Stresses... finding a way to manage

Nov 16, 2010

To say that this has been a tumultuous year for my family is a major understatement. My husband lost his job in January of 09. In January 2010 we got a call indicating that my FIL who was the primary caregiver for my invalid MIL was ill and needed care. I flew to CA to care for him and we discovered he was dying of metastatic lung and liver cancer. He passed away in hospice in February. I stay in CA following my FILs passing to help care for my invalid MIL. My mother who had lived with me here in NC had returned to CA and there were significant strains between my siblings and myself that precluded my ability to see my mother often while I was in CA. My mother passed away in late March. I flew back to NC in April and this summer we lost the home we had in with my mother. The difficult move was made more difficult because of the actions of my siblings and that their actions further tainted what should have been a joyous occasion; the marriage of our second son. Things seemed to start to get better when my husband was able to get a contract job, but that position was unexpected cut short. We have no reserves left and now no income. He is looking everywhere for anything. So far, not much at all. 

All of this stress is really impacting us from every direction including eating... we are doing all that we can to try eat well, but that too is a struggle. I'm struggling to eat enough and keep my weight up. Ben is struggling to not over eat and keep his weight down. 

I need to find a way to manage this stress, but I'm not sure what to do or how to do it. I'm trying to reach out for support. I'm trying to actively identify those things that are good in my life. I'm trying to stay in the 'moment' because the future is so very frightening. I'm really struggling to take care of myself and I'm not doing as a good a job of it as I would like. I'm struggling to get in all of my supplements, eat enough protien, get enough complex carbs and limit the simple carbs. 
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