Name: RHONDA FROM KY
Username: GUTTERGIRL
Location: ALEXANDRIA, KY, USA
Member Since: 6/30/2003
BMI: 28.3
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Surgery Type: RNY (05/05/04)
Surgeon: Keith Gersin, M.D.

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Comment by tnvolette on 7/14/07 8:59 pm

(((((Rhonda))))))))) ) Happy Surgiversary (although it's a little late). You are such an inspiration to all of us with your kindness and encouragement. Congrats on ALL you have accomplished in the past 3 years. I wish you all the best and hope that the next time you're in TN you'll give me a shout. Love ya, Linda

Comment by Sassy Cathy on 5/25/07 5:27 am

Oooooooopsy! I missed your surgiversary :( You're doing great and Ron and I wish you all the best things in life! Keep up the awesome work! Happy birthday, too. Geezsh ... I'm way late on lotsa stuff .... LOL Enjoy life, lady ... you're a great woman and deserve the bestest!!

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I'm struggling..
on March 11, 2008 8:30 am

in my life right now.. it's been a very hard and complicated journey or what I like to say Life Lesson. Altho what I see on the ridge.. I KNOW is worth the long walk it's taking me to get there. I hate that I have to put myself before others.. but.. I believe that is what part of this life lesson is about. I still have to take care of me.. mentally, physically and emotionally/spiritually. Otherwise.. I'm not good for anyone and I have to know that I AM worth it. I AM deserving of happiness and good out of life. I know that God has an amazing future instored for me.. I am still young enough to live it!!

I read the other day that sometimes, feelings come out *sideways* and I believe that.  It doesn't make it right or wrong.. it just happens.  I think by being human we are not sure how we truly feel on some situations at the time.  So to cope.. those feelings come out sideways.. and eventually work their way into feelings that are true and clear.  Or sometimes.. they just stay sideways.. and we learn to work around them.

I have been reading alot of motivational daily readings to help me get thru this lesson and it's been very rewarding.. rather than *self-medicate* or drink.. as I'm sure is how I handled stress in the past. I still DO NOT want or care to drink alcohol anylonger.. I see how it effects others and see it destroy their life and I know I want and deserve better than that. I am blessed that GOD has taken the crave away from me.. TODAY.   I will try to stay in contact with God so that it's His love and support that I always seek and not a person or drug.

I've not written here in awhile.. and just thought that if I wrote down some of what I'm feeling.. I will feel better.  Thanks to all who offer support and their love/friendship to me.

until I feel the need again, love to all!!

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my journey lately..
on January 24, 2008 4:36 am

Ann from the Sexy Board posts daily quotes.. and I love them. Yesterday it was this one..

"Everything will be okay in the end. If it's not okay, it's not the end."
~Unknown

I like that .. and I WILL have faith in GOD that I will be OKAY!!

I'm also most grateful for my work.. and especially the girls I work with.. MY GOD.. I would most certainly think that I am one f-up individual if it wasn't for my coworker friends around me and the stories we share of our daily lives. I wonder how many people realize.. actually realize that they are NOT so unique.. that they are not the only ones with problems.. crisis.. ups.. and downs. I am learning that each and everyone of us have almost the same battles that I do.. it's just a difference in how each of us handle the battles.

I am still sober.. I am working much overtime right now.. I am still living with Daniel.. I am selling on Ebay and loving it.. I am OKAY.. but I don't believe that this is the end. I believe that I am just a corner away from running across another challenge.. lesson.. battle.. I don't think I will be done with those until I lay down to sleep one night and never wake up! And THEN.. another adventure will begin

I'm sounding kinda morbid.. LOL.. but I think I'm just reflecting and probably reflecting too deeply.. lol. So I guess I'll just close now and get to work.

My weight is holding about steady.. I may be up a couple pounds. I never weigh.. but if I just watch it this weekend (which I usually do) I'll be about average as to where I've been past year or so.

Thanks to all who visit and read my posts.. now you know more about me. If you ever wanna look me up.. I can be found on the Addictions Board, Family and Friends Board and Sex Before/After Board. Please feel free to reach out and say HI to me!!

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10 Months Sober and life..
on September 19, 2007 6:54 am

Well... yesterday was my 10 month sobriety day.. and I went to Falmouth for a 8pm AA meeting. While there I shared that it was my 10 month anniversary.. and that I still have no sponsor.. nor have I worked the steps. I met a lady there last week named Dianne. I thought I may ask her to sponsor me. So last nite.. I got the courage to kinda ask.. I asked if she would.. or if we could get to know each other first.. *not sure really what I asked her now..

