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Aaron G. Baggs M.D.
Aaron was a fabulous surgeon! He was very hands on, friendly and warm. He did an excellent job and I have had no complications or issues since my surgery 6 months ago. I highly recommend Dr. Baggs to anyone at Kaiser who is considering this surgery. He was very straightforward and honest.
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My accountability - back on track I say!
on April 5, 2007 12:01 pm
Its been a while since I"ve posted..and trust me, its not because I've not thought of it every day.. I"ve just had a really intense family emergency going on for the past month that is finally over... but now, I need to face the music...and please know, I'm not letting the past 3 weeks of drama be an excuse for what I've written below..I'm also not going to beat the crap out of myself.. but I do need to get back on track..so here it is -

Okay, so I'm going to focus on the positive first off... I'm trying this whole "law of attraction thing" focusing on what we want instead of what we "don't" want... I have not gained weight in the past 2 months, and for this I am thankful...As difficult as this is, it is a good thing..and the battle is far from over..I am happy if I stay at this current weight...
On another positive note, I'm still working out every week. I look forward to my spin classes 2x a week and I also enjoy bike riding with my husband and walking our huge dogs as often as we can do this. I find less time to watch TV and movies, and focus more on keeping my house up to my specs and doing little projects.

and now the accountability..

I also haven't lost any weight. I am just terrified that now that the scale has stopped, I'm going to start back in the other direction. NOT an option for me

I've noticed in the past 3 weeks the balance has tipped a bit and I have noticed my size 8's are no longer "baggy", but fit just right again.. and some of my 10's are wearable again.. This is not acceptable to me. I will not allow myself to use the excuse that everyone is giving me. I spent the last 3 weeks taking care of my mother, who almost died due to bad health care and this was a High stress situation. I ate my way through it... And that was WRONG!!! I cannot use this as an excuse to fall off the horse. I need to find another way, outside of food, to deal w/ these difficult situations, as they will continue to happen throughout my life.

I've noticed some things that I am right now changing that i started doing in the past few months (no judging please, I'm just being accountable for my own needs and just need to put this down on paper per say).
1. I've started "snacking" between meals. I've found I can eat every 2 hours, no matter how much what I ate earlier bothered me (mostly because I probably ate too much). This has stopped TODAY. NO more "party in the mouth" NO more day snacking.
2. I've started snacking at night in front of the darned boob tube..salty, low fat snacks, but carbohydrate types...and I know better! We all do right? "a little won't hurt.." well, yeah, not now..but a little here and a little there ads up right? Well, that stopped as of Tuesday night. Nothing goes in my mouth after 8pm. (we often eat dinner late)
3. I have gotten once again addicted to regular caffeinated coffee/latte's. and I'm stopping that NOW! I'm switching back to decaf. Thank GOD I am still not able to drink the sugary, high fat, milky stuff..I'm lactose intolerate and sugar in large quantities makes me soooo sick to my stomach. Please god, don't ever let this change.
4. I have been eating too fast again, and find that if I eat something "bready" or dry, that it gets caught and I have to chuck it up....and then I justify that w/ eating more, because I chuckedup what I just tried eating... well, once I chuck something up, I seem to have more room in the pouch, so I eat even MORE! That too is stopping NOW!.
5. Portion size.. it has gone up.. I'm up to 1 - 2 cups per meal... and I shoudl NEVER eat more than 3/4 of a cup total at any given meal. So, that is going to change as of today.
- I've realized that the "quick weight loss" is now over..here starts the part where I must maintain my weight for the REST of my life. Because this was my one shot.
6. food choices have gone downhill a bit. I'm able to eat pasta's and breads, chips again...and that is NOT okay. I need to eliminate those from my diet, and start cooking the high protein, low fat nutritioinist stuff that I was making before. Traveling is no excuse for this. There are healthy food choices out there. I need to remember " I am eating to live, not living to eat."

