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  • Comment by Dx E on 5/31/07 8:30 pm
    John, Hope you’re on your way home and on the road to Health by now! It’s good to see more guys out here on Obesity Help. We make up a small minority of the people having Weight Loss Surgery, but tend to lose down quicker and with fewer hassles than the women due to Male Physiology. The first weeks can be rough, but remember “It Does get Easier…” Drop by the "Men's Message Board" at- http://www.obesityhe lp.com/forums/men/ -to see how other Guys are doing with their surgeries. A lot of info and advice specifically tailored to Men. I’m just dropping by to let you know that there’s a huge crowd of strangers out here pulling for you and holding you in our prayers. May you have a famously successful surgery and a record-breaking recovery! Be nice to the nurses, Enjoy the drugs when you can, and most importantly, hurry home and start walking away from those pounds and into a new Life! Best Wishes-
  • Comment by Kelly B. on 5/31/07 10:28 am
    Hi John, Hope your surgery went smoothly. Can't wait for you to join the loser's bench with all of us. Kelly
  • Comment by pmc01 on 5/30/07 9:15 pm
    Wishing you a smooth surgery & a speedy recovery John! Paula from Down Under
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I'm fortunate to have a fantastic life. Christine, my lovely wife of 17 years, is simply wonderful and supportive. We have five wonderful kids together. As my old college professor once said, "I wanted three kids and she wanted two, so we compromised and had five." The only thing I don't like and want to fix is my size. I'm very determined that I'm going to make this work for me. It's my brother Dale who turned me toward this direction. Without his support and encouragement, I may have overlooked this as an option. Thanks Dale! I've researched this and I'm ready to strap myself in, keep my hands inside the car, and remain seated until the ride comes to a complete stop. I love roller coasters and got booted off every single one the last time I visited a park....no more. Life is going to change. May God bless you all on your own journey.
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I did it...the little slide program
on June 7, 2008 3:18 pm
Starting Weight: 347 lbs.
Total Pounds Lost: 144

January 2007     12.5 lbs.      Wt.: 334.5
February 2007     5.5 lbs.      Wt: 329
March 2007          10 lbs.      Wt: 319
April 2007              4 lbs.      Wt: 315
May 2007              15 lbs. (Surgery date May 31st - Wt 300)
June 2007             23 lbs.       Wt: 277
July 2007              13 lbs.       Wt: 264
August 2007          17 lbs.       Wt: 247  (100 lbs. off in < 8 months)
September 2007   10 lbs.     Wt. 237
October 2007       12 lbs.     Current Weight: 224 (227 = no more obese)
November 2007     4 lbs.      Wt. 220
December 2007     5 lbs.      Wt. 215
January 2008        9 lbs        Wt. 206
February 2008       1 lb         Wt. 205 
March 2008           7 lbs        Wt. 198
April 2008             0 lbs        Wt. 198
May 2008              1 lb         Wt. 197
June 2008             2 lbs        Wt. 195
July 2008              0 lbs        Wt. 195
August 2008         0 lbs        Wt. 195

(Note: weekly weight detail in my story at the very bottom of this page)
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I finally did it. I made my own slide program and set it to music.

Enjoy... http://www.onetruemedia.com/my_shared?z=2c1be716ead98555a27ea2&utm_source=otm&utm_medium=text_url

Thank you for your interest.

John
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Christine is approved for surgery
on May 13, 2008 5:46 am
Where does the time go. This postop life seems to be moving on a conveyor belt that keeps speeding up. I'm involved in more things and enjoying life like never before. The most exciting thing happened this weekend; Christine was approved for her RNY weight loss surgery. She has a date of June 19th and that is when her new life will begin. She will be in Onderland within the first month or two, so this should really be great for her. She is nervous like all of us were when facing the surgery. Things were at such a standstill for such a long time and when her paperwork finally got submitted it was less than 5 days later that she was approved. We are so blessed to have Blue Cross Anthem (formerly Blue Cross of California until last year). Now we can begin planning for our summer and making our plans. Christine was on the edge of whether or not she could have the surgery. She was right at the 40 BMI or just slightly below. 

I am also taking my shot at coaching intramural basketball. I have my son's team and some other decent players. We had six games scheduled for the league and we will play the last game this evening. I met my objective to win at least half of the games. This really is more of a mind and strategy game than I thought. We have lost one game and won the other four. The game tonight will be a toss-up. We have a good chance of winning if we play like we have the last two games. I'm pushing my son to pass it off to the other players since they have put their focus on covering him. In the 8th grade he is 6 feet 1 inch tall. I think I could get into this coaching thing. It was most amazing to me to see how difficult it was to coach for the first three games. Once we had that loss (3rd game) the boys started listening a bit more and staying more focused.