*.. but we chatted briefly, and she gave me her number telling me to call her so we could get to know each other.

Also another lady asked me to join her and some others for the 8pm Promises meeting tonight. I think I may.. just to broaden my SOCIAL connections. Also.. Dan just called.. he's on his way to Ft Wayne, IN for work... said he may not get back for the 5:30 meeting.. so he may join me tonite. I hope sooo, it will be nice if he can.

And I also need to take time to call Dianne.. perhaps I can do that Thursday nite depending on rather I go to the meeting in Falmouth care unit.

That's about it.. life is going pretty good. Just working on me some more.. and I know that's going to be a lifelong process.. but a new seed is planted.. and now I just have to nuture it.. so it will grow!!

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My pleasure..
on September 10, 2007 5:09 am

to attend the wedding of Mel and Jay whom I've known for many years from the Single's Board. Another couple, who's found love thru having this surgery and meeting on the OH Single's site. AWESOME!! Dan and I left Saturday morning and arrived in Cleveland, Oh around 1:30 at our hotel.

We ate at a mexican restaurant.. and then found a couple stores to visit until it was time to go back to the hotel and get ready for the wedding.

We arrived at the Rock and Roll Hall of Fame a little after 6.. took some pictures.. looked at the sites. The wedding was beautiful.. the bride and groom were stunning. It was the 1st time I got to meet Jay and Mel.. and as I watched Mel walk towards the stage glowing.. and watched Jay grinning from ear to ear.. I cried!! I was just sooo happy for both of them.. I felt like I was Jay's sister.. just thrilled for the happiness that he has in his life now. Dan and I sat at a table with Jay's sister, niece and cousin.. they all cried too. Tears of happiness is a good thing..

I hope that someday we are able to meet back up with them.. I would love to spend more time to get to know them in person.

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My life is improving..
on August 2, 2007 7:00 pm

As previously updated.. Dan had relapsed and it was very difficult. He made the choice to go back into rehab. He's made a meeting everyday so far.. and many days two meetings. He had a spiritual awakening.. and since his teens is beginning to accept that there is a Higher Power that can work in his life if he asks for it. Due to his hard work and open mind and heart.. the PROMISES are starting to be fulfilled for him. Example.. he started a new job this past Monday July 30th, 2007. At first he had doubt about it.. and was going to turn it down.. but after calling.. he found that it would not be over the road driving except for "maybe" one or two nights a week.. if that. Which was the concern with his sobriety. He felt he could handle that.. and the owner had him come in and just ride with a driver to see if he would like it... that was Monday and he's been back each day. It's a little stressful for him.. with learning a new city/town.. and re-learning to drive a stick shift.. not to mention just getting back to work after being on disability so long.. but he's doing it... one day at a time!

Soooo... with all this good stuff for him.. of course it's also made my life less stressful. With the help of AA and Alanon.. my life is getting better. I don't attend everyday.. I have maintained my SOBRIETY since 11-17-06. But the meetings are teaching and helping me thru my own issues. I still have not taken on a sponser nor worked the steps.. I am still struggling/working on if I need this for my own personal growth... I'm sure I probably should do this.. but have not found a "group" to work this in for Alanon. I do love my Thursday group.. but it's much less Alanon structured and more casual. So we shall see.. but on a good note..I'm still sober.. and still learning and becoming more "at ease" again as I let Dan work his program.. and I work mine!

So other than work.. then AA/Alanon.. some little shopping trips.. and enjoying Family.. *celebrated mom and dad's 50th Anniversary July 7th* that's about it. Working on improving myself.. as Dan works on himself. We are getting stronger as individuals which will hopefully help us grow closer as a couple. Altho we are still approaching that slowly... Dan has a little over 30 days in.. it will be nice to see how well we both are after the 90 days 90 meetings.

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2007 SMOKEY MOUNTAIN SUNRISES

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2007 SMOKEY MOUNTAIN SINGLE'S BOARD BASH

2006 PORTERFIELD COUNTRY MUSIC FEST

I HAVE BEEN SEARCHING FOR A DOCTOR TO PERFORM THE RNY-LAP IN MY AREA. AFTER CALLING AND SEARCHING THE INTERNET, I BELIEVE I HAVE FOUND THE DOCTOR OF MY CHOICE. I WAS IMPRESSED BY HIS CREDIENTIALS AND THE COMMENTS FROM HIS PATIENTS. I HOPE TO SCHEDULE MY 1ST APPOINTMENT SOON!

