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Brenda Cacucci, M.D.
I have my consult with Dr. Cacucci on April 26, 04. I LOVED her! She seemed SOOOO young (everyone said that, I read about her before I went) but she was very knowledgable, very nice and very understanding without being oozy or fake. I really feel very comfortable with her as my surgeon.
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  • Books & Literature - I LOVE to read!!!
  • Dogs - I have 2 female Rotteweilers - Harley and Grace! They're 100lb lap dogs!
  • Motorcycles - My hubby and I both ride!
  • Parenting - My Kids are my life! Holden, 11, and Olivia, 3
  • Music - Grew up on Punk & Alternative, but weirdly, I've been on a huge country kick.
  • Body Piercings - I hav some, uh... piercings...

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Latest Surgery Support Comments

  • Comment by swangirl on 3/7/06 5:21 pm
    Becky, you have done such a great job! You are looking great and such an inspiration to me! Linda/Bactrac/swangi rl Name/CB handle/me post op
  • Comment by Elayne on 10/22/05 9:27 am
    Hey! I just read your profile. You've been through a lot. Whatever happened with your cervical cancer? Are you okay now? Thanks for sharing your journey.
  • Comment by piperkc on 5/22/05 2:42 pm
    “The Greatest healing therapy is friendship and Love.” ~ Hubert Humphrey "Though no one can go back and make a brand new start, any one can start from now and make a brand new ending "There is no medicine like hope, no incentive so great, and no tonic so powerful as expectation of something better tomorrow." ~ O. S. Marden "Dream lofty dreams, and as you dream, so shall you become. Your vision is the promise of what you shall one day be; your ideal is the prophecy of what you shall at last unveil." ~ James Allen "I asked God to give me happiness. God said, "No. I give you blessings. Happiness is up to you." ~ Author Unknown "Goals give you more than a reason to get up in the morning; they are an incentive to keep you going all day. Goals tend to tap the deeper resources and draw the best out of life. "Put yourself in a state of mind where you say to yourself, 'Here is an opportunity for me to celebrate like never before, my own power, my own ability to get myself to do whatever is necessary." ~ Anthony Robbins " ~ Harvey Mackay "Life is a challenge, but if you don't stand and risk you will never know if you were able to win or lose. Challenges are not a thing of winning or losing; they are a way of learning from them to become a better person every day! ~ Alexsander Rodriguez, P.R "Don't ask for it to be easy, ask for it to be worth it." Dan Kuschell "The most important question to ask is not 'What am I getting?' The most important question to ask on the job is 'What am I becoming?'"You are never given a wish without also being given the power to make it true. You may have to work for it, however." - Richard Bach "In the confrontation between the stream and the rock, the stream always wins; not through strength, but through persistence." ~ Jackson Brown "I have always been delighted at the prospect of a new day, a fresh try, one more start, with perhaps a bit of magic waiting somewhere behind the morning." ~ J.B. Priestly "Each of us has an inner dream that we can unfold if we will just have the courage to admit what it is. And the faith to trust our own admission. The admitting is often very difficult." ~ Julia Cameron "The block of granite which was an obstacle in the pathway of the weak becomes a stepping-stone in the pathway of the strong. That block of granite is often nothing more than a decision." ~ Thomas Carlyle "Being yourself is not remaining what you were, or being satisfied with what you are. It is the point of departure." ~ Sydney Harris "Risk! Risk anything! Care no more for the opinion of others, for those voices. Do the hardest thing on earth for you. Act for yourself. Face the truth." ~ Katherine Mansfield "Too often we are scared. Scared of what we might not be able to do. Scared of what people might think if we tried. We let fears stand in the way of our hopes. We say no when we want to say yes. We sit quietly when we want to scream. And we shout with the others, when we should keep our mouths shut. Why? After all, we do only go around once. There's really no time to be afraid. JUST DO IT." ~ Nike advertising campaign "I am convinced that attitude is the key to success or failure in almost any of life's endeavors. Your attitude - your perspective, your outlook, how you feel about yourself, how you feel about other people - determines your priorities, your actions, your values. Your attitude determines how you interact with other people and how you interact with yourself." ~ Carolyn Warner "Happiness lies for those who cry, those who hurt, those who have searched, and those who tried, for only they can appreciate the importance of people who have touched their lives." ~ Author Unknown "It's never too late to be what you might have been." ~ George Eliot "For every beauty there is an eye somewhere to see it. For every truth there is an ear somewhere to hear it. For every love there is a heart somewhere to receive it." ~ Author Unknown "Whatever you do, you need courage. Whatever course you decide upon, there is always someone to tell you you are wrong. There are always difficulties arising which tempt you to believe that your critics are right. To map out a course of action and follow it to the end, requires some of the same courage which a soldier needs." ~ Ralph Waldo Emerson A wish changes NOTHING; A decision, changes EVERYTHING "So many of our dreams at first seem impossible, then they seem improbable, and then, when we summon the will,they soon become inevitable." Christopher Reeves "When you pass through the waters, I will be with you; And through the rivers, they will not overflow you. When you walk through the fire, you will not be scorched, Nor will the flame burn you. For I am the LORD your God, The Holy One of Israel, your Savior." Isaiah 43:2-3 Everyone has beauty but not everyone sees it. "If you don't design your own life plan, chances are you'll fall into someone else's plan. And guess what they may have planned for you? Not much." ~ Jim Rohn May you always have an Angel by your side. Watching out for you in all the things you do. Reminding you to keep believing in brighter days. Have a safe journey to the other side and a speedy recovery Angela in Corpus Christi 291lbs BMI 45.60 -234lbs Dr Michael Grace Open RNY Life began May 16, 2002 I have heard your prayer, I have seen your tears. Surely..I will heal you." 2 Kings 20:5
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Thanks for taking the time to check out my story. It's been long, fun, sad, depressing, frustrating, infuriating, exciting and most of all, rewarding. I hope you're able to get something useful out of my experience and if there's anyway I can ever help, please feel free to email me!