These are my affirmations, this is my "kick myself in the @ss and get back on track before I'm so far gone there is no returning". I know, you've ("you" as in the board collective) told me and others that this is a gift that MANY are still waiting for, and for me to backslide (even this little bit), is almost like taking this gift for granted. I WILL not take this gift for granted! I know this is a 1 time ticket to change my life, to have my health be perfect..to have my closet be full clothing that has only 1 number on the tag, To not be afraid of a camera, or video camera.. To love the way I look, saggy skin and all! To be know that I can go on any ride, sit in any airplane, drive in any car or vehicle, and I'm going to fit comfortably. No more fear of walking into stores like Bebe, or Victoria's Secret and getting dirty looks because I don't belong..

I don't EVER want to forget my biggest fear, my constant nightmare..which is that I will gain all of my weight back, and my "before" photos will be the skinny one's, and my after photos will be me back in my size 24's and hiding from the camera, and secluding myself from the world again. This fear is one I hope that I can always hold on to, so I never ever, ever let myself get there again.

So that is it.. I hope that folks can understand why I needed to do this, and not judge too harshly. We all make mistakes, the key is to learn from them.. right? Thanks for your time..
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Okay, so standard story..I have been heavy most of my life..except at birth, I was underweight at a whopping 5lbs 7oz (or so I've been told). I have been actively battling with my bulge since I was 24 years old. It was not until I left the comfortable confines of Lake Tahoe, where I was raised and moved into the Bay Area that I realized how overweight I was. Not that folks in Tahoe are obese, its just that they didn't seem to be bothered by it as much. 
The bay area introduced me to Weight Watchers, The Atkins Diet, Cabbage Soup Diet, South Beach Diet and Jenny Craig. I was 270lbs+  when I went on my first serious dieting binge and this was a year and a half before my wedding. I dropped about 65lbs..got my self down to 215lbs before the wedding..thought I looked great... and then tore my ACL skiing...and it all came back..brought its friends..  So, in 2004, I started looking into Bariatric Surgery..and by February of 2005, I had decided. My doctor referred me as I had 2 co-morbidities and family history of diabetes and heart disease, not to mention obesity. After a few extra speed bumps at the end of 2005, including the death of my grandmother I got my head on straight, did what Kaiser asked of me and finally got my date - May 8th, 2006. That was the happiest day of my life since my Wedding. I was born again, and now I have re-surfaced as a happier, healthier, thinner and ultimately more confident woman. It has positively affected my life and I hope it continues to do so... Now, its almost time for the plastic surgeries to start... one of the few drawbacks of the rapid weightloss...but one I can live with! :) Thank God for Dr. Aaron Baggs! I had a completely uneventful surgery and recovery at Richmond Kaiser. I'm having a very easy weight loss, and my small issues are too small to even mention. I know I am blessed.

Weight Loss Journal -
Date of Surgery 5/8/2006 5/08/2006 - 244.2 -       MONTHLY WEIGHT -          TOTAL

6/26/2006     209.9          -34.3 lbs                  - 34.3 lbs

7/31/2006     192.0lbs      -17.9 lbs                  - 52.2lbs

8/27/2006     183.3lbs       - 8.7  lbs                  - 60.9lbs

9/25/2006     174.9            -8.4  lbs                  - 69.3

10/29/2006   164.4           -10.5lbs                  -80lbs

11/30/2006   159.6            -4.8lbs                  -84.6lbs

12/31/2006   152.3             7.3lbs     -91.9lbs (total of over 100 lost in 2006)

01/29/2007 145.3              -6.7                        -98.0lbs

04/02/2007  147.9             +2.6lbs :(             -96.3lbs (what is going on here? I need to get back ON track)

04/10/2007 146.4              -1.5lbs                 -97.8lbs YAY! doing better! still not perfect, but doing better!)