School has gone very well this year. I've had a good bunch of students and now that I have them where I am successful with then, I have to hand them off. It takes weeks to get a new group into shape. We will start it all over again in September.

I'm walking again and enjoying those 5 am two mile walks. I really don't like the winters here since I can't walk. Now that I am exercising again, I feel like things are heading in the right direction. When I had my March appointment with Dr. Steward and he said that I was a success with the surgery. I just couldn't seem to get things moving on the scale again after that. The situation with Christine trying to get approved was more stressful than I thought it would be. Now that she has been approved, I feel that a major burden has been lifted. She was stressed, so she ate, and when she ate, I ate. It was a bad cycle that I'm getting a handle on. I can't believe that I didn't gain more than I did with all of the food I was eating. I HATE carbs. They just have too much control over me once I let them into my life. If I just stay away from them, I enjoy my life so much more. I'm starting to understand why people who had lost their weight said that it was far harder to keep the weight off than to lose it. I have to agree. The early weight losses seemed so easy. It is so easy to trick your mind into thinking that those early weight losses and your motivation would always be like that.

I will try to do a better job of updating. I know that several of you have been wondering what has been going on, so I decided to give a short update. I know how frustrating it was for me being a new WLS patient and then seeing people's profiles just suddenly stop. The reality was that they were just moving on with their life and just had not really needed Obesity Help as much anymore. I had made a commitment to try to do a better job than that. We must keep our profiles current to help those that come after us. I'll try to be better...but I have a REAL life now...so it really is harder.

Thanks for checking in.

John 
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Any browsing newbies??
on February 20, 2008 11:29 am

Starting Weight: 347 lbs.
Total Pounds Lost: 144

January 2007     12.5 lbs.      Wt.: 334.5
February 2007     5.5 lbs.      Wt: 329
March 2007          10 lbs.      Wt: 319
April 2007              4 lbs.      Wt: 315
May 2007              15 lbs. (Surgery date May 31st - Wt 300)
June 2007             23 lbs.       Wt: 277
July 2007              13 lbs.       Wt: 264
August 2007          17 lbs.       Wt: 247  (100 lbs. off in < 8 months)
September 2007   10 lbs.     Wt. 237
October 2007       12 lbs.     Current Weight: 224 (227 = no more obese)
November 2007     4 lbs.      Wt. 220
December 2007     5 lbs.      Wt. 215
January 2008        9 lbs        Wt. 206
February 2008       1 lb         Wt. 205 
March 2008           7 lbs        Wt. 198 (Total lost = 149 pounds)
April 2008             0 lbs        Wt. 198
May 2008              1 lb         Wt. 197

(Note: weekly weight detail in my story at the very bottom of this page)
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I recently saw a post about someone who was trying to anticipate what after WLS would be like, so this post is really more for the newbies. When getting ready for WLS, I encourage you to avoid thinking and acting on the last supper syndrome type of eating. You will eventually get those foods back that you REALLY want. Maybe some will disagree, but many of the foods I loved pre-op are no longer interesting to me. I also find that the more I stay away from carbs, the better I feel in general.

Now when I go out to dinner for an evening out, I enjoy visiting with my wife way more than I did before. It used to be the food and then her company, and now it is about the relationship with the food coming secondary. I still enjoy the first bite and I still enjoy that feeling of being full when I am finished. I just don't need to eat that other 80% to get to that point of being full...and I REALLY don't miss that extra volume like I thought I would. Since I still DO enjoy the food, when I go out to dinner, I may even sip a bit more water so that I can enjoy a bit more of that food. If it is food that I REALLY enjoy, I know how to work past the tool "just for the evening". I'm not so crazy as to work past my tool each day; that would defeat why I went through this in the first place. I get back on track the day after and I find that success again.

So, for those of you who might be feeling that you must give everything up, I say that it is temporary as you can have your foods back....just not in your current portions.

Now I look back to the days of Mid-May of 2007 when I had planned my final meal before I went on the 10 day liquid diet. I had gone out to dinner with Christine the night before the night of our actual planned "last supper" meal. I had planned to take my her out again the next night for the real last supper....if that makes sense. Well, we were on our way home and I just became overwhelmed with emotions and tears began to roll down my cheeks. For weeks I had planned this meal out with Christine for this final meal to our favorite restaurant. Then, it occurred to me that if this was really going to be the "last supper" meal, I wanted it to be with both my wife and kids. All of a sudden I was feeling so selfish for not including them in this meal. That was the only time I really got emotional over this surgery as I was completely calm on the actual day of surgery.

