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Mitchell S. Roslin M.D.
If you're looking for a new best friend or for someone to hold your hand, Roslin may not be your man. HOWEVER, if you're looking for a surgeon who is skilled, competent and truly has a gift from God, you're in the right place. I continued fighting for insurance approval with Mitch Roslin because I'd heard he was incredibly skilled in performing the DS. In a market like NYC where there are a plethora of surgeons who perform this procedure, he remains a stand-out. Reports from his post-op patients were so excellent, that I knew I could settle for no one else. There were delays and miscommunications with his office staff at times but every day post-op I regret nothing because I know I put myself in the best hands possible.
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    Hey it been 3 years!! Wow! Where does the time go. Congrats on a job well done. You're doing great! Your Bday Sis-
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    Thank you so much for your words of encouragement. Your surgery page was very informative for me (a little scary-but definitely gives me something to think about). I have less than 2 weeks til surgery and am sooo excited! Stacey C
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I'm On TV!
on October 17, 2009 6:27 am
If you have "The Science Channel" (NOT ScyFy), watch "Head Games" starting tonight (10/17/09) and you will see me as a contestant in the next couple of weeks.  As a matter-of-fact, here is sort of a preview: http://science.discovery.com/videos/head-games-webisodes-melissa-vs-matthew.html ... "Sort of" because this segment will not air in the U.S.; it is for the European networks that have less commercials.  Figures, because I did darn well in this round. 

Also, check my profile next month, when I will share life as a 5-year post-op.  Blessings to each and every one of you.  Always feel free to email/message me (
Melissa.Mermaid@gmail.com) if I can be of any help since I rarely post or frequent OH anymore.  You can also follow me on Twitter (http://www.twitter.com/MelissaMermaid) or Facebook (http://www.facebook.com/MelissaMermaid).

LHK to all of you always...
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Tweeting My Story
on July 16, 2009 3:17 pm
For those of you who have inspired and encouraged me to write my life story, I've decided to TWEET it ... LOL!  (Can't ever do ANYTHING 100% normally can I?  Tee-hee!)  Check it out by clicking here.  Just be sure that when you get to the tweet page, you keep clicking on "more" at the bottom of the page until you GET TO THE VERY FIRST TWEET, THEN READ UPWARD.  Otherwise it won't make any sense!
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Beyond the Board
on June 22, 2009 5:29 am
I'm so rarely on OH anymore but many (mostly wonderful) things are happening, through the grace of God.  I'm only a tweet away, so you can easily find me out and about on the 'net:

On Twitter
On Facebook
On MySpace
On YouTube
Some of my writing
My Website (being updated but links are there to my info)
Meet the Pep Pups

Life goes on, my Lovelies ... And even though I'm not on the boards, I do independently mentor and support DS patients who find their way to me (and they do!) ... So I continue to "pay it forward."  Before long, you'll find out how much so ... I will keep you informed.

Thanks for the shoutout on the inspiration question, Blackthorne & May ... I think of you both fondly.  Although I don't even "monitor/lurk," I happened to have caught that old post this morning (shows how long it's been since I checked in) because I'm helping out a new switch sister and I got nostalgic, so I dropped  by!

Sending EVERYONE hugs, thoughts and lovin' for everything wonderful ALWAYS!  Your life will change and you can realize ALL your dreams ... If you're ready and you're willing, you can be ABLE!
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Above & Beyond...
on November 20, 2008 1:05 pm
There is always noise inside my head. Voices and messages and things I need to do and learn and think about before I take actions. Most of the time, I obey them, although sometimes things take hold of me—positive and negative—before I even realize what's happening. I still strive for perfection and while it doesn't always turn out that way, it doesn't keep me from moving forward. And believe me, moving forward is really what it's all about.  

FOUR YEARS AGO TODAY… I was bedridden and miserable, yet optimistic that my life would change for the better. Still, there was absolutely no clue then how glorious my life could AND WOULD become. I had just had my DS and was grateful for having successfully survived the procedure—and even though I was pretty sore/uncomfortable, I remained hopeful that things were on the upswing.  

THREE YEARS AGO TODAY… I had just turned 50 years old and had a wonderfully intimate surprise birthday party that helped me feel the warmth/love of my family and enjoyed the freedoms of being a year out, moving forward, and--having taken my first cruise with my husband--stretching enough beyond my comfort zone to discover the world out there that had been waiting for me all along.   

