Post Date: 9/7/08 11:41 am
Topic: My child could use your help/This may help lift your spirits

So I know this is not weight related, but hey, we also post about our lives,right? If you want to help us out, it would be great.

My son has entered a contest at a local radio station here in Arkansas. The child with the most votes at the end of the contest wins a trip for his family to Disney World. I didn't expect this to turn out to be a popularity contest, but it has. Voting ends September 26th. You can only vote once per IP address and we only have one PC and few friends and family members. Everyone here at Obesity Help has been great in helping us out, and in one day, he has taken the lead. Please help us hold on to this lead. We still have several days before voting ends.

Anyways, if you want to help us out, please go to www.kssn.com and click on Kiddieokee. Then click on the 2-4 age group. My son is  #2 on the list, he is wearing a white t-shirt and he sings "Folsom Prison Blues". His name is Wyatt. Wyatt really wants to go see Mickey Mouse and with your help, he can! Thanks everyone and please pass the word along to your friends and family members also!

Post Date: 9/1/08 7:54 am
Topic: RE: Help please I need to know if anyone else is out there!
Your post brought me to tears.  It is as if I were writing this myself.  I am only 2 months out but I feel like my whole world is changing.  My body is already changing.  I was a big girl when I met my husband and I tolerated a lot of mistreatment from him then.  Only because I guess I thought it was the best I could do.  Then after a couple of years together things between us got sooooo much better.  Now, it is like we are this perfect couple with this underlying abusiveness just waiting to come out.  i haven't seen this other side in quite sometime.  But, all of a sudden he starts telling me how different I already look and only 30lbs down,  then here it comes.  I don't know me anymore or him.  I feel like alice falling into wonderland.

Post Date: 8/25/08 1:25 am
Topic: RE: Spouse can't handle my WLS
I really feel sorry for you. My wife was very nervous about what would happen in our relationship after WLS because she had heard of so my situations like this. I'm no professional but I think if possible you should look into staying with family for a while and getting your husband some counseling. I hope everything works out for the better.

Post Date: 7/30/08 1:06 pm
Topic: Spouse can't handle my WLS
Trying to make this short would be impossible so I just won't go into all the details, but I've lost 150 lbs and my husband can't handle it. We are falling apart, he is losing his mind, going insane trying to figure out if I'm cheating on him going through all my stuff my cell my puter ect. he's always been insecure and jealous but its like a switch flipped when I got to a certian point at my WL he's losing it. He's even threatend to kill me in front of my kids if I cheat. That was for doing my nails and trying to look good. The doctors that we have been seeing think he's bipolar and the weight loss may have triggered a manic phase or phases that got bad and stayed that way with the WLS. We've been together 17yrs with 4 kids and I just can't handle the acusations and the being locked away from the world like he trys to keep me. I can't come and go without keeping a constant contact with him and he has to know what I'm doing when I'm doing it. Hes even gone so far just yesterday he thought my 10 yr old was covering for me for whatever, we were home! I trimed my bikini line for a pool party that was for my daughters softball team and didn't want to look bad ya know, and he accused me of cheating. Then when I told him I did it the other day for the party and it wasn't recent like he thought he said I did it for someone at the party!!! I have no carrer not education no way out, hes keep me down from what I'm learning emotionaly like hes abusive and doesn't want me to go to school or work ect and I've been here for 16 yrs at home with the kids now I don't have chance of getting a job due to lack of experience. Anyone else with spouse issues??? Marti

Post Date: 7/17/08 12:57 pm
Topic: RE: Any of you doing it together?
I had my RNY done almost 4 months ago and my wife is up for hers in 2 weeks. For the most part things have been pretty smooth, but at times my wife was frustrated at the fact that I was losing fast and getting all the positive attention, despite the fact I am a notorious slacker and occasionally eat stuff not on the 'official menu'. Now its her turn and as they say, payback is a ... ;) BTW, she too suffers from PCOS and the magic number for her will be about 70 lbs before she becomes as fertile as a rabbit again, and we can add to our thus far very small family. As for the weight loss and PCOS, last time we both lost a significant amount of weight, my wife kicked a$$, so I doubt the condition has anything to do with slower weight loss - It all in how you use the weight loss tool ...

Post Date: 7/3/08 1:59 pm
Topic: RE: Any of you doing it together?
My hubby and I are having ours 4 weeks apart and I am the first also. I will be having mine 7-9-08, next week! YIKES. How are you guys doing and what have been the positives and what has been a challange? Kim

Post Date: 6/6/08 7:18 pm
Topic: Any of you doing it together?
Having WLS in 10 days....Hubby in 24. Any advise about problems we may encounter going through this as a couple? I've heard about the competition thing and that doesn't really worry me. I have PCOS and I know he will lose faster even though I'm going first...he always does and it never bugs me...I just get the sexier spouse faster. LOL But are there any other obstacles I should know to look out for?

Post Date: 4/14/08 8:28 am
Topic: RE: Help please I need to know if anyone else is out there!
I would recommend professional couseling to help YOU deal with these issues.. there is no shame in looking outside for help. We received outside help to deal with out weight.. it's okay to get professional help to help with these feelings. Hugss and best wishes

Post Date: 4/10/08 10:11 am
Topic: RE: Help please I need to know if anyone else is out there!
I have not had surgery yet, but I can't tell you how many times I have heard this sort of problems from people who have lost weight, either from WLS or not. Its hard to explain but, overweight people know who they are, for example my friend was overweight she very quickly lost a bunch of weight, she no longer knows who she is or where she fits in, kind of an identity crisis, when she was fat, she was always "the fat girl in the group" once you get used to that for a long period of time it becomes ingraved in your head. Now she is struggling with her relationship, her job, her life in general. I dont know you, but maybe its something like this that you are experiensing.

Post Date: 3/15/08 7:44 am
Topic: Hi
Hello, im new to OH. My husband I both are going through the consultation phase of the RNY surgery. He is going to have his surgery first. I was wondering if there were any other husband and wife RNY people on OH. Kind of wanted to know your story. THANKS!

Post Date: 2/22/08 6:56 pm
Topic: RE: Spousal weight loss?
My husband is 3 months (November 07) out and has lost over 70 pounds. I started eating differently (no surgery) last March (March 07) and have also lost 70 pounds ... It is much easier eating healthier when we do it together... cooking at home, portion control and close support have been great for both of us!

Post Date: 1/27/08 7:44 pm
Topic: RE: doing it together
I just found this forum. It doesn't seem like it gets much action, but maybe we can start something. My husband and I had lap band done on the same day 1/14/08. So far it's been great. I know he's going to lose faster than me, but so far I'm a few pounds ahead of him...he was so bummed...I had no sympathy . We go for our check up on Thursday and I expect him to have passed me. The worst part is he started lower than me...he's always weighted more than me...I told him we may have to get a divorce ;D Hopefully in the end we'll get things back the way they should be. Love to hear from others...any words of advice? Shelice

Post Date: 1/9/08 8:18 am
Topic: RE: WLS Wife Needs Help!!!!
Hang in there At the suggestion of a spiritual advisor my wife and I went to a great counselor. That really helped us to come together as a team. We are looking at surgery this spring. We and I say we spent some time squirming in the counselors office but it was worth it. That is my experience