half before. I had thought about it for myself but not really seriously until this conversation with my doctor. My insurance didn't cover WLS so Rich and I got married a year earlier than planned to get me on his insurance and get the WLS ball rolling. We were married on November 22, 2004 which would have been my parents 52nd wedding anniversary if my mother had lived. Obviously we picked the day to honor my parents. Who gets married on a Monday anyway. LOL!
My WLS had to wait for me to get added to the insurance and to get approved and to get back surgery done first. I remember getting the call about my surgery date. I didn't pick it but it was scheduled for May 20th, 2005. That day would have been my mother's 73rd birthday. I knew the date was meant to be.
Here I am two years after her death, thinking about her. Thinking about how shocked she would be to see me now. I'm 121 lbs smaller than when she last saw me. As of yesterday for the first time ever as an adult, I weigh what I weighed in 8th grade 156 lbs (I'm actually 155 today). She would be shocked. She might even be concerned that I had lost too much. Imagine that.
So, tonight I'm thinking of my journey over the past two years and thinking of my mom. Her loss, spirited me into getting a full life back. One of hope. One without diabetes, high blood pressure, sleep apnea and hopefully without heart issues and strokes.
Thank You Mom! I love you and I miss you!
Your baby, Kathy