12/22/03:
AFTER 3 INITIAL VIDEO/LECTURES, I HAVE DECIDED ON THE UC SURGEONS. I ORGINALLY WANTED DR. KEITH GERSIN, BUT ON MY PACKET
I DID NOT SPECIFY AS TO NOT DELAY MY SURGERY. I RECEIVED NOTICE
FROM THE UC CENTER THAT MY 1ST CONSULTATION WILL BE WITH DR. GERSIN ON 01/29/04. I WENT AHEAD AND SCHEDULED MY PSYCH VISIT FOR 01/05/04 AND WILL PLAN ON GOING TO THE SUPPORT GROUPS SESSION ON 01/15/04. I HAVE BEEN POURING MYSELF INTO READING OTHER PEOPLES BIOS AND JUST ADMIRING THEIR BEFORE/AFTER PHOTO SHOTS. I AM ANXIOUS AND EXCITED!!!!

03/04/04
Much has happened since last written. I went for my psych visit and also to the support group meeting. I had my consultation visit with Dr Gersen on 01/29/04. He wanted me to see heart doctor (had taken Phen Phen) and wanted me to have a EGD done since history of heartburn and GERD. Went to heart doctor (02/05/04) and he okayed everything. On 02/16/04 I found out my insurance approved THE surgery. (YEA) I went for the EGD on 02/24/04 and Dr Gersen found a couple ulcers so he placed me on medicine with follow up EGD on 04/06/04. I found out that my surgery was going to be 04/05/04, but now I have to wait for the followup EGD. Taking medicine and hoping all is well on 04/06/04 so that surgery will be shortly after. I did meet and spoke with a friends sister who also had the surgery. Come to find out she was treated by Dr. Gersen also. She was inspirational to me. She had no regrets!!! Neither will I..
04/14/04
I had my 2nd EGD on 04/06/04. I LOVE that medication they give ya!!! Dr. Gersin said I was good to go! I found out today that my surgery date is 05/05/04 @ 11:30. I go for pre-admission tests on 04/28/04. I e-mailed bariatric office with questions like when do I meet the dietician.. how long will the surgery take.. what can I eat before and when do I stop eating before surgery.... she emailed back and said to be patient. She will mail me information. I AM SOOOO HAPPY IN A NERVOUS I CAN'T WAIT I PRAY ALL GOES WELL TYPE OF ATTITUDE! It amazes me how all I hear about and see are people who are having this surgery now. I wish that all overweight people who are seeking this tool were blessed to have it (ie Insurance covered it). I know that my previous employment would not have covered it. I am blessed to find my current job 1 1/2 years ago and to find that they do cover this surgery. However, it's only a one in a lifetime shot... so I better make this tool work for me!!!!!! 05/03/04
Just 2 days before surgery. Last week was pretty stressful but this past weekend was good and today I am fine. I have come to terms with EVERYTHING. I have my Living Will to complete today and notorize and tomorrow I'll take mom to the bank to have her become a co-signer on my account. These are only pre-cautionary measures... all is going to be fine! But one never knows what the good Lord has planned. A very good friend on mine passed away a few years ago. She went in to have a cyst taken off her ovary and she died on the table. I think that's why I was stressing last week... just the realization of the possibility. Saturday my sister invited me to go with her and my brother-in-law to see my niece at UK. We took her out to eat because she has finals this week. I told her that she and I will be stressing... but as my sister said at least I get to sleep through mine. And then Sunday I met my mom and dad at Red Lobster and that was delicious! We then when to an antique mall and walked around. Today back to work to clean up my desk before disability... tomorrow I'm planning on going to Argosy Casino with my mom to do a little gambling. I will then finish up on last minute chores... sleep like a baby because for some reason I still have no problem falling asleep. And then the BIG DAY will be here..... I'm planning on going to my parents house for a few days after surgery so I will get to play on their computer and will post again!!!! NEXT POST I WILL BE ON THE LOSING SIDE......................................... 06/22/04
Well... all went extremely well. I went in on Wednesday 05/05. I had no problems with the anesthesia (didn't wake up with a headache or vomiting). I went to my room and that evening managed to walk once around the corridor. I panicked once when a night nurse came in to check stats and told me that I wasn't putting out enough liquid for what I was taking in. Of course I think right away (Oh know... my kidneys are shutting down). But when they gave me another IV quick dripped, it turned out that I was just dehydrated. So don't jump to conclusions too fast! My room was wonderful and so were the nurses and staff. I got up Friday morning and took a shower by myself. I was discharged and decided I wanted to go to my house instead of my parents. I went home and had no problems. Each day I felt a little better. I went back to the doctor for my 2 week check up and lost 19lbs. I returned to work yesterday 06/21/04 after a long deserved disability. It felt good to get back to a routine. I'm expermenting with different foods and have gotten sick just around 4/5 times. I go back to Dr. Gersin this Thursday. I am anxious to see what I've lost. I decided not to purchase a scale right away. I'm sure when my doctor visits are further apart then I'll break down and buy a scale. But right now I seem to be down around 2 sizes. I feel great. No regrets and I have had no depressions. Life is GOOD! 10-01-04
