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on 11/15/17 9:47 am
Topic: RE: Heping mysef by helping him

Oh, also, there are literally hundreds of protein shakes on the market, we tried a lot and I'm still trying more in preparation for my own surgery

Pre-Op evaluation, month 5 of 6

Surgeon: Dr. Kalyana Nandipati (Omaha, NE)

HW: 340 CW: 309

on 11/15/17 9:37 am
Topic: RE: Heping mysef by helping him

our "liquid diet" wasn't as restrictive as some. We did protein shakes, but also could have yogurt without fruit chunks, strained soups, sugar-free jello and pudding, broths, and all the water we could get in (all surgeons will have different requirements).

That was in May. My doctor was fine with it, and I have always taken a multivitamin anyway.

now I still follow a low-carb, high-protein approach with my husband. I do measure out my food still, but I am not eating the exact same portions he is, but mostly that's because I'm adding a lot more servings of vegetables in a day than he can fit in.

Im currently in pre-op evaluation to have my own surgery

Pre-Op evaluation, month 5 of 6

Surgeon: Dr. Kalyana Nandipati (Omaha, NE)

HW: 340 CW: 309

on 11/15/17 9:17 am
Topic: RE: Heping mysef by helping him

Wow! I am surprised your doctor "ok-ed" that! I hope you get routinely checked as I have heard sometimes a liquid diet has vitamin deficiencies :( Were you recommended to take a vitamin? I am curious. I have heard liquid diet thrown around for years for pre-surgery, post-surgery, etc. but it ALWAYS came with a HUGE price tag of "buy our shakes!" which I could never afford.

on 8/20/17 2:08 am
Topic: RE: My boyfriend broke up because of my wls.

I know you posted this a little while ago. I'm sorry that this happened. How are you making out now?

Thinking of you ( HUGS).


on 5/27/17 6:37 am
Topic: RE: Heping mysef by helping him

Yes, I'm quite familiar with the portions, my mom had the same surgery when I was in high school, and several family members have had it since. I know I won't feel full the same way a person would had they had the surgery and the dumping Syndrome isn't something I'll have to deal with, though as a diabetic, I avoid sugar anyway.

I am measuring all of my food to what my husband theoretically eats. we're still on liquids right now, 4 oz per hour, but I know with solid food it might only take 2-3 for him to get full. Since I won't feel full, I'm planning on eating what I've measured out and no more. I also won't have the hormonal changes and the malabsorption that come with the surgery. I know it's not going to be exactly the same, and yes I could "cheat" at anytime with not nearly the consequences he would have, but I do have a lot of support from my doctor as well as his bariatric doctor, and I feel like my husband is happy that we're both doing this together

H.A.L.A B.
on 5/27/17 12:28 am
RNY on 05/14/08 with
Topic: RE: Heping mysef by helping him

I had RNY 9 years ago.

It is a very sweet of you to do the diet as he is. But have in mind that it may be difficult for you. His insides ha been changed - while yours are still as before. what, specially in the beginning - would be easy for him to follow - it may be a very hard time for you to do. in the first few months post op -2-3 oz of food made me full. Eating more than that was not only not possible - I rally did not want to eat more. RNY not only changed my insides but also my hormones, and the way my body dealt with hunger and food. I often was not hungry or if I did get hungry - eating just 2 oz-3 made me full. Even now - I often can't eat more than 6-8 oz total, if 4-5 of that are dense proteins.

In addition - eating sugary foods made me ill,very ill - getting sick a couple of times made me really not want desserts like cakes, cookies or ice cream.

Hala. RNY 5/14/2008; Happy At Goal =HAG

"I can eat or do anything I want to - as long as I am willing to deal with the consequences"

"Failure is not falling down, It is not getting up once you fell... So pick yourself up, dust yourself off, and start all over again...."

on 5/22/17 6:32 pm, edited 5/22/17 8:35 pm
Topic: Heping mysef by helping him

I'm not sure if this thread is very active. I just registered today. I am a WLS spouse :) My husband and I were married this past October and around then he also started the evaluation and consultation process for WLS. He had RNY just this past Thursday, and I've been following his diet the whole time. Before this, I was the positive influence--he was a bachelor, ate a lot of fast food, never really cooked for himself. I'm a type 2 diabetic, and he took me out to eat a LOT when we started dating. But I told him I couldn't do that--my sugars were becoming hard to manage. I started grocery shopping and preparing dinners at home (I love cooking). He embraced it. Anyway, I ate the liquid diet too, and I'll be moving to soft proteins when he does. Has anyone else followed the diet along with their spouse? To me it just makes the most sense for several reasons. I'm also very overweight. We'll save money on the grocery bills. I don't have to cook two different meals. I'm doing less dishes. When he started talking about looking into WLS, I had a general idea. My mom had RNY 15 years ago, and I remembered the basics of her diet, her portions, her struggles.

on 5/22/17 5:57 pm
Topic: RE: Dealing with "date night"....

Just registered here on OH to reply to your dilemma (I've been stalking the forums for a while).

My husband and I reduced our eating out long before he decided to have WLS, because I'm a type 2 diabetic and all that eating out was bad for my blood sugars. I also love to cook, so its not a problem to cook healthy meals at home. He began his liquid diet on May 4th, and had RNY just this past Thursday. I decided to eat the same as him.

In this last month we've gone out together 4 times, all without involving dinner out. we saw a play, a movie, and we have been checking out some of these "wine and art" type places that are cropping up. The drinking is optional (we just had water). One place was a "paint your own ceramics" thing where you purchased a plain piece of ceramic-mug, bowl, base, etc. then you paint it however you want, and they fired it. We took it home that night. The other was a place where we made rustic wooden signs (we each made one for our moms for Mother's Day.) are either of you crafty? My husband isn't, I am. We both had a great time and it was really relaxing and fun! Might be worth seeing if you have anything like that locally?

on 5/21/17 12:53 pm
Topic: RE: Lots of questions....

Absolutely!!! Sue how is it going?



on 4/28/17 3:45 am
Topic: RE: Dealing with "date night"....

Every now and then when my husband and I are stuck for date night ideas that don't involve food we fall back on two old standbys that usually turn out to be pretty fun:

1) we play tourist in our town - we'll buy bus tour tickets or a ghost walk, something that tourists do when they come to learn more about the area but we never do because we live here. Sometimes we learn something new, sometimes we get cool stories to share with our guests while showing them around.

2) we pick a spot on the map that's max under a couple of hours drive away and then pick the most scenic route to get there. We try to take roads we've never driven on and pack snacks so we only need to stop for bathroom breaks. Good old fashioned Sunday drives except that in the summer with the late light, it can be any day really.

I'm sure your wife is happy that you are looking for ways to keep spending time with her. She may have been a little afraid that your new lifestyle might have meant leaving everything from the old one (including her?) behind, but the effort that you are putting into finding other things to do with her will hopefully show her that she is still valued.

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