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 I'm in the process of being approved by insurance (I know I will be approved -- meet ALL requirements my insurance requires)
The only thing is my insurance also requires losing 10% body weight and 3 months nutrition counseling. Meaning my doctors want me to lose my 10% of 26.5 lbs (265lbs start weight) in 2 months so insurance can be approved during my last month of nutrition counseling.
I'm nervous about having RNY (the surgery myself and my surgeon discussed would be right for me/my life situation) so young. Im also very excited for my life to come.
I'm tired of having fear for my future.
I always see obese people being seen as mean, unworthy, sluggish, rude, whatever (there are a lot of skinny people like that too, but you have to at least talk to them to know ;)
But on the outside -- I am a big girl, a smiley,friendly big girl, but big and guarded, no less... but on the inside -- I'm an energetic, lively, sweet tiny girl that wants to live life as the girl on the inside. 
I have the willpower to make the surgery worth it (at least I deeply hope I do) but I need this surgery to save me from myself, so I can be my true self.

well i haven't had surgery yet, I am actually 3 weeks pre-op but all i know is that if i don't have this surgery my relationship is going to fail, we have been together for 6 years and now at the age of 23 i am at my heaviest, its not that he doesnt love me or that my weight is an issue for him, he loves me just the way i am. the problem is that i don't love myself the way i am and it's a problem because i am depressed all the time or moody, i dont ever want to go anywhere so he goes to events and concerts by him self with his friends, also dont want to meet new people or try new things! basically i have become a boring miserable person and if i dont fix it i don't think he can deal with it any longer, he is a very fit guy eats healthy and spends a lot of time at the gym, if anything i think this surgery will make our relationship better. now don't get me wrong, i am not doing this for him, i am doing it for my self because i want to be happy and if iam happy then i can make him happy! its beyond the physical aspect and more about the emotional part of it.

Thats Amazing!  your doing so good, keep it up and you'll reach your goal in no time!

My boyfriend and I have been together for 2.5 years. He has been very supportive with my decisions. I had surgery on the 30th of April and I have been out of work now for 2.5 weeks. I do not know what is going on, but today he seemed to get in this weird mood. And I don't know if he understand how my emotions are all over the place. Sometimes men are hard to read, but I am hoping he gets over it! Good luck

YOU LOOK AMAZING!!!! your arms????!!! what arms????? their perfectly fine to me !

Aww you are gorgeous :) I graduate this fall and commencement is May 2013- plenty of time to lose weight and tone up :)

 I'm about 2 weeks away from my surgery and have been with my boyfriend for a very short time (3 months) he has always told me how he likes big women and how he likes my body just the way it is. So I told him about surgery and he was just said "oh ok" and left it at that. I'm somewhat worried that me losing weight will make his feelings change. I'm wondering if any of your relationships have changed becasue of your significant weight loss. Also is single life any better?

  2008 vs 2012 commencement (high school graduation vs. college)  I am about 15lbs away from goal...I only really dislike my arms., but that can be fixed I guess!!!


Starting Weight: 345ish
Current Weight: 165 ish
VSG 2/7/2011 2012

 congrats!

 This week has been such a great time for me. Today, for the first time since probably middle school, I am finally under 200lbs. I literally threw my arms up in the air and yelled a big, "YES!" Because of this surgery, I feel more confident and strong about myself. It has been worth it every single step of the way. I cannot express my gratitude enough. Secondly, after not seriously dating someone in a couple of years, I have decided to have a great start with this incredible guy in my life. After a couple of months of talking, we made us official. I know its kind of silly, but he makes me feel loved just to be me. Even if we never took it down the aisle, he is definitely the kind of guy,  I will always be best friends with. He supports me even whether I feel on top of the mountain, or barely getting by in the valley. This morning,  I do not think I could be happier with my choices. Hooray to all of us!