Hey all - I think I am ready to start dating again.  i took a hiatus about 2 weeks prior to the surgery and have not been out since then.  But I am feeling like I know what I can and cannot eat at this point and am maybe ready to get back out there. 

So my question is, what do I tell perspective dates when I have only 1/4 to 1/2 cup of food?  Only order soup?  I think honesty is the best policy, but do not want to scare anyone off.  What do you all think?  Truth or a little white lie?

Thanks,
Jeanne

I would do whatever makes you comfortable. If he asks why you are eating so little , tell him you are trying to eat less. Why don't you suggest a date that doesnt involve eating?

If someone is going to like you they are going to like and accept you for who you are. And we all are a part of WLS.  when you are comfortable tell them. If that is not something you want to share right away, opt to do something that doesn't involve a lot of food. I beleive in most people's eyes part of a "date" is some sort of food, so make it out for an evening cup of coffe after a movie. Instead of dinner and a movie. They will appreciate not spending 10$ on popcorn and only 3$ on coffee. Its a lil more intimate, nice time to chat. Be as creative with your date planning as we have to be with meal planning. Never lose sight of who you are, and you will be liked just fine!!

I eat a lot of soup when I go out to restaurants!  Makes it very simple if you eat soup first and then a little salad.  Very simple!

Everyone has good points. I would just say I am watching what i eat and that includes portion size. Unless you dont mind making your surgery or weightloss a topic during your date i would go with that. Dating is just that dating and you learn each other as you go no need to put everything out on the table if you dont need too. Good luck

I would go with the a coffee date and 'activity dates'� like bowling, mini golf, movies, until you know that you're into the guy.� Then you can go to a restaurant.
By then, you'll be clearler on how you want to handle things.

Hi Jeanne,

I would definatlely go for the activity date and stay away from the dinner and movie dates.   If they can't accept you for the person you are then it's not worth your time.

Good Luck