05/01/2007 143.8              -2.6lbs YAY!        -100.4lbs OMG! I did it! 100lbs!
06/05/2007 141.8              -2lbs                     -102.4lbs (can't believe I'm still losing!)
08/14/2007 142.0               +.2lbs                  -102.2lbs I'm liking the maintenance. (started running)
11/24/2008 150.00              +8lbs                   -94.2lbs NOT LIKING THIS!
1/18/2009 141.2                   - 8.8lbs               -103lbs YAY!!! (reset the pouch via appendectomy)  ugh

I found this on my old profile.. wanted to update it for 2007. I used to never think I'd do any of these things..and I've done em all! 1/2/2007

1. Weigh less than 200 lbs - DONE 7/14/2006!!
2. Wear anything in my closet, and it looks great - DONE 7/30/2006
3. be light enough, my husband can carry me to bed.... - DONE 8/7/2006
4. Run into old boyfriends/crushes and be confident they are having regrets..he he - DONE!!! just this past weekend over New Years in Tahoe! It was FLIPPING the BEST feeling.
5. Run into skinny "snob-squad brats" that I went to high school with and treated me like crap because I was 15lbs heavier than they were, and be skinnier than they are now... - Done, 1/2/2007
6. Go into any store..and be able to wear anything on the rack.. under a size 10. - DONE! this past weekend, Got a size 6 skirt at JCPenny's and size 4 pants at Macy's!!! 
7. Go sky diving - DONE - sort of..I did a Canopy Tour in November of 2006.. 
8. Go to an amusement park and not be worried about being stuck in the seat - DONE 8/18/2006 (state fair)
9. bend over in public and not worry about falling over on my way back up - DONE 7/15/2006
10. Go camping with my best friends and not feel secretly jealous because they are so skinny and can hike much easier than I can. Be able to wear a pair of short shorts and a halter top and know I don’t' look ridiculous. Not feel self conscious about setting up a tent and my flabby arms blowing in the wind. - DONE 7/21/2006
11. get in and out of my car without having to heave myself out - DONE 6/15/2006
12. Walk confidently into a room without feeling that everyone is looking at me and thinking "oh my god! how did she let herself get so fat!" - DONE - 7/07/2006
13. Never hear someone tell me "but your face is so pretty, if only you lost some weight" ever again- I think this is DONE! 7/06 (now I get OMG- Your face is so thin, stop losing!)
14. Have my mother in law stop commenting about my weight and stop giving me "diet tips". - DONE! (she is now jealous!) 7/06
16. Go river rafting w/o worrying of the life vest will fit - DONE! (tried on a life vest, M - ladies fit.)
17. Go skiing w/o wondering if my boots will pinch my fat feet or if I fall, will my ass hang out of my 3xl ski pants and wondering if I can pull my 260lbs self back up from the ground without breaking my poles. - DONE! going skiing this weekend..have to buy all new gear.. and get ski's adjusted to match my current weight.
18. Walk on a beach in nothing but my swimsuit and feel confident - Almost done..still have a little big of hanging skin to worry about, but did this in Mexico - November, 2006
19. Take my dog on a walk everyday and not be worn out after 5 min. of walking. - DONE 6/30/06
20. Keep up with my active Husband..actually... out do him - DONE - I now do spin class 2 days a week and yoga.. and the house is spotless! too much energy! I now have to drag HIM out of the house! :)
21. Borrow my skinny friend’s clothes - DONE! 8/16/2006  (Buddy Chaundra gave me all of her 14-10 size pants.. I can fit into the 14's!) 9/1/06 - fit into the 12's! 1/2/2007 - I am now too small for ALL of Chaundra's clothes!
22. Put on my old high school prom dress...and have it be too big. - DONE! (I didn't think I was that big in highschool...yikes)
23. Pose for thousands of pictures, without hiding behind children or my husband. - DONE 8/1/2006
24. Be anything I want to be for Halloween, not be limited to the "plus sized" options." - DONE - 9/30/2006 I got a Medium costume!