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  Hi!  I am waiting, waiting, waiting for my chance to have laparoscopic RNY surgery.  I do not currently have the resources, but fortunately, time is on my side as I have no co-morbidities aside from BMI.  I live and work in Helena, and have quite a busy life.  My kids are all grown and gone, so my home can be pretty quiet, as well. I do, however, have four grandchildren that I love to pieces. I love to paint, decorate, collect antiques, watch movies, listen to music, go out or stay in with friends and family, etc.  I also have two kitties that keep me company.

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on July 17, 2008 3:15 pm
Well, I've had my first surgical consult.  Dr. Mortenson was very professional, although I was sort of rushed through - he had some kind of emergency enroute and just zipped through his remaining patients.  My day was more than a little stressful.  I had planned to take the afternoon off, and leave work at noon.  My boss called a "quickie ten-minute meeting" at 11:00 that lasted until 12:20!  I had to drop off a job app before I left town, then drive like a maniac to get to his office, 85 miles away.  I had planned to take part in the Bariatric Clinic's informational seminar, but I was 40 minutes late.  The girl at the front desk tried to deny me entrance, but I sort of verbally strong-armed my way past her to participate.  I was surprised that I was the most well-informed of the class - thanks to OH!!  [Buy a book, people!]  At the close of the seminar, the psychologist did a quickie psych exam - guess what?  I'm normal.  My sister says that only proves that the bell curve for normal is brooooaaad!

After the class, I went to confirm my surgical consult appointment, saw a sign insisting on paying copay in advance, discovered that I had only one check left in my checkbook, and I hadn't had lunch (or breakfast, for that matter), and I needed some gas.  I have a deathly aversion to using my credit card for consumables.  But I didn't see any other choice.  So I bought a little gas and a hot dog (more gas, I suppose), and went back to the appointment, where they never did ask me to write that check for the copay. 

But I sat in their waiting room for what seemed like hours, by myself!  I was sort of afraid that they'd forgotten me.  At last, the nurse came and got me.  She sort of intimated that I might have to come back another day if his emergency arrived sooner than expected!  She was surprised that I knew so much about my weight, BMI, the surgical options, etc.  I guess most of their patients are less motivated to have all that info up front.  I had planned to go prepared to this appointment, but it was all I could do just to get there, the way my day went.  I guess it should not be surprising that my blood pressure was at an all-time high.  I've struggled a bit with borderline high blood pressure for nigh onto ten years, but this was kind of a scary number.

It was all very standard stuff.  I went home with a bunch of pamphlet information and a packet of protein powder.

Two weeks later, the insurance company denied me.  They say I have not documented my co-morbidities sufficiently, nor have I followed a medically supervised diet.   (My surgeon's nurse said their office had documented hypertension, BMI, and degenerative joint disease.)  I had spoken to them before to assure that I had or would shortly jump all their hoops, and these were new hoops!  So now, I'm in the middle of an attempt at a petition.  I guess I shouldn't be surprised.  Seems denial is the first move in any insurance company's chess game.  But I'm in it to win it.  Look out, BCBS of MT!  This (soon-to-be) skinny girl has a lot of fight in her!

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Goals
on April 1, 2008 9:38 am

I am more of a 'slow and steady wins the race' kind of girl.   When I have a goal in mind, I think of it as my job.  How I wish that this kind of thinking went hand in hand with standard weight loss.  But, using that slow and steady methodology, I have managed to achieve a Bachelor's and a Master's; I rebuilt my credit after a divorce and bought a home; I am starting a new business that will yield fruit (hopefully) for years to come.  I am generally pretty patient and I am able to just keep plodding forward to success. (Really doesn't sound all that inspiring, though, does it?) Unfortunately, it takes more than patience to lose the kind of weight I need to shed.  So, I got to thinking about goals.  

I worked with an online BMI calculator.  I love posts like "I am overweight!!"  It would be wonderful to simply state that I'm overweight, and not obese.  So I worked out the top weight for each of these categories.  Presently, I am morbidly obese.  I didn't calculate regular obesity - I'm pretty sure any kind of obesity could still cause me a lot of trouble, so it's all morbid.  But 163 would put me at overweight; 136 would put me at normal; and my own personal someday goal of 125 would put me exactly where I want to be.  And I really think that, with WLS, and some steady plodding forward, it's doable.  I can do it!  