It has been a while since my last post! (Feels like a confession coming on here). I get on this site about everyday and look at the message board and before/after photos, but I have just been lazy in posting. I have been running out about every night and working everyday. Some times I have to make myself stay home so as to rest. I love going to Claryville and been going to Sand Trap. Met a man whom I enjoy his company but I know that it is only temporary as he has told me to not wait around on him but to enjoy my new life. And that I am planning on doing. I have another man interested in me but I fear I'm not as attracted to him. I don't think I want to go there.. with him. I think right now I am under the 200lb mark with about 70 lbs gone but I'm not certain. Last time I went for my rtn gyno I weighed 200 with 67lbs lost. But last week I know that I lost more as I feel it in my clothes. I have a date of 11/03/04 to get my tubes tied. I have been wanting that for a while and my gyno agreed that I can have it this time around. I leave next friday to go to Myrtle Beach with a very good friend Perri and her sister Drew. It should be a blast although this month I am scraping for money to cover bills. However, the room and board is free ocean view condo so I'll not pass up the opportunity. LIFE IS STILL GOOD.... LOVING LIFE!
11/01/04
Dear Diary,
Life is good for me right now. The one man I was interested in last month is still around. We are attracted to each other but he has "issues" to work out. I'm just trying to take it one day at a time. Although sometimes that is difficult. I just have to live my life and not let anything/anyone deter me from being the best I can right now. I'm not going to sit on the side lines waiting!!!! I've done that before and will not do it again.   "Glad I made that decision"! Reminds me... the one it happened with before is still around. We are just friends but I know that he cares a great deal for me. I am only wanting to remain friends. After time you forget what the issues were and wonder if things might be different now. But I don't think anything would be different and although he is a wonderful person, I don't beleive him to be the strong man that I need/want in my life as a mate. OKAY ENOUGH SAID ABOUT MEN.. amazing how when you lose weight that becomes more of an issue! This past saturday I went on a pub crawl for Halloween and had a ball. I dressed as a catholic school girl. I did drink and got some intoxicated. Fell on the dance floor and had to "sleep off" the last two stops. I went for Pre-Op testing today at St. Lukes West. I go in this Wednesday at 6:30am for tubes tied. I am not as nervous as with the gastro surgery. But still a little... I keep reflecting back to best friend Vicky Cooper Bell who passed on the table when having a cyst removed. Minor surgery, tragic outcome! You just never know... Well I weighed at the pre-op testing and it was 187 WHAOOOOOOO. That is 80lbs since 05/05/04. The anesthesia girl asked me if I was at goal and I told her no. She said she thought I looked good. LOVE THE COMPLEMENTS!!! But I still see/feel fat. Maybe not what I was but I can't comprehend what my body looks like compared to other body types. Perhaps when I see some Halloween pictures of myself that will help. Have a Great Day all. Loving life still... just a little mello today. Thinking about a lot and can't seem to get it out of my head!~ 11-05-04
Dear Diary,
Had my surgery (tubes tied) Wednesday and everything went so smoothly. I went in at 6:30 am and left at 10:30. My parents met me and brought me home. We stopped at Kroger's first and got home around 12. I took a nap until 3:30, got up and took a shower and went to Clary. Saw my "man" and had a good time there chatting with friends. We then went and played pool (I did pretty good, although I did miss one straight in shot for the eight ball (pissed me off)). We danced and had a good time!!   Today he's in my head alot and I can't get him out. Actually I'm not sure if I want to. Just living one day at a time. Planning on going to Kings Island Saturday with a friend from work. I haven't been there in years and told her it will be exciting to ride the rides now that I've lost weight. I use to love the coasters... hope I still do. Everyone take care and I'll write back later! 11/15/04
