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Surgeon TestimonialKuldeep Singh, M.D.My first impression of Dr. Singh was that he was a funny guy, a jokester. I went to one of his seminars and he was very personable, taking time to answer what I now know must be mundane questions. Over time, my appreciation for his good naturedness increased. He answered all of my questions (sometimes twice) and was available before and after my surgery for anything needed. His office staff is superb. He works with a nutritionist who has been of great help to me through my journey. His bariatric coordinator makes sure we keep our food diary and knows how to deliver tough love in a gentle way. Dr. Singh emphasizes after care. His office holds a support group meeting once a month and patients are told they are welcome to come into the office anytime they need. There have been times when I went in between appointments to get an accurate weight for myself and was always greeted warmly. I was told of the risks of my surgery beforehand and had the opportunity to talk to both my surgeon and my PCP about them to make sure I felt comfortable. Overall, I would say that Dr. Singh is a first class surgeon.
- Fitness & Exercise - I love doing treadmill and the elliptical machine!
- Music - I like a little bit of everything. Currently digging Katy Perry a lot.
- Fashion - OMG!!! I have the ULTIMATE passion for fashion
- Horror - I love a scary movie. Boo!
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Describe your behavioral and emotional battle with weight control before learning about bariatric surgery.
In short, I've always been overweight. I was born 9 lbs., 3 oz. I was a big kid who grew into a big teenager who grew into a big woman. This wasn't so much of a problem for me until about 2001, after the birth of my second child, when my weight surpassed 300 lbs. This was the heaviest I'd ever been and following a breakup with the father of my two daughters, I began to descend into a cycle of negative feelings and unhealthy eating behaviors. I consider myself a food addict who has a tendency to medicate with food.
Happy New Year Peeps! on December 31, 2008 1:30 pm
2009!!! WOOOOOO!!! So much excitement to look forward to. Seeing the first African-American citizen sworn in as President. My first Valentine's Day in forever where I have a boyfriend. My first springtime/summertime as a non-obese person. Life is absolutely wonderful and in 2009 I am going to live it like it's golden!
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My New Year's Wish for all of you is to do the same. Live, love, laugh, enjoy the changes and the challenges and always, always, always bring your A game.
See you all next year!
I need a resolution! on December 29, 2008 2:24 pm
So what's your New Year's Resolution?
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If you let out a chuckle when I asked that, you're at about the same place I am--knowing that New Year's Resolutions don't work!!! So let's talk about what does work...
For some people long-term planning is really effective. They make a big goal and then work fervently towards it. I admire people who can keep the big picture in the forefront of their minds. For me, when faced with some big, seemingly far-off goal, the here and now temptations seem so comforting. I am not good at being confident that I will eventually cross the finish line.
I fall into the other main category of people: those who make resolutions every day. Every day I wake up and I resolve to do the things that are required of me--be it the things required by my decision to have RNY or my decision to be a single mother or the things required of my from my decision to be a professional writer. To me, it's easier to resolve not to do something today. Because today, for me, is manageable.
I'm not saying either way is better than the other, but what I am saying is that most people fall into one of those two categories (or some variation) and it IS important for you to know which suits you best. If you're a long-term person, the upkeep of daily goals might be nerve wracking for you. If you are a day-by-day person, the enormity of a long-term goal may overwhelm you into failure. Take heart--both ways are ok and both ways work, but only if you work them!!!
So this week I challenge you to figure out what kind of motivation suits you best and start to incorporate that into your life. To give you a head start, I'll tell you that today I resolve to:
1. Drink at least 64 oz. of water
2. Eat at least 70g of protein
3. Do at least 40 minutes of cardio
4. Spend at least 30 minutes playing Wii with my children
5. Clean my bedroom
I have not reached the end of any of these daily goals yet, but they are well on their way. I hope you find resolution in each and every thing you do. Don't wait until Thursday, get started now!
Have a great week.
A Three-fer... on December 15, 2008 4:38 am
The Best of my family anecdotes
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"If nothing changes, nothing changes."