TWO YEARS AGO TODAY... I continued forward movement—traveling, enjoying life and make the best out of each day. I went to Kentucky to meet many long-time OHers who had significantly and positively affected my life, to California to speak at an OH seminar about the DS, and revisited many LA locations that I hadn't been able to enjoy for the 20-some-odd years since I'd last been there. I felt nearly boundless freedom and joy, and was in the best place I'd been (thus far) in my life.  

ONE YEAR AGO TODAY... I had just returned from a whirlwind trip to Honduras and Mexico. A spiritual quest of sorts … climbing Mayan ruins and realizing even more so how one can/does evolve. I survived a significant breast cancer scare the previous June and a ten-pound-or-so Mirena-hormone induced weight gain, finally losing that weight as well as the extra hormones that caused the 1"x3" tumor that the not-for-everybody-IUD had caused inside my body.  

TODAY, HOWEVER... I come to you with the miracle beyond all miracles: In less than one year, I have traveled nearly 10,000 miles from NY to Alaska and managed to become the completely enamored and satisfied mother of not one BUT TWO Havanese puppies (Ricky and Lucy … Can you stand it?? … LOL!) … I moved from a 10-year koi-like existence in an incredibly overstuffed Queens two bedroom apartment to a three bedroom house in Long Island (complete with doggie door), creating my low-carb, DS-friendly food treats in a kitchen with a pantry and pot/pan drawers, a sunroom -and- a backyard. 

I find myself coordinating décor and designing unusual "pieces" from bare-bone dime store objects to create an ambiance and vibe that thrills my (incredibly wonderful and supportive) husband and visitors alike.  Then, to further heighten the experience and delights as to where life further post-DS has taken me, from the packing/moving experience and making sure I focused well on eating wisely but enjoyably—at four years out—I am the thinnest ever with an incredibly toned body and STILL NO PS (5'7", 130 lbs, size 0-4 from an all-time high of 321, size 4X).  

I've mentioned it before, I've written it before, I've said it before… If you are a prisoner of your body and your mind—depressed and scared and wondering when your life can resume/begin, envying the idea of what life COULD become "if only" … If you're like I was—no longer able to accept life as it was, unhealthy, depressed, sad, and didn't think it was a life worth living … and certainly if that sort of existence, fear and semantics (whether or not to DS)  are the only things keeping you from crossing the threshold to a better way of life… FREE YOURSELF AND YOUR MIND/BODY WILL FOLLOW … If you let it!  

Don't misunderstand.  There will be hurdles, there will be challenges. Post-DS doesn't mean that perfection meets you at every turn. Every positive for me has meant some hard work and breaking through an obstacle/resistance (like the nearly-invisible thread that wrapped itself around my ankles as I was packing up the old apartment, daring me to move an inch much less walk out the door) … Healthy and thin doesn't mean everything will always go the way you want/believe it should.  

HOWEVER … You will find little else as rewarding and as exciting as continuing to push through and knowing that you're only limited by the restraints you let your mind impose on your efforts. I say this with the utmost conviction and most importantly, the life experience with which to back it up.  

As always, since I no longer "inhabit the boards," feel free to contact me should you have any questions … and I wish you everything wonderful every day of your life. Good luck & God bless!
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Home Again, Home Again...
on May 29, 2008 1:10 pm

So here we are, 9383 miles-and-change later ... Something I couldn't possibly have fathomed five years ago ... A 16-day trek From New York City to Seattle to Fairbanks, Alaska, cruising through the inside passage, holding glacier ice as it melted in my hands, petting puppies destined for the Iditarod, and surviving it all to tell the tale.  Invigorating and mind expanding and exciting and interesting, filled with gratitude and awe almost beyond words.

There is a world out there, my dear friends, and regardless of how safe and warm and inviting our koi-ish lives can be when locked away inside our prison of weight or eternally confining states of mind, embrace, enjoy and experience this incredible universe to the best of your ability.  The air is likely to never seem so fresh and the incredible beauty of God's creations so inspiring. 

Don't hesitate a second or let the fears control you.  It really IS okay to live life to its fullest and even though there may be some limitations to the scope (like right now I draw the line after climbing the mountain but remain hopeful that ziplining will be an option someday).  Breaking through our old concepts of life or who we think we are didn't stop when I reached goal weight and I hope it continues until I suck my last breath.