I went to King's Island and had a blast. I love roller coasters better than sex lol!!! I have just been busy working and playing. I went to the Claryville Turkey raffle Saturday and won a slab of bacon. Guess I'll be giving that to mom and sister. Also won a bottle of gin... guess I'll keep that! Went to a Bengal's tailgate party at Cline's Sunday and then back to Clary. I went home by 8 and fell asleep on the couch. I have to rest up because tonight will probably be a late one!! I still need to do more thinking about this situation.... I'm wanting more and I'm not convinced it's there to be had! 12/01/04
I went to see Dr. Gersen for 6 month check up 11/24/04 (although it will be more like 7 months). I am down 87lbs weighing in at 181. The blood work done came back all normal. I am feeling soooo good. For anyone thinking of having this surgery please understand that it has my blessings. An acquaintance of mine (Rodger) from Claryville is thinking of having this surgery. He is a BIG/short man and I was elated when he asked me about it. I gave him my surgeon's business card and told him it was the best thing I have done. The people at Claryville have been sooo supportive of me. I told him it had to be his decision, but my only regret is not having it done sooner. I am still seeing the man from previously. I had a Texas Hold'em Poker game Sunday and my friends from Clary came. I had a ball and ended up splitting 2 games. Later I went to Clary and then a few of us went to Timmy's house to shot pool. Went home late!! Luckily I was off work the next day and rested all of it. To back up a day or two... I went to my sister's house for Thanksgiving. Just ate a tablespoon of a couple things and was satisified. I tried to explain to my sister that food (right now) does not taste as good as what you remember it to be. Which is a blessing. Now you eat because you know your body needs it not because it really tastes sooo good. Oh well I seem to be rambling... my friend did invite me on a trip this Friday. However, he did that Sunday and I'm not certain if he truly understands or remember's inviting me. I told him yes. I'm hoping to see him tonight to see if I'm still invited. If he's not there tonight... think I will call him tomorrow. It should prove interesting. I WOULD LOVE TO GO WITH HIM!!! 12/07/04
To retrace my last post. I did speak to my friend but I did not attend the game with him. I'm not certain what's there at this time. I know I still care about him... and that's all I have to say about that. I recevied an email from an OH member. After tracing some roots.. it's believed that she is my 3rd cousin. Her grandpa and my grandpa were brothers. It's such a small world. Tonight I'm meeting with the girls from work at Buckheads for a little Christmas dinner. Afterwards I'm heading to Claryville for the social club meeting. I postponed my sleep study from tomorrow night until 12-21-04. I'm hoping to see my friend tomorrow night. I saw him last night but we didn't talk. I left early to go home. I think we need to have that talk but not sure if I'm ready... I'M STILL LOVING LIFE THOUGH... I'M STILL SOOO THANKFUL FOR THIS SURGERY!!! GOD BLESS EVERYONE AND MERRY CHRISTMAS AND HAPPY HOLIDAYS!!! 12/13/04
Well it's Monday and I had a pretty partying weekend. Friday Dottie, Debbie and I went to Grant's Lick for some karaokie singing/dancing. Of course none of us sing but we did dance alot.... Then Saturday I went to the Claryville social club christmas party. I had sooo much fun! They are some great friends... again I danced my ass-off!!! I haven't been much in the Christmas spirit... I still need to shop Urgggg! Next Saturday will be Kenny's surprise birthday party at Tim/Robins. That should prove to be another night of drinking and dancing!!! Not sure on my current weight or weight loss although I do believe I just had another good loss. I'm into size 12's pretty comfortable and I had to put my bra on the last notch. My shoulder's and back have been aching.. which is usually a sign of loss for me. I haven't gone down in cup size so I think the smaller frame is adjusting... hence shoulder pain. But who's complaining.... I'M NOT!!! LOVE LIFE...
12/21/04
