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If you're looking for a new best friend or for someone to hold your hand, Roslin may not be your man. HOWEVER, if you're looking for a surgeon who is skilled, competent and truly has a gift from God, you're in the right place. I continued fighting for insurance approval with Mitch Roslin because I'd heard he was incredibly skilled in performing the DS. In a market like NYC where there are a plethora of surgeons who perform this procedure, he remains a stand-out. Reports from his post-op patients were so excellent, that I knew I could settle for no one else. There were delays and miscommunications with his office staff at times but every day post-op I regret nothing because I know I put myself in the best hands possible.
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Above & Beyond...
on November 20, 2008 1:05 pm
There is always noise inside my head. Voices and messages and things I need to do and learn and think about before I take actions. Most of the time, I obey them, although sometimes things take hold of me—positive and negative—before I even realize what's happening. I still strive for perfection and while it doesn't always turn out that way, it doesn't keep me from moving forward. And believe me, moving forward is really what it's all about.  

FOUR YEARS AGO TODAY… I was bedridden and miserable, yet optimistic that my life would change for the better. Still, there was absolutely no clue then how glorious my life could AND WOULD become. I had just had my DS and was grateful for having successfully survived the procedure—and even though I was pretty sore/uncomfortable, I remained hopeful that things were on the upswing.  

THREE YEARS AGO TODAY… I had just turned 50 years old and had a wonderfully intimate surprise birthday party that helped me feel the warmth/love of my family and enjoyed the freedoms of being a year out, moving forward, and--having taken my first cruise with my husband--stretching enough beyond my comfort zone to discover the world out there that had been waiting for me all along.   

TWO YEARS AGO TODAY... I continued forward movement—traveling, enjoying life and make the best out of each day. I went to Kentucky to meet many long-time OHers who had significantly and positively affected my life, to California to speak at an OH seminar about the DS, and revisited many LA locations that I hadn't been able to enjoy for the 20-some-odd years since I'd last been there. I felt nearly boundless freedom and joy, and was in the best place I'd been (thus far) in my life.  

ONE YEAR AGO TODAY... I had just returned from a whirlwind trip to Honduras and Mexico. A spiritual quest of sorts … climbing Mayan ruins and realizing even more so how one can/does evolve. I survived a significant breast cancer scare the previous June and a ten-pound-or-so Mirena-hormone induced weight gain, finally losing that weight as well as the extra hormones that caused the 1"x3" tumor that the not-for-everybody-IUD had caused inside my body.  

TODAY, HOWEVER... I come to you with the miracle beyond all miracles: In less than one year, I have traveled nearly 10,000 miles from NY to Alaska and managed to become the completely enamored and satisfied mother of not one BUT TWO Havanese puppies (Ricky and Lucy … Can you stand it?? … LOL!) … I moved from a 10-year koi-like existence in an incredibly overstuffed Queens two bedroom apartment to a three bedroom house in Long Island (complete with doggie door), creating my low-carb, DS-friendly food treats in a kitchen with a pantry and pot/pan drawers, a sunroom -and- a backyard. 

I find myself coordinating décor and designing unusual "pieces" from bare-bone dime store objects to create an ambiance and vibe that thrills my (incredibly wonderful and supportive) husband and visitors alike.  Then, to further heighten the experience and delights as to where life further post-DS has taken me, from the packing/moving experience and making sure I focused well on eating wisely but enjoyably—at four years out—I am the thinnest ever with an incredibly toned body and STILL NO PS (5'7", 130 lbs, size 0-4 from an all-time high of 321, size 4X).  

I've mentioned it before, I've written it before, I've said it before… If you are a prisoner of your body and your mind—depressed and scared and wondering when your life can resume/begin, envying the idea of what life COULD become "if only" … If you're like I was—no longer able to accept life as it was, unhealthy, depressed, sad, and didn't think it was a life worth living … and certainly if that sort of existence, fear and semantics (whether or not to DS)  are the only things keeping you from crossing the threshold to a better way of life… FREE YOURSELF AND YOUR MIND/BODY WILL FOLLOW … If you let it!  

Don't misunderstand.  There will be hurdles, there will be challenges. Post-DS doesn't mean that perfection meets you at every turn. Every positive for me has meant some hard work and breaking through an obstacle/resistance (like the nearly-invisible thread that wrapped itself around my ankles as I was packing up the old apartment, daring me to move an inch much less walk out the door) … Healthy and thin doesn't mean everything will always go the way you want/believe it should.  

HOWEVER … You will find little else as rewarding and as exciting as continuing to push through and knowing that you're only limited by the restraints you let your mind impose on your efforts. I say this with the utmost conviction and most importantly, the life experience with which to back it up.  