Well, we ended up having steak and shrimp and all kinds of good stuff...all of the stuff that we rarely can afford to feed five kids. It was one of the most memorable meals of my life. This surgery process plays tricks on your mind. If you are just starting the process, I say just enjoy the moment. It is such a magical time and you will likely look back on it with fond memories. The reason is that you will begin to see that it was at that period in time that you begin to get your life back.

Thanks for stopping by and checking in.

John

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

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Taken from a message board posting that I wrote
on January 26, 2008 7:31 am

I do not have the study that it came out of but it was on MSN, so I believe that it was reliable. The point that I pulled out wasn't actually the key point that the article's author was trying to make, but buried in the text. It was a key piece of information that I wish that I had found prior to surgery.

In a nutshell, the study actually said that the mortality rate for morbidly obese people is the same for people who have the surgery as those who don't. The statistical line crosses at almost exactly the one year mark. For those who have surgery, the mortality rate is higher for that first month or so and then gradually goes down at a very steady decline. For those who elect not to have the surgery, the mortality rate stays relatively constant and is the same at about the one year mark. Those who are morbidly obese STILL have about a 1 in 200 chance of dying at that point. The difference is that after the first year, the post-op WLS patient continues to see a major decline in the mortality rate, while the non-surgery person stays at that statistical rate. I'm guessing that as age goes up, the mortality rate gradually and obviously goes up too.

As a somewhat funny sideline to this the study, they also found that a side effect of post-op life is that they are more likely to suffer a sudden death than those who do not have the surgery. Well, let's think about that. Doesn't it make sense that now that we are actually living life and going places all of the time instead of being stuck in the house all the time that the likelihood of a car accident or something might increase? Of course it does. Does it mean that the risk is anymore than for a person who lives a normal life? Absolutely not. Statistics are a funny thing...sometimes we need to stop and think in a logical manner why something might be occurring.

Here is a real-life story to support this. When I was in the main chat room during my pre-op days I was talking about how I had been approved for surgery and had elected to wait until school was out (late May) instead of March 2nd for my original approval date. One of the men in the chat room virtually began to chastise me for waiting the extra 3 months. I began to quiz him about why he was taking on such a strong opinion regarding this. It turned out that years before his mom was scheduled for surgery and when she was AT THE HOSPITAL about to get the surgery, she backed out. Just nine months later she died from obesity related causes. 

I don't include this to scare anyone, but this is a very sad real-life story. In my mind, I could visualize this man with tears running down his face having to tell me why he felt so strongly about that. It hit me pretty hard at the time. Even though I had good reasons for waiting until May, it did make me rethink my position on waiting.

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The reason for the big stall
on January 7, 2008 2:58 pm

I was off the computer for most of December as we spent the school Christmas break in Florida. It was so nice this year as we had many days in the middle 80's this time. I did not go hog wild, but I did enjoy what I wanted in moderation. It did catch up with me since instead of losing I gained a pound. I'm back on track again over the past few days.

I did celebrate my wedding anniversary by going out to a fancy seafood spread. I was amazed at what I could eat. I ate slowly and tried a bit of this and a bit of that. It was one night and when it was over I was not feeling guilty at all for eating. I really enjoyed the crab legs and had plenty of time to get the meat out of there. Pre-op I was too impatient to spend the time cracking all of those legs and would move on to other things so I could get in the volume. I really enjoyed the quality.

It is so good to be back on track. I want to get to goal so now it is time to really work the tool. It gets easy to eat more than I should since I've been feeling so great and most people think that I'm at goal anyway. I still want to drop 35 more pounds and most just gasp when I say that, so I guess the best thing to do is to keep working at it quietly. While I want to lose 35 pounds, I want to gain 5-10 of it back and use that as my cushion. When the dust settles at the end of the year, I'd be happy to be 185 or 190 pounds.

I'm back exercising this morning. I even dusted off the treadmill. I'm already anxious for the weather to get warmer in March so I can do my early-morning walks.

Thanks for checking in with me.