Well... it's getting close to Christmas and I'm not ready. I get to go this evening for a follow-up sleep study and we're suppose to get hit with a winter storm tonight. I've been hanging out on the messageboards and enjoying the people I "meet" there. Last Friday ran into an ole' flame and he was surprised by my weightloss. He definitely wanted us to get together that night but I managed to hold him off (he's still married)! Saturday I went to Kenny's surprise 63 birthday party at Timmy/Robins. Had a BLAST.. dancing every song. Probably didn't leave there until 3:30am. Gary was there and came home with me. We had a good evening (from what I can remember) (kinda in-out like a foggy dream)... He left early that morning before I awoke though. Saw him again Monday (last) night and we danced together in Claryville. I left around mid-night and he did to. I went home and I think he went to Pond Creek. Didn't hear from him the rest of the night. Not sure what to think about it all... I try not to and just take life one day at a time. I figure when a man who is suitable for me arrives, I'll be ready. I have no commitments... Everyone have a safe evening and wonderful Holiday!!! 01/17/05
Well it's again been a while since posting. I had a wonderful holiday Christmas and New Year. I'm not sure on my weight these days as I don't get on a scale. I think I might be down about 100lbs. I really do need to check that out. I had a very.. very.. very nice weekend. Needless to say it involves a gentleman. I have been talking to a nice man in Sand Trap a few times. Well... let's say I got to know him a whole lot better Friday and Saturday night. He is very nice with what appears to be great traits. He seems to have a gentle heart but is a go getter/goal achiever. I'm hoping to get to know him better still and I hope he wants to as well. I am still loving life and I am still sooo Happy I had this surgery. If anyone is considering it.... please take the chance! It's a lifesaver!!!! Have a GREAT DAY.. hugs.... 02/11/05
The other day I finally broke down and bought a battery for my bathroom scale.... and I am officially a Century Club Member. I started this journey at 268lbs and weighed in at 162lbs. I'm feeling wonderful inside and out. The gentleman I met a month or so ago is still around, but I'm not so confident in his feelings towards me. When we're together it is sooo wonderful.... long personal talks and gentle carassing touches**. He attempted to call me at my house once, but that has been about 3 weeks ago. When I do see him (last sunday/monday) and we're together it's beautiful; when we're apart he's in my head, but I don't hear from him. However, in his defense... he is going through a VERY HARD TIME right now. His father is going through treatment for pancreatic cancer. He hoped that his father would be one of the 3% survivors, but last I talked to him... he didn't think his father was going to make it. He's very stressed and thought he may have to go to Maryland (John Hopkins) to be with him. So I'm trying to be a friend first... I want to comfort him, but don't want him to think I'm stalking (in-case he actually wants to dis-me). I did call and left him a VM last night... asking if he's well and if he needs/wants to talk to call me. He knows I care and now I think I just need to leave him be and see what happens from here. It's just difficult.. but not as difficult as what he's going through now. On a lighter-side... I'm loving the OH Boards and meeting some very nice and friendly people. I'm still loving my new life and Thank God for allowing it to happen. Anyone reading this... take care and have a wonderful weekend and Very Happy Valentine's Day!!!! 01/01/2006--**HAPPY NEW YEAR**
It's been quite a while.... I've just been doing normal life stuff. Working and playing.. My weight averages 144/148... it has been steady now for months. I am able to wear size 6/8 pants and some medium tops (although bossoms may 'cause me to get large tops). My new obsession is shopping at the Village Discount Store for clothes.. I love buying designer clothes at CHEAP..CHEAP.. prices. I love dressing up now... and buying FUN clothes. For new years I went to Kim's house for a party... and I wore fancy shoes with black tights, black skirt, black teddy and a silvery black metalic top over it. I thought I looked pretty damn nice!! lol... Just need to try and firm some problem areas... and since I joined Gold's Gym yesterday... perhaps I can make THAT my new 2006 obsession. I have been chatting with some AWESOME people from the BOARDS...and mainly the SINGLES BOARD... planning on attending THE SMOKEY MOUNTAIN SINGLES BASH in February and can't wait to meet what I like to think of as great friends... Heres to EVERYONE having a wonderful and bright year ahead.. be safe, healthy and enjoy life. It's a dance......