As always, since I no longer "inhabit the boards," feel free to contact me should you have any questions … and I wish you everything wonderful every day of your life. Good luck & God bless!
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Home Again, Home Again...
on May 29, 2008 1:10 pm

So here we are, 9383 miles-and-change later ... Something I couldn't possibly have fathomed five years ago ... A 16-day trek From New York City to Seattle to Fairbanks, Alaska, cruising through the inside passage, holding glacier ice as it melted in my hands, petting puppies destined for the Iditarod, and surviving it all to tell the tale.  Invigorating and mind expanding and exciting and interesting, filled with gratitude and awe almost beyond words.

There is a world out there, my dear friends, and regardless of how safe and warm and inviting our koi-ish lives can be when locked away inside our prison of weight or eternally confining states of mind, embrace, enjoy and experience this incredible universe to the best of your ability.  The air is likely to never seem so fresh and the incredible beauty of God's creations so inspiring. 

Don't hesitate a second or let the fears control you.  It really IS okay to live life to its fullest and even though there may be some limitations to the scope (like right now I draw the line after climbing the mountain but remain hopeful that ziplining will be an option someday).  Breaking through our old concepts of life or who we think we are didn't stop when I reached goal weight and I hope it continues until I suck my last breath.

All this being said, I must admit it's great to be home and to be hugging and walking the adorable Havanese puppy we got only a month before we left.  Our Little Lucy is about as adorable as they come (check out some of her adventures on You Tube by clicking here) and she grew considerably while we were gone.  A couple of weeks at Camp Shih Tzu with my sister and her kids even resulted in her being almost completely housebroken!  But she certainly added to the appeal of settling back into our "normal routine."

BTW, DSers ... Alaska is a wonderland for us.  They seem to use twice as much fat in their food preparation as the lower 48 and the donuts alone on the Fairbanks Riverboat Discovery tour were worth the trip! 

For the most part, I ate very comfortably, stretching my normally restrained boundaries but not my stomach, and the size 2 jeans I wore before I left fit just as easily when I returned.  Now if this doesn't make it a doubly successful vacation, I don't know what does!

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Missing "Rockin' Robin" ...
on April 20, 2008 6:43 pm
A tragedy just came to my attention a couple of days ago and I assumed you would know about it but I checked posts back to April 10th and didn't see anything.

Our dear and wonderful "New & Improving Robin"--my wonderful "Rockin' Robin"--passed away last week from a blood clot.  I have absolutely no details although I'm assuming it was tied to plastic surgery, because when we were all in Irvine last year, she was ready to take that step.  A relative of her's contacted me through my column on another site to tell me she had passed.

If you'd like to send your condolences to her family, please PM them to me -- or post them to her profile (
http://www.obesityhelp.com/member/rlee67/) -- and I will forward them to her family.  She also had her own website: http://www.thenewrobin.com.

As/If I know more about exactly what happened, I will pass the info along to you.  

This is really lousy news; Robin bloomed in front of our eyes and had become everything she'd ever hoped to be -- and more.  It is a terrible loss to our fellowship.  

Just in case you'd forgotten about it, this is a perfect example of how much Robin had embraced life:
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=2DTmYArV70s

In the meantime, take care of yourselves and live each day like it's your last ... See it ... believe it ... be it!!

 & {{{HUGS}}} &
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Pssst...Hi!
on March 17, 2008 12:03 pm
I haven't checked in for a while, so I'm letting you know that--through the grace of God--all is well.  Good days, bad days, for sure but such is the essence of life.  

During my days of obsessively scrutinizing OH posts/pages, I often wondered why many posters and profiles seemed to drop off at one point or another--especially by the 3rd year post-op.  Well, as suspected, it's usually because we're living our lives for all we're worth.  This is the case with me.

I have made a conscious decision to no longer inhabit OH; it was made with great deliberation and I believe it to be in my own best interest.  HOWEVER, because of the godsend OH was to me throughout my journey, I remain open and available for any and all questions you may have.  Just message me and I will do my best to respond post-haste.

In the meantime, good luck and God bless as you find yourself and continue the rollercoaster ride that is the WLS journey.


P.S.  Just for the juicy stuff and what you REALLY want to know: I've been the same clothing size (0-4) since reaching goal in June 2006.  Today is March 17, 2008.  I am reasonably healthy considering the fact that I still contend with Hashimoto's Thyroiditis, Fibromyalgia, mild lymphedema in my left leg.  (These were all health issues that I had BEFORE WLS and have improved somewhat afterwards but are unlikely to ever disappear completely.) ... Oh, and of course, I LOVE MY DS!!
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Happy Holidays...God Bless Us...Everyone!
on December 23, 2007 5:26 pm
I've been a good girl but a horrible OH board member ... I'm keeping my distance but--as always--I'm only an email away.  I will catch up best as I can as soon as the "Merry F-in Ho Ho Day" is over.  In the meantime, enjoy the giggle below with all my love!

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Vr-6PH-2BbA
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