- HEALTH TRACKER
The more things the change, the more they're still the same.
First off I will start off by saying that I am not bitter at all so don't think that by what I am about to say. I totally agree with Jaci. I have been through a lot and have had a lot of heartbreak and doing too much and being codependent **** for me to be confident in the woman I am today. With that being said, I say you walk away. You even admitted that he has used the "I'll Change" card in the past but never acts on the promises. And you know what its not really surprising to me. In my opinion, men rarely change. It sucks but its true. Once you've become comfortable with a person it's hard to actually shift things around. Of course they say they will change but a lot of times men are just insecure and its more convenient for them to "turn a new leaf" and stay with whoever they are with then to invest the time and trouble in a new relationship. My soon-to-be Ex Husband was the same way, always making empty promises and one day I thought you know what I am over it, and like Jaci said, you just gotta cut the dead weight. I would hate to see you re-invest in the relationship and get stuck marrying him or having kids and then the whole relationship just turns into a downward spiral and at that point, its harder to just walk away...trust me! You have the perfect opportunity to get out and just find what really makes you happy. And besides, personally I think you are too young to be so involved in something that is making you more unhappy then happy. There's a good reason you are conflicted right now, listen to your head not your heart...it can be misleading! I understand that you love your ex and probably still attached to the idea of having someone around, but honestly and especially with your new transformations that are going on, you definitely need time to find yourself, what really makes you happy and what you really want in a man. I think its definitely ok to go out and be young and carefree with your friends and if you meet guys or if men want to compliment you or buy you drinks or even take you out, let them...but do it for fun don't do it to look for whatever is next on the horizon, relationship wise. I'm telling you, if you let "love" find you, so to speak then it always falls into place and you end up happier than you've ever been. Stop looking for the last hope with your ex or with that connection with someone new and just focus on being the best you can be right now and really working your surgical "tool" and the rest will follow. Good luck :)