03/11/06- Returned home from the FIRST ANNUAL WLS SINGLES SMOKIES BASH... and I had a WONDERFUL time. I met sooo many wonderful and truly beautiful people. It's lifetime memories.. although I may have to be reminded on some of 'em.. LOL. I did meet poppa.. (whom I've posted to for a year or better with).. we always had great ONLINE BOARD CHEMISTRY.. but never more than that. We never really emailed or talked beyond the BOARD except an occasional 10 minute phone call to say Hi!! Well... without going into details.. (he knows and I know the details and that's enough) but him and I hit it off very well in the SMOKIES.. and he paid-off our bet with the LAP-DANCE..LOL.. We even arranged for him to come back to KY with me and we had a very enjoyable week together. He met my parents and friends and was liked by all. But then he's sooo personable who could not like him!! It was hard watching him leave but we talk daily and we're making plans for his return visit in MAY.. when some of us are getting together again for the 1ST ANNUAL KENTUCKY DERBY WLS SINGLES PARTY..LOL. Appears that THIS YEAR is the 1ST ANNUAL of many things.. :-) I hope everyone has a blessed journey.. mine has been and will continue to be so each and every day~~ MUCH LOVE TO ALL .... Rhonda 06/30/06 Friday eve..
Sitting at home listening to some tunes.. and reflecting!! So much has been going on since my last post... where do I begin?? Well... Daniel (aka Poppa) came home and visited with me from the SMOKIES BASH.. and we planned on him coming back in May
for the DERBY BASH.. Before he came we would talk eveyday on the phone.. emails.. posts.. chat-room.. if not once a day, then several times a day. And then he came.. and we had a wonderful time. We spent it with friends.. family.. and with each other. He stayed almost a month here and he got to share my 2 year SURGIVERSARY with me and my 45th BIRTHDAY!! We started making the plans of his moving here in KY with me.. and then he left and it was a little sad.. but not too great as we knew I would be going to visit him in Wisconsin in June so the wait was just a little over 2 weeks. And during that time, we spent it with the daily chats.. via email.. phone.. chat-room.. and he began some of the process of moving here. Finally the day came for my trip there!! I was soooo excited to see him and we had a wonderful time together.. Upon arrival we went and I met his sister Karen and his MOM.. and then that first nite he made dinner and we ate on the roof and then went fishing.. I caught a walleye!! I got to meet his brother and cousin's husband.. and then the following 4 days, we partied in Porterfield listening to GREAT COUNTRY TUNES.. I met his sister Jessica and more friends.. I got to meet Shannon and her boyfriend Mike who were both wonderful people! After the COUNTRY FEST.. we went camping/trout fishing at Long Slide and it was absolutely beautiful there.. Poppa calls it God's Country.. and he's RIGHT.. it is.. upon driving there a black bear crossed the road. I was trying to decide if a black bear is good or bad luck.. and soon learned that when a black crosses your path ~at least in the car~~ it's GOOD LUCK.!! Poppa and I caught our quota on trout each time.. we saw butterflies.. frogs.. baby snake and stars!! Altho.. the stars are pretty blurry to me now..LOL.. We were gonna spend 2 nites there but on the second evening it began raining so we packed it up and headed home! Other days we ran and did errands still preparing for his move and visited. On Thursday he had a bus trip and I got to ride along. First we went to the Pestigo Fire Museum and I learned ALOT of history there.. and then I got to meet the wonderful people that he picks up and takes on their planned outtings. We went to the Marina and listened to a man play some blues.. but it was down-right frigid.. so we only stayed an hour. The poor people were sooo cold.. I'm just glad we didn't drop them off and leave.. to pick them up later. They (Stella) would have frozen her hinnie off..LOL.. and I fell in love with Bobbie.. he showed me his pics of his bike and played his harmonica for me and even sang a Hank Williams SR song. It was priceless.. now I know why poppa will miss them!! And then on Friday nite his sister Jessica had a "farewell party" for me with cooking out.. leg wrestling.. ~his momma rolled me LOL~~ and a nice warm hugh bon-fire. For a change, poppa tuckered out first and I got to put him to bed.. altho we may not have gone to sleep right away.. LOL..   Saturday we did some laundry and went to an antique store and browsed.. came home and mellowed before my flight home Sunday. And then.. I left Sunday.. but knowing Poppa was moving here at the end on July.. so just a little bitter/sweet!! So.. now it's the end of June and the 4th of July will be here soon.. and hopefully the end of July sooner.. Soooo as you see .. so much has happened since my last post!! I'm living life and loving it.. and can't wait to share it with an awesome person who I can chat with about ANYTHING.. and share moments with that are very personal.. I guess that's what you call a BEST FRIEND.. :-).. Hugs eveyone and I hope/pray that each of your journeys bring you much happiness as well... and even if some sadness follows you too just remember.. life is a dance.. enjoy each and every step!!

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