All this being said, I must admit it's great to be home and to be hugging and walking the adorable Havanese puppy we got only a month before we left.  Our Little Lucy is about as adorable as they come (check out some of her adventures on You Tube by clicking here) and she grew considerably while we were gone.  A couple of weeks at Camp Shih Tzu with my sister and her kids even resulted in her being almost completely housebroken!  But she certainly added to the appeal of settling back into our "normal routine."

BTW, DSers ... Alaska is a wonderland for us.  They seem to use twice as much fat in their food preparation as the lower 48 and the donuts alone on the Fairbanks Riverboat Discovery tour were worth the trip! 

For the most part, I ate very comfortably, stretching my normally restrained boundaries but not my stomach, and the size 2 jeans I wore before I left fit just as easily when I returned.  Now if this doesn't make it a doubly successful vacation, I don't know what does!

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My Story

Introduction

After 49 years of dealing with massive weight losses & gains (documented in words & pictures to be at least 1000 pounds), my metabolism had stopped working.  Due to an autoimmune disease & related factors, it was impossible to lose weight on my own anymore.

As a result of my DS and following certain eating rules, my results have been phenomenal on every level imaginable ... nearly 200 lbs lost in less than 2 years, going from bedridden to walking miles at a time.  Without this site & dozens of people who I have met here, my results would never have been as great.  I have learned more about nutrition-vitamins-supplementation than I ever knew existed.  

I hope you too experience the joys & benefits I have received on OH.  Be sure to research carefully to make the best decisions because whether or not to have WLS is something you will have to live with forever.

Overview 

11/19/04: 5'6" ~ BMI 51.8 (321 lb) BFI 52% ~ 1/11/07: 5'7" ~ BMI 20.7 (132 lb***) BFI 22%
I'm below MY goal & stabilizing; NO Plastic Surgery/Botox of any kind to date!

I am a very happily married writer and broadcast journalist who left my full-time job in television news in 2003 because of declining health. 

Years of eating lowfat and going untreated for hyperthyroidism caused my thyroid to eat through the protein in my body and destroy my muscle mass.  I had become bedridden and for the first time in my life, it had become virtually impossible to lose weight on my own anymore.

In the midst of addressing these health issues and having -- once again -- reached 300 lbs plus, I started looking into weight loss surgery.  I knew that I couldn't possibly take another massive trip down the scale without something to stack the deck in my favor so I wouldn't start climbing it again.

I was no stranger to willpower and trying to eat right.  In fact I overdid it so often that I blew my metabolism to bits.  Nothing short of a "catabolic effect" was going to change that.  Now instead of going to bed hungry every night like I almost always did when I was fat, I go to bed having eaten about five small meals a day and I'm a size 2 (at 5'7"). 

Unlike many others who come to OH, Carnie Wilson was never a role model for me.  Because of our similarity in age and life story, I was more inspired by Sharon Osbourne, who had a lap band (even though she refers to it as her "gastric bypass").  I thought I too would have a lap band but my bariatric surgeon wasn't very enthusiastic about the band.

Then I found out about the DS (Biliopancreatic Diversion with Duodenal Switch) ... It sounded like the optimal weight loss surgery for me because of the longest sustained weight loss results and the most normal of post-op lifestyles. 

Fast forward through insurance battles and trials and tribulations, hiring lawyer Gary Viscio, and accumulating volumes of information from "switch siblings," I created a binder of 369-pages and 81-documents that eventually proved to Empire BCBS that it is NOT an investigational procedure ... a claim they like to make to avoid approving it.

The lengthy battle was so worthwhile that if I knew then the life I would enjoy now, I would have put up with twice as hard of a fight.  When you read some of my entries prior to surgery, you will see how herculean a task just getting up in the morning and trying to face the day could be.  So the fact I say I would have gone through twice the battle is really saying something.

Through the grace of God, a very skilled surgeon, applying some diligence to how and what I ate, some extraordinary advice shared by fellow WLSers on the OH boards, love and support of family and friends, and incredible luck, I am now enjoying the life of my dreams.  My health is not 100% but my hopes are and there are some days I scale heights I never thought a 51 year old could reach.  Life isn't perfect but it usually is damned good. 

Why the DS?

