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Lael Forbes
Dr. Forbes is an awesome Dr. She tells you how it's going to be, and demands that you follow instruction. Dr. Forbes wants to make sure that you are going to be compliant as a pre op as well as post op. I have had many instances of having to call her, and she has met me every single time with a smile and a warm comment. Dr. Forbes and Dr. Posner are strict on people doing the South Beach diet and exercise program they set out for you during your consult. If you plan on being non compliant in the begining, be prepared to have a long wait. This diet and exercise regimine is crucial for you to meet and exceed your weightloss goals...and thiers.rn She was with me through every complication that I had making sure that I was ok. She is almost like a mother hen when things don't go right, but I truly appreciate her for that. She is very knowledgable at her craft, and is caring. I was very happy with all of my medical treatment. And was very happy that she did not hesitate to call on Dr. posner when she wasn't sure about something. I give her an A plus for all her efforts.There are no amount of words that I can say to you to thank you for giving me back a life where I am part of it and not sitting on the sidelines watching it go by. Thanks Dr. Forbes for making this possible for me. May God watch over those hands of yours as you give this wonderful gift to others.rnrnWith much love to you and your staff,rnMonicarn
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  • Comment by swangirl on 12/13/06 8:15 pm
    Moni, thanks for signing my support page! It means so much to me! Wishing you all the best!
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    Congratulations and Wishing you all the best on your weightloss surgery journey! Linda/Bactrac/swangi rl Name/CB handle/me post op
  • Comment by Dedee on 2/14/06 11:37 am
    Monica, I just read your profile...I can hear the excitement and sincerety in your typing. Congras on your success.
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Can anyone tell me why?
posted on 6/21/09 11:32 am

Ok, this is a rant post so if you can't deal with the topic stop reading now and move on.  What I am asking about is coming from a black womans point of view....but i'm not saying that anyone from other races don't deal with this.  So here goes.

Why is it that black men think they are complimenting you when they tell you that....you looking a little thick in those jeans....your azz is fat (F-A-T not P-H-A-T) or my personal favorite....you gettin' a little healthy and fillin' out those clothes.  What the hell? 

For years, I have fought with my weight...and just as I FINALLY get comfortable in my own skin I get some azzhole telling me i'm getting fat.  What the hell?  Why can't they just say you look nice? why not just say those jeans look nice.  But no, I have to be reminded that i'm fat.  because instantly I begin to scrutinize my weight and how i look.  I question everything about me yet again.

In my head, I know it's a compliment.  But in my dark side of my mind I am back to the fat woman I was before my WLS.  I get so tired of jumping through that hoop.  Wondering if I will ever totally feel like a human being....without all the doubts and second guesses. 

Men need to realize how the power of thier words affect us....but I doubt they ever will.  Will this vicious cycle EVER end?  I finally told that guy to stop saying anything to me because he was only making my struggle with my weight even worse.  He apologized....tried to explain....but the damage was already done and I told him I didn't want to hear it.

I am so tired....emotionally i'm drained.  This journey is a rough one.  It's almost been 4 years since my surgery and I just don't see where it has helped me.  Yes it has gotten rid of the health issues and made my body change....but it has made me a basket case....never feeling normal for any long periods of time.  Just when I feel a little secure....someone says something to send me back into the abiss.  Can anyone relate to what i'm talking about?  Guess i've gotten this rant out of my system...thanks for listening.  Talk to you soon.

M


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