John

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My Weigh Loss Journey - by weight
1-4-07      347
1-12-07      336
1-19-07      335
1-26-07     334.5
2-2-07       336
2-9-07       332
2-16-07     330
2-23-07     329
3-2-07       330
3-9-07       325
3-16-07      323.5
3-23-07     325
3-30-07     319
4-6-07       318
4-13-07     319
4-20-07     317
4-27-07     315
5-4-07       313
5-14-07     313
5-21-07      311 (begin liquid preop diet)
5-29-07     300 (surgery weight)
6-08-07     293
6-13-07     292
6-18-07     285
6-25-07     277
7-1-07       272
7-9-07      269
7-16-07     268
7-23-07    264
7-30-07    264
8-6-07      254 (finally this stall has broken)
8-13-07     253
8-20-07    252
8-27-07    247 (the 100 pound century mark - and my birthday to boot - what a nice gift)
9-4-07      246
9-10-07    242
9-17-07    242 (finally, the stall I was expecting has arrived)
9-24-07    237
10-01-07   233
10-8-07    232
10-15-07   227 (this marks the end of obesity...now I'm just plain overweight)
10-22-07  223
10-29-07  224 (I'm not calling it a gain - it's a temporary fluxuation - still 8 pounds in 2 weeks is good)
11-05-07   222
11-12-07   220 (I'm above my target of 1200 cals on most days)
11-19-07   220
11-26-07   220 (OUCH...MY first REAL stall)
12-03-07   215 (Hey...I was still losing...it just wasn't showing up on the scale)
1-7-08       216 (I really enjoyed the Christmas season and ate reasonably for the first time)
1-14-08     212
1-21-08     211
1-28-08    206 (focusing on doing most things right makes a difference)
2-4-08     206
2-11-08    205
2-18-08   205
2-25-08   205 (what??, I only lost a single pound in February??)
3-3-08     203 (I've already lost twice as much as in all of February)
3-10-08   203
3-18-08   198 (I made it to Onederland - never saw it in the 1990's nor 21st century)
3-24-08   198
3-31-08   198
4-7-08    198
4-14-08   198
4-21-08   198
4-28-08  199
5-5-08    200  (ouch...I don't like the looks of this...back to work)
5-12-08   197
5-19-08   198
5-26-08  198
6-2-08    197
6-9-08     197
6-16-08    196 (Christine's liquid diet - makes is easier for me - working it more now)
6-23-08   195

My journey began around Thanksgiving 2006. My brother Dale has met two people who have had the surgery and they seem to be so genuinely happy that he wanted that for me. He really helped me look at this as a realistic option. I attended one the meetings that my doctor recommended and that seemed to make good sense to me. Now I teach school, so doing this before school is out is out of the question. I'm planning to have my surgery around the end of May or early June. The insurance we have is the best and it looks like this will not end up costing too much.

 A bit about my weight loss history involves Weight Watchers. When I was in college I was 130 pounds overweight and decided to join WW. It took me over 2 years, but I lost all of my weight and was down to 169 lbs with a height of 6 feet. I wrote my story and submitted it to Weight Watchers Magazine and they accepted my article. What made it so fascinating was that it involved the weight loss of both of my parents and also my high school brother. Only my mom was on WW and my dad and brother just followed the WW program and dropped the pounds. I graduated from college and then traveled to Australia for 8 months. I stayed with 28 different host families and managed to keep my weight off for several years.

Then I met Christine through my work for Michigan State University. She is just the most wonderful person I have ever met. She is a lot of fun and she is like a magnet to me as well as the people around her. We got married and by that time my weight was up 90 pounds from my lowest. We tried WW together again and managed to drop a few pounds. We've had 5 kids together and they are just a fantastic bunch of kids. Once again, I'm so lucky to have this great life. Over the next 3-4 years I gained an additional 60 pounds and end up staying at that weight for almost 10 years. In 2000 we moved from Michigan to NE Kansas so I could take a job with a telecom company. I worked with them for a year when the telecom bubble began to burst. They ended up laying off 85% of the people. I was devastated since I always prided myself on doing my very best at whatever I did. I then took a teaching job where my kids go to school and that has been my life since.

Now in April of 2005, I was diagnosed with diabetes. Since that time I've gained about 15-20 pounds. Since I have diabetes, my doctor recently put me on a drug called Byetta. I was a bit reluctant to try it because it is in a shot format, and I just hate shots. Besides, my diabetes was being kept in check without the added shot. Then he told me that if I took it, it would not only help control my blood sugar, but help me lose weight. Yeah, right doc...just like the metformin was supposed to help me lose weight. Well, I tried it and by that evening I could tell the difference. My wife and I went out to dinner and I was half way though my steak when I said that I was full and would take the rest home. Now that never happens to me....food and me...we are on a first name basis...hey food. It was at that point that my wife became suspicious that this stuff was working. I've been on it for 3 weeks and have already lost 7 pounds and backed off on the metformin. I am amazed because I never feel hungry on this stuff so far. Maybe I can drop some of this weight before my surgery??

The rest of my story will be in the blog portion of this profile. I intend to update it so that others can follow my progress. I know how helpful some of the other stories have been to me, so maybe I can help someone too.

If you are considering the surgery, may your journey be a great one. 

 

 

 


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