Kelly B.
Happy Memorial Day Weekend!
May 25, 2012
I cannot believe the last time I updated was in February. I have been going non-stop and this weekend is all about rest and relaxation. I have been traveling for business for the last 5 months and just got a new job within my company. It has been a crazy spring. I have maintained my weight. I weighed in this morning at 132 lbs. -- I actually wore a sleeveless dress last night to dinner. That is a first in 25 years! I hardly wore anything sleeveless when I was a teenager. It felt great. My brother was teasing my husband asking him if I was the new girlfriend. I even loved having family pictures taken -- another new experience. I am starting to get comfortable in my new body and I am learning how to deal with attention.
The hubby and I are going through another difficult patch. I am not sure what to do or how this is going to end or begin. He has let his diabetes go out of control. He doesn't take his meds or eat appropriately. He lets his sugar drop or get too high. It affected him so badly that he is no longer in nursing school. He is now on a wait list which is 2 or 3 years. He is depressed and taking 6 medications a day for all of his issues. I am trying to be supportive -- I am trying to understand but it is hard. He doesn't want to go out or do anything -- he hardly works his part time job. I am very concerned. He has half heartily decided to go through the process of having surgery. He started his 6 month diet last month. We filled out his paperwork and went to an open house at the bariatric center where I had my surgery. Dr. Dyer was there and he was wonderful. He gave the hubby a free consult and talked to him about the different options for Type 2 diabetes. The hubby was thinking he should have the sleeve so he could still eat what he wants but Dr. Dyer told him that the R&Y would be better. I keep thinking that if we get him to surgery and losing weight that he will be able to get some clarity. I love the hubby but he is not the person I married or even close to being the person he wants to be. I really feel that if something doesn't happen this year that we will not be able to go on together. That is a hard thing to write. I do not want that to happen. I want us to be healthy and happy together. I want for us to enjoy being around each other. Right now we are so resentful of each other -- I am resentful of his lack of health and he is resentful of my health.
I am going to make an appointment with the shrinkage for both of us. I figure if we can go to therapy, work toward the hubby's surgery, and take care of what we can then maybe it will work out. I do see now why there is more divorce with bariatric patients. I will never regret my surgery but I will say that if I had to do it over again, I would make the hubby participate more in the process. I never let my inability to eat something stand in the way of what he had available in the house. I think I should have emphasized more how I needed him to eat similarly to me or exercise with me rather than thinking I should take care of myself. I don't know....
I do think that if he has the surgery that we would bond again. I would walk those steps with him --- Anyway, we shall see what happens. Say some prayers for us! Keep losing out there and God Bless you! God bless all those folks we are remembering this weekend.
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The hubby and I are going through another difficult patch. I am not sure what to do or how this is going to end or begin. He has let his diabetes go out of control. He doesn't take his meds or eat appropriately. He lets his sugar drop or get too high. It affected him so badly that he is no longer in nursing school. He is now on a wait list which is 2 or 3 years. He is depressed and taking 6 medications a day for all of his issues. I am trying to be supportive -- I am trying to understand but it is hard. He doesn't want to go out or do anything -- he hardly works his part time job. I am very concerned. He has half heartily decided to go through the process of having surgery. He started his 6 month diet last month. We filled out his paperwork and went to an open house at the bariatric center where I had my surgery. Dr. Dyer was there and he was wonderful. He gave the hubby a free consult and talked to him about the different options for Type 2 diabetes. The hubby was thinking he should have the sleeve so he could still eat what he wants but Dr. Dyer told him that the R&Y would be better. I keep thinking that if we get him to surgery and losing weight that he will be able to get some clarity. I love the hubby but he is not the person I married or even close to being the person he wants to be. I really feel that if something doesn't happen this year that we will not be able to go on together. That is a hard thing to write. I do not want that to happen. I want us to be healthy and happy together. I want for us to enjoy being around each other. Right now we are so resentful of each other -- I am resentful of his lack of health and he is resentful of my health.
I am going to make an appointment with the shrinkage for both of us. I figure if we can go to therapy, work toward the hubby's surgery, and take care of what we can then maybe it will work out. I do see now why there is more divorce with bariatric patients. I will never regret my surgery but I will say that if I had to do it over again, I would make the hubby participate more in the process. I never let my inability to eat something stand in the way of what he had available in the house. I think I should have emphasized more how I needed him to eat similarly to me or exercise with me rather than thinking I should take care of myself. I don't know....
I do think that if he has the surgery that we would bond again. I would walk those steps with him --- Anyway, we shall see what happens. Say some prayers for us! Keep losing out there and God Bless you! God bless all those folks we are remembering this weekend.