I'm continuing to look hopefully forward.

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My Story

So, I thought I'd take a few moments and tell a little about myself.  I am a Montana girl, through and through - farm/ranch raised.  I guess you could say I was a very slightly chubby kid.  I wore a few of those horrible 'chubbette' sizes that Sears was so proud of back in the '70s.  (Back then, there was no thought about what self-image little girls might develop if they were wearing chubbette on their labels.  How cruel, right?)  I am a throwback to my grandmothers.  Every other woman in my family reached at least 5' 4 1/2", but I need to take a deep breath to say that I'm 5' 2".  I love to joke and laugh and I often say that I'm not overweight - I'm undertall.  Of course, the correct height for this weight would mean I was playing center ahead of Yao Min in the NBA.  Yeah, I know - the archetypical jolly fat girl.  In high school, I reached a really nice setpoint weight of 132#.  That was my weight.  I didn't have to struggle to keep it there.  It just was.  But I had terrible self-esteem and a pretty dysfunctional family to support it.  So I was sure that I was fatter than anything.  My junior year, I went on my first diet.  I ate nothing but two slices of toast, a small glass of milk, a cup of yogurt and a  cup o' soup every day for four months.  I think about that amount of food now, and what I must have been doing to my metabolism.  Really messed it up.  I went down to 113#. Man - I think now what I must have looked like:  Blonde hair to my waist, a C-cup bra and a tiny little waist.  Of course, then, I had no clue.  I still had no self esteem.  My boyfriend was afraid I was becoming anorexic (Ha!  He had no idea.  Unhealthy relationship with food, yes.  Anorexic?  No!)  I went back to eating normally and my setpoint returned.  My senior year, I got pregnant, and the race was on!  I had screwed with my metabolism the year before, and now I was doing it again, but this time with a baby.  I went from 132 up to 182.  I know - lots of people gain 50 pounds with a pregnancy, but I just never lost it.  I got married mid-pregnancy, got control of my very own fridge and cookie jar at 17, and pretty much set a pattern.  I miscarried a pregnancy two years later, and followed that almost immediately with another pregnancy.  Soon, I had two little girls and a weight problem.  I yo-yo-ed a bit.  Lost 60 pounds with Richard Simmons' book - gained it back; tried Barbara Edelstein's method for 30 pounds later on - gained it back; used phen-fen for 25 pounds - gained it back; sensible diet and exercise for 30 just last year.  Yes, it's back *sigh*.  Of course, with each of these efforts, my setpoint has moved up and up.  To tell the truth, even though I own a very nice scale, I have not been on it for at least a year.  But I'm wearing clothes ranging between size 20 and 24 and that probably means at least 260.  Deeper sigh.  My sister says I'm a lucky shit.  I'm sure that I didn't mention that my sister is a fitness freak.  She eats really, REALLY healthy.  She works out daily, and incorporates other physical activity into lifestyle as well.  She is the single most disciplined person I know.  I hate her.  No, really I love her to bits, but it's not easy being her sister.  The reason she says I'm lucky is that these years of morbid obesity should have pushed my body into some kind of co-morbidity.  The only co-morbidity I have is my BMI.  No diabetes, no heart disease, no high blood pressure.  Stiff knees, but hardly a morbidity.  Yes, my GP says that someday, without a change, I will have  a heart attack.  No fun to think about.  Also, I got divorced when I was 24.  I was very focused on parenting my two little girls.  I finished college, built my career, went to grad school, continued raising them, etc.  For years, I didn't so much as look at men.  Guess what?  They weren't looking at me, either.  Over the years, I became invisible.  Not for purposeful, functional things.  I worked, I provided, I conversed.  But did I smile, flirt, receive compliments?  No way!  So the years passed.  Now I'm 46.  My blossoming twenties are dust.  My thirties died on the vine.  My forties are even fleeting.   I hate the idea of being fat and fifty.  I am hoping that I can, with some compliance and copay assistance, convince my insurance company that the second half of my life is worth their investment.  I sure think it is.  I now have four grandchildren that I love with all my heart.  I think I may even be ready to make room in my life for a man (think of that!)  I want a second chance to be me - the fully alive version of me!

 


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