Starting Weight: 287      Starting Size: 24/26
Current Weight: 146     Current Size: 6/8

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Time Sure Does Fly
on October 4, 2007 7:58 am
I can't believe how long it's been since I've logged on. I hardly recognize ANY posters any more and it seems like the people I remember aren't around much any more. Out living life? Moved on? Wherever you guys are (and you know who you are) I hope you're doing well.

My life, like so many other "old azzes" is pretty much unrecognizable these days. I can't believe how different I feel - younger, full of energy, confident, ready to take on the world! I'm getting remarried in 2 weeks, I'm on a huge project at work, and taking classes - I FINALLY GRADUATE THIS DECEMBER! Woohoo! There's NO WAY I would have been able to maintain this kind of schedule pre-WLS - I could hardly get out of bed!

Healthwise, I'm doing great. Maintaining around 153 plus or minus a few pounds, wearing a size 6/8 and remembering to take my vitamins (most) of the times. I eat normally, other than still staying away from sugar and too many carbs or fats at one time. I don't feel like a WLS patient anymore, just someone with 'normal' healthy eating style. 

For all of you who are reading this, wherever you are in your journey, I wish you all the luck in the world!
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On the other side of PS....
on December 20, 2006 7:50 am

Well, I'm on the other side of my PS surgery - 8 days out and doing pretty well.... I had some drama in my life the day after surgery culminating in Aaron flipping out and checking himself into a hospital, sending my kids away for 5 days so I could heal, etc. etc. Aaron's out of the house now, has found an apartment, is finishing up moving, hopefully to be done this weekend and the divorce will be final in the middle of February.

As for my PS - the TT was actually a piece of cake compared to the BA. I've had some nerve problems with one breast that causes me to go from a little bit of achiness to absolute excrutiating pain in about 3 seconds flat. The pain lasts for about 20 minutes or so and then stops as suddenly as it started. It's getting less frequent and less excrutiating and the doc thinks it will resolve itself over time (thank goodness!)... I finally look like I have boobs again...lol  At first, because of how high up and hard the implants sit, I looked flatter than ever but as the muscles relax and swelling goes down, the implants settle and are looking better and better...  As for my TT, I have a little pain, but really not much, just have to be careful how I stretch my torso - the incision line, about an inch above and below is totally numb and I don't think he had to do a lot of muscle tightening because it really hasn't been that bad.

I have more to tell but I have to run. I'll check in again soon with another update.

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Checking In...
on December 5, 2006 2:24 pm

Wow... Has it been almost a whole month since my last update? Time flies when you're in hell.... Just kidding...

Well, my PS is exactly one week from today. I'm so excited and so scared at the same time. I can't recall, specifically, but it feels like it's even more emotional than for my WLS. I know I'm a lot more scared, that's for sure...

I've been maintaining my weight again, between 147 and 150, so that's good... Today, I ate constantly, and a bunch of junk... I think my nerves got the best of me... I'm still working on the smoking thing... Sigh... I go a couple of days and then I crack... My surgeon's going to kick my butt. I don't think he's going to cancel me, he didn't say "If you don't quit, I'll cancel you." but he did give me a lot of crap (as he should)... 

Things at home are pretty hairy... Aaron and I are barely speaking. There's a lot that has happened in the past month that I'd rather not go into but suffice it to say it hasn't been pretty. He's still living here, although he's moved most of his stuff out. We spend as much time away from each other as possible. When he's out, I'm home, when he's home, I'm out. It just seems to work better that way... I'm ready for him to move out, but his apartment isn't ready for him, it's not livable yet. I can't exactly kick him out with no place to go. The PS isn't a huge factor - he still says he's going to help, but I have back-up, just in case... Mainly, we just stay out of each other's way. Otherwise, we are polite, but short with each other.

