Today, I say I deserve better.

As part of the post op process, I like many others have gotten this physically attractive body and as a result, I’ve gotten a lot of attention from all kinds of individuals of the opposite sex. I enjoy the attention and I have gone out on some dates.

Then, I finally opened myself up to someone. I realized that in this area of my life I had not demanded better in the past or even at this point. I had not set standards and expectations for the opposite sex. If there are no standards, then a person will do whatever he/ she thinks they can to you. A relationship should be mutually beneficial and both persons should feel as if their needs are getting met. If you have never decided what is important to you or communicated your needs to your partner, then you can’t have the relationship that you want and you can't provide them with the relationship that they want. (Note:  It is not what others feel is important to you.  It is about what is important to you and if that person meets your needs.)

So…..today…..I say I demand better.   Today, I am working to define what is important to me and what I want out of a relationship.  And, based on the attention, I know their is surely available mates out there.

Thank you pal for assisting me in this process! (Jerry Graise in Missouri at Facebook.com.  He has lot of friends.  Feel free to contact him.)

Carbs pre op was one of my friends. I loved them. I had them all the time.

Carbs post op and almost two years out I don’t have them a lot but when I want them I do have them. 

I can process them better than sugar. This is bad. 

I usually don’t have more than one piece of bread with any meal. 

For instance, I am really thinking about a turkey burger for lunch right now. I would likely have a turkey burger for lunch with either the top or bottom of the bun. It will take lunch and snack to finish it all. 

I try not to eat too many carbs because they are slider calories and I can take in more of them than chicken, etc. which is more dense and fills me up quicker.

I have carbs in moderation and I try to eat in moderation.

Our tool will work if we work it!!!!!!

 Have a great day!!!!!

How do I gauge my weight loss or maintenance?

 I do not get on the scale like I use to. I do occasionally check though. 

For me, I have some a couple pairs of pants that I use. I know if the pants get too tight. I am “fluffy”.  If they are loose and I can wear them with a crease, then I am on point.  Today, I can fit in my pants so I am feeling pretty good.

How do you monitor your weight loss and/ or maintenance?