There are times when a poster asks the question on the main message board about DS v RNY. Those who have had - or want - the Biliopancreatic Diversion with Duodenal Switch (DS) and have done extensive research, often encounter an incredible amount of misinformation that many have received from their surgeons or via word-of-mouth. Our efforts to correct that information are often perceived as trying to “sell the DS” and I find that disconcerting.

We have absolutely nothing to gain by promoting the DS. Our enthusiasm for the procedure compels us to inform others about their full spectrum of options and to let them know that if they don’t fight for the DS – if that’s what they want – then everyone will continue to be persuaded by self-serving sources that it’s a bad or unsafe procedure (in spite of the voluminous clinical information that grows by leaps and bounds daily, proving quite the contrary). Hence insurance companies will continue to justify their denials for the DS, even when in the long-term they would improve their bottom line by approving it universally.

Unfortunately, some seem to be intentionally misled by their surgeons because they are simply not skilled in the intricacies of the DS. Remember, it is a more detailed procedure and not every doctor capable of performing an RNY can pull it off. This is not to diss your surgeon, it is a statement of fact.

In my instance, my surgeon performs both the DS and RNY. I went into my consult having surfed my way into DS awareness only the night before. In my opinion, that's where the luckiest part of my journey began -- especially since he is skilled at both procedures and my $500 out-of-pocket wasn't wasted.

Dr. Roslin's office gives the impression that the surgeries are practically interchangeable, yet the more I research, look and hear, they have distinct and glaring differences. The only negative the doctor voiced as a concern regarding the DS was the potential for lack of calcium absorption in a woman my age (48) -- which threw me for about twelve hours until I did more research. For the most part, he left the decision in my hands since it essentially didn’t matter to him which surgery I chose.

Personally, I wish Roslin's office assisted more in the fight for the DS because it would likely make my battle for insurance approval easier. Nonetheless, it's everything else that was said during our consult that stuck in my head and convinced me the DS was the option for me.

The DS is especially desirable to me for two very important medical reasons:

(1) My father had stomach cancer. If I have an RNY pouch, I cannot be adequately monitored for cancer without having open exploratory surgery. Since the DS simply cuts away the fundus (curved part of the stomach) versus creating a pouch, surgery would not be necessary if cancer were suspected. (BTW, my father’s cancer was “cured” by having the equivalent of a DS – and so was his lifelong battle with obesity; he has not gained any appreciable weight in over ten years); and

(2) I am nearly bedridden due to an autoimmune disease that leaves me constantly weak and fatigued. Because dumping is unpredictable in RNYers – ie, some dump on a variety of foodstuffs and for a variety of reasons - including but not limited to ingestion of sugar, fats, starches, and overeating. My system simply cannot take (possible) continual episodes of dumping. My pre-op life is already like dumping 24-7!

Then my surgeon said to me, verbatim: “With the RNY - in the worst case scenario - you’ll be 230 pounds for the rest of your life.” I’m approx 315 now. Having major surgery to lose 80 pounds was not my idea of a successful outcome.

Those of you who are at this weight and are happy there, please do not take offense. However, by my own devices, I have reached the 140 lb mark FOUR TIMES in my life but gained all the weight back each time to once again become SMO. So hitting 230 for a lifetime in spite of major surgery was not my idea of something with which I could be satisfied.

Then the fact that – again, in my surgeon’s words – “RNYers tend to start gaining weight at about one year to 18 months out; we don’t know why” further influenced my decision. He said only those who have completely modified their eating behaviors and avidly work out were able to maintain their full weight loss over time. Well, that's what I did the last time I lost weight and still managed to gain it back. To me, surgery is supposed to give me an edge I cannot otherwise attain, I felt no certainty that the RNY held for me the same edge that the DS does.

I'm having this surgery because of my thyroid-influenced autoimmune disease which now inhibits me from losing weight by less drastic methods. Ultimately, I expect to take the weight off once and for all and keep it off. I will work my tool like nobody's business but cannot accept that medicine recognizes the strong potential for weight regain in the RNY when there is an alternative surgery that does not pose as high a percentage rate of weight regain.

After my consult in December 2003 I researched my butt off and digested everything I could about the DS – good and bad. I challenged myself to find everything negative about the DS there was to find. I contacted former DS patients of my surgeon to find out about their successes or problems. They were all former and no latter.