So, that's it in a nutshell. I have 2 1/2 days of work left, planning on burning the rest of my vacation Friday and Monday - have finals to take Monday since my surgery is Tuesday. Still have some Christmas shopping to do, as well as wrapping... Oh, and we've announced a RIF at work. I'm not going to be affected, I don't think, but being in HR, it's got me pretty hopping.... Right in the middle of all this other stuff... 

Have an appt with my attorney Friday to go over paperwork. We're planning on filing on our own but I still want someone to look it over. If it looks okay and Aaron signs it this weekend, I'm going to go down Monday to file.  Sigh... How did my life get here?  I'm hanging in there, though, looking forward to a fabulous future, as soon as I get to the other side of all this crap... 

Take care, I'll try to get in as soon as possible after my surgery and update on my progress.

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Divorce
on November 7, 2006 1:32 am
My husband and I are divorcing...

There haven't been any fights, no cheating, nothing like that. We're still friends. We're both very, very sad... We've decided to go forward with this now while we're still friends rather than wait until we hate each other.

For the past several years, we would go though "funks". It was as if we were living like roomates. Both ratteling around the house, totally alone, regardless of the fact we lived together. After a while, it would become unbearable, we would talk, and make a concerted effort to make it better. And for a while, it would be. But I'm tired... I'm so tired of busting my ass to maintain a healthy relationship that should be easy sometimes but isn't. I wake up every morning and tell myself how happy I am, how this is working, thinking that eventually, I'll convince myself but it doesn't work. Eventually, I get tired. And then I withdraw, and then HE withdraws, and then we resent each other and then it starts again...

I was fully prepared, when I got married, to have to work at the relationship. I'm not so pollyanna that I expected it to be sweetness and light all the time. But I thought the hard work would be when times got tough, to get us through them. Well, the hard work is when things are going swimmingly and when times get tough, we can barely function because we're so exhuasted from the hard work we've already done. 

Aaron and I still love and respect each other. We want to remain friends and we still have a daughter to raise. I think we've just realized that while we've both grown and changed over the past 8 years, we haven't done a lot of that in the same general direction and we're growing apart.

I'm sure some people will pass judgement on me for this, and if that's the case, so be it. We can't keep living this way. I don't want to wake up a year from now hating and resenting him because I'm unhappy and he can't fix it, and I don't want him to feel that way about me.

Do I think WLS had something to do with this? Probably... I've changed a lot over the last 8 years, but quite a bit of that change occured in just the past 2 years since surgery. I'm not talking about appearances, I'm talking about in my heart and head. A psych. at the Lexi event pointed out that for many of us, the decision to have WLS is the first time we've focused on ourselves and often triggers huge changes for us. All I know is, I have different needs today than I did 8 years ago, and so does Aaron, and we can't fulfill them for each other and we're going to die inside if we keep trying.

The plan is to not do anything over the holidays, as we really don't want to put our families through it. In January, he'll start looking for a place to live.  If things look like they're going to get ugly before then, we'll act sooner. So far, things are just very, very sad...  I'm not angry or scared. I know I'll be fine, as will the kids. I'm worried about Aaron, truth be told, and I will do everything poosible to help him through this. My goal is, in time, to tell Livvie that her parents, although living separate lives, still deeply love and respect each other, because I'd rather tell her that than have her living in a home that has turned bitter and resentful.

The next few weeks are going to be incredibly busy. I'm counting on that to get us through this. If I'm not around OH a lot, it's because I'm trying to keep my life together as best I can.
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Rut Roh...
on November 3, 2006 2:37 am
I think I may be developing an issue. I'm now down to 146 - that's about 10 pounds down from the average I've been weighing since last March. In the last couple of weeks, I've a lot going on in my life and for the first time in my life, I've lost my appetite due to stress rather than eat to soothe... The result has been a drastic drop in weight in the past couple of weeks. I'm only getting about 800 calories a day, a far cry from the 1200-1400 I had been averaging. In addition, I'm SUPPOSED to be getting upwards of 200g of protein a day to prepare for PS.

The problem with all this is mentally, I'm enjoying seeing the scale go down again. I know I need to put the breaks on, that I don't need to lose anymore and my surgeon wouldn't be thrilled that I went under her "absolutely no lower than" weight of 150. But there's a high that goes along with seeing the scale drop and I find myself choosing to restrict my diet even more so I can keep seeing the scale go down. I'm not implying I have a true problem yet, but I can see it becoming an issue.

With other things going on in my life right now that I really can't go into, I'm thinking it's time to get some help. I'm going to start calling around and find a therapist - preferably someone who is knowledgeable about WLS but at least someone with experience dealing with obese patients. Too many times on the board I've seen people go from one extreme to another and I've got too much going on and too much going for me to let this become an issue.

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