Good evening.  I am a single mother of 2 girls (9 and 13) and they are apprehensive (sp?) about me having the WLS.  Has anyone experiencesd this?  How did you comfort them and let them know that things would be ok?

hi, I am having a hardtime with wife and kids 23, 21, 16. I havbe told them that I have had a problem for the last 40 yrs with weight. I trell them that I am doing it so I won't die prematurely due to diabetes, heart attck or any othe co- morbidity. They get upset when I eat anything that they consider a trerat and can't understand how the lap band is going to change things, but I do and they will have to trust me. I am doing it for me! so that I can fit into rides at amusement parks, so I don't have to be a contortionist to shoewer or go mto trhe bathroom, so people won't stare at me as their father. So I can walk them down the aisle and play with their kids.So I can play physical games with the entire family and take walks or  RUN. There are so many other thing that you can add but most importantly this is gonna improve your life and in doi9ng so will improve theirs. Good luck and God Bless

 I have an 11 year old daughter who is overweight and she was very negative/angry acting before I had the surgery, making comments that I'll be skinny and she'll still be fat.
I tried to talk with her about eating healthier WITH me, but it kinda goes in one ear and out the other.
She complains about her weight all the time, but I can't get her to change her eating habits.  i don't keep any junk in the house and never have, but I do catch her trying to overeat at home and I stop her.  Problem is she goes to her dad's and they take her out to eat and buy her candy and junk all the time.
I don't know what to do for her while all I can eat is soup or spaghetti o's and chili from a can.
When I can start making grilled chicken and veggies, it would help a lot having her eat good food at home anyway.  I'm also planning on getting a Wii Fit Plus and hoping to get her to do some exercising with me.

 I hate to say this because your child is just 11, but tell her, SHE WILL GET SICK AND TIRED. When she gets there she will make that change, just like us. Tell her that no matter what you love her and want the best for her. I would tell your ex that the 2 or 3(if he is re-married) need to work as a team for HER HEALTH. 

I too am a single mother of a 15 year old girl that happens to be a size 2-4. Just tonight she stated WHAT IF THEY BREAK YOU. MOM YOU KNOW THIS IS NOT 100% GUARANTEE. I was like 1 I know it is not absolute, that is why I am currently working on changing my eating habits because the surgery is a tool to use to help me get to a healthy weight. 2. I told her that I was already broken and I am trying to fix me so I can be her longer for her. That I am doing this for her too because I want her to live her life. I do not want to get to the point where I will have to rely on her for things. Like going grocery shopping or always having to wash dishes because I cannot stand or walk for periods.

I hope this helps I know it helped me knowing that there are other children out there stressing about their parents health.

Being the daughter of someone that has had surgery and now looking into it myself 6 years & 2 kids later I think I understand both sides of your dilemma... When my father had WLS in 2004 I was very apprehensive, I only being 18 and having weight problems my whole life I understood why my father whom was over 500 lbs would want the surgery however I was scared that something would happen to him, I didn't fully understand and yes I did resent him a little for taking the "easy" way out. But I've always tried to be supportive of him. Now that I am looking into having the surgery myself I understand how hard it is, and how hard everyday must be for him.

I think that the best way to comfort them is to explain everything to them, at 9 and 13 they probably understand a lot more then you might first assume, if your Dr will allow you may want to see if you can bring them with you. reassurance from a medical professional maybe helpful.

best of luck to you!!