I went to the different DS websites and Yahoo groups and examined the outcomes of patients’ surgeries and long-term successes of those patients. I compared that to their RNY and lapband counterparts, factoring in my personal experiences – including having been a participant in obesity studies at Rockefeller University twenty years ago - and my years of research and understanding of obesity (e.g., Did you know that you never lose fat cells? ... When you lose weight they change shape from round and fat to oblong and thin but continually cry out to be satiated -- that's why maintaining weight loss is such an uphill battle).

I found one case of seriously bad labs which resulted in a reversal of the DS (out of hundreds of patients I researched) – and that was an OH member who admittedly was not compliant with her vitamin and supplement protocol. (A must for all of us – whether RNY or DS. This cannot be stressed enough!)

Bathroom issues with the DS in 90% of the instances were directly related to what a person eats: Eat a lot of fatty food, spend considerably more time in the bathroom, often with loose movements (because the oils are not absorbed and essentially go right through your body); eat a lot of starchy and sugary simple carbs, you are gassier. But then my research shows this is almost identical with what a distal RNYer experiences.

Please know that regardless of my determination to have the DS and only the DS, I do not knock any other procedure and support whatever decision a thoroughly educated WLS-wannabe makes ... But please, before giving what you believe to be helpful advice about a procedure you do not really understand, do what most DSers have done … Research and find out for yourself.

What is a DS and What Can You Expect?

In a nutshell, there is no pouch. The fundus (most curved part of the stomach) is actually removed (instead of having a pouch fashioned) and the pyloric valve remains intact, allowing for a more natural elimination and digestion process. Essentially the intestines are rearranged like with a distal RNY but it's a little more complex than that. There is no potential for post-op complications such as a stricture (a narrowing of the stoma, which connects the pouch to the intestines).

Vomiting is possible with the DS but is more common when one eats too fast too early out when compared with many RNYers who tend to vomit more frequently because foods are not properly chewed to a puree consistency or the item eaten doesn't sit right in the pouch.

Dr. Hess, who was one of the first surgeons to perform the BPD/DS procedure that modified the BPD (without the DS -- aka the Scopinaro technique -- which did have more serious malabsorption problems) released data in July of 2004 regarding his ten-year study of DS patients and found that: "Compared to other bariatric surgeries, the DS is found to be superior in our practice. There are no foreign materials used. The pylorus is retained and controls the stomach emptying. There is no small stoma that could dilate causing failure, allowing the patient to eat normal meals."

In layperson's terms, this means that you will definitely eat less post-op than you did pre-op but with less restrictions than those who have the RNY. The malabsorption feature of the DS plays a very big part in the hows and whys of keeping the weight off. Still, the likelihood of malnutrition is almost a non-issue if the proper vitamin/supplement regimen is followed -- especially because you are actually able to gain more benefits from real foods ingested.
 

Check out these sites for more info and resources:

The Obesity Help DS Forum

A side-by-side comparison of the most widely-performed weight loss surgeries

The Duodenal Switch Information Zone
 
Duodenal Switch Yahoo Group

Read more about my personal weight loss journey by clicking here for my Duodenal Switch Information Zone Profile

DS Insurance Authorization Yahoo Group

DS Post-Op Problems Yahoo Group

Think I'm exaggerating? ... See The Ups & Downs of Being Me (with pictures)

Good luck and God bless whatever you do and wherever you go!

***Note: In the interest of FULL DISCLOSURE, it must be noted that I apparently have a SUPERHUMAN CAPACITY TO RETAIN WATER and my weight can fluctuate as much as ten pounds up or down from one day to the next.  This is not a rationale but a reality.  It must be known to all that this is a possibility with each and everyone of us (most especially women)... There is no way that ANYONE will gain 5 or more pounds in one day unless water retention and/or lots of sodium or an insane amount of eating is involved (and the latter is SO NOT TRUE FOR ME).  Now, this is key: We must be honest with ourselves every single day.  There is no such thing as not knowing how one gains weight.  I can tell you, however, that I do not eat enough to constitute ANY weight gain and weight that is there one day can be gone the next -- especially if I take a water pill.  This is my medical fact and I live with it.  I am at a healthy BMI, maintain a BFI of 22% or lower and my size 0 jeans fit EVERYDAY (although due to water weight especially in my legs, sometimes my skinny jeans are tighter there than other days)  It's a fact I have finally come to terms with but one I must share it -- especially because I know I'm not the only one with whom this happens.  I hope this helps those who experience this annoying phenomenon to accept it and cope with it.***