When I was a kid that saying, this one from my mom, used to get on my nerves so bad. I'd mock her, mouthing the words as she would say them. As an adult I find this saying comforting and scary at the same time. In the last few months I've become keenly aware of my food addiction. Whereas I could hide it behind many other things before, now it is staring me in the eyes and I don't like it. I don't like that life is a collection of choices. I don't like that the responsibility is always, constantly on me to make the choices that are healthy. I am angry that I can't just "wing it" sometimes. That never works and I know it. So I have to do something that is very different for me. I have to plan, I have to recognize my weaknesses, I have to ask for help. Because if nothing changes, nothing changes.
"Excuses are tools of incompetence. They build monuments of nothingness and those who specialize in them seldom accomplish anything."
My mom used to say this one too. I think it came from the rooms of her AA meetings. This saying is one of my favorites because it calls bullshit on all the lies we tell ourselves to justify bad behavior. I was talking last night to a lady thinking about having weight loss surgery. She was telling me all the things I used to tell other people before my surgery. I don't have a problem with food. I just eat a little too much. There's something wrong with my thyroid. If I could just take more walks I'd probably be fine. I'm the healthiest fat person I know. All excuses, all built to cushion the harsh reality of what we have let ourselves become. I've learned to at least recognize when I'm making excuses (that's progress, right?). I try to call myself on the excuses I make and to make a different decision (because if nothing changes, nothing changes). Some days it's easier than others.
"I want to smell my roses BEFORE my funeral."
My grandmother used to say this and I never knew what the heck it meant. She and my grandfather had one of those kind of deep loves that is so rare and beautiful. My granddad never married again after my grandmother succumbed to breast cancer in 1984. My mom carries this saying around with her and uses it very, very often. Usually it is the impetus for buying me a gift (smile). What I take it to mean is that so often we don't enjoy one another on a day to day basis. I get so caught up in being the "single mom" and working and building my career that I forget to enjoy my children. I am so concerned with getting to some magic number on a scale that will make me like myself that I forget to enjoy the process of this journey. One of my many New Year's Resolutions is to start smelling my roses, enjoying what's good about my life now instead of waiting until I get to some milestone point.
So there you have it. That's the best of what I got in familial anecdotes. I lay them out there to challenge myself to draw inspiration from other sources. These continue to inspire and strengthen me everyday but...(once again...everybody this time) if nothing changes, nothing changes.
Have a great week.
On Generosity... on December 8, 2008 10:21 am
This week I had two very unique experiences with two polar opposite people. Both shall remain unnamed.
The first person has no understanding of the concept of generosity. This person looks at things as status symbols, badges of his/her own self worth. Good works are works that get the things (money, possessions, etc.). All other works are wastes of time and are useless. When I encounter such people, my natural inclination is to show them generosity, not to shame or embarrass them but in hopes that they may know the sense of fulfillment and satisfaction that comes with stepping out of our little self centered universe and giving of ourselves to others.
The second person is very, very generous. This person, through no asking or external provocation, gave me a gift. It was a simple gift but something that meant so much to me. It wasn't the thing that meant so much but the thought and energy that it took to put it all together. To know that I linger in the hearts and minds of anyone is awe inspiring to me, but to see the tangible result of someone thinking of me, of my life, of my needs, and responding is just touching and I feel honored to be the recipient.
I mention these two people because it is Christmas-time. Gift giving time. These two people have changed my perspective on gift giving. My children and I collect pocket change throughout the year to do a donation of some sort at Christmas-time. This year, I am inspired to actually sit down with them and think out where that money should go instead of donating it to whatever famous organization beckons for it. And in my giving to my family, I have tried and will continue to try to do things with them everyday, but on gift giving occasions I'll give gifts that speak to who they are, what they are passionate about. To do this says "I know you. I care about you. You are worthy."
So anyway...that's really random, but it's my inspiration for the week. As you shop for presents and prepare for your holiday, I hope the spirit of generosity overtakes you and brings you joy, fulfillment, and peace.
Have a great week.
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