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Name: Kelly B.
Username: kmbasel
Member Since: 1/11/2007
BMI: 21.1
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Surgery Type: RNY (12/15/10)
Surgeon: David Dyer, M.D.

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Goals

Wear a "normal" size

29 People

in progress,

15 People

achieved this

get approved for surgery and get to a healthy weight, finally!

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in progress,

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Surgeon Testimonial

David Dyer, M.D.
Two years out from surgery and have maintained a 140 lbs weight loss -- Dr. Dyer was great to work with in this process. His diet plan and maintenance plan is strict but it works if you follow it. The support of the office and staff was wonderful too.

Member Interests

Animals - I am married with three kiddo's - 19, 18, and 5! Surprise!
Books & Literature - I love mysteries
Walking - Walking outside is my favorite exercise
Swimming - I use to swim when I was young and cannot wait to do it again.
Antique Shopping - I love the flea market and anything old

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Hospital Reviews

(Nashville, TN) - Centennial Medical Center

Latest Surgery Support Comments

Comment by Cyndi M. on 1/30/07 7:03 pm

~~~~~~CONGRATULATION S ON YOUR UPCOMING SURGERY~~~~~~ (Everything in our lives happens for a purpose and that purpose is to prepare us) May God give you courage, strength and guidance throughout your new journey. You are about to embark on the most amazing transformation of you MIND, BODY and SOUL. Your big day is almost here, this is the day, your new life will begin, I cant promise it will be easy, cant say it will be hard, I can say that with all the complications and everything I had to go through, It was well worth it. I have never felt better in yearsss, I’m off all medications, have sooooo much more energy. So if you hit a bump in the road, hang in there and remember it will alll be worth it in the long run. Sending Prayers your way that the Lord will guide your surgeon’s hands. May the guardian angels wrap their loving arms of protection around you during your surgery and recovery. Remember your not alone in this journey, many of us have been down this road, we are here to offer love and support. Looking forward to hearing from you on the loosing side. Huggs and Prayers Link to my profile 8-19-04 surgery date weight 297.5 height 5f 2 -121 weight losss http://www.obesityhe lp.com/member/faith4 ever/

Comment by judyanne on 1/28/07 9:15 am

Thursday is your day! Just remember you are on the journey of a lifetime. Try to enjoy every minute. It may sound weird now, but know that you are cared for and prayed for here, and all too soon this will be but a memory and you will be an inspiration to someone else. I am waiting for you on the losers' bench! ~ JudyAnne

Comment by LavenderLoco on 1/25/07 11:29 am

Wishing you a smooth and safe surgery, speedy and easy recovery and all the best as you begin your exciting, life-changing journey. Many Blessings! ~Lavender

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Kelly's Blog
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Happy Memorial Day Weekend!
posted on 5/26/12 4:28 am

I cannot believe the last time I updated was in February. I have been going non-stop and this weekend is all about rest and relaxation. I have been traveling for business for the last 5 months and just got a new job within my company. It has been a crazy spring. I have maintained my weight. I weighed in this morning at 132 lbs. -- I actually wore a sleeveless dress last night to dinner. That is a first in 25 years! I hardly wore anything sleeveless when I was a teenager. It felt great. My brother was teasing my husband asking him if I was the new girlfriend. I even loved having family pictures taken -- another new experience. I am starting to get comfortable in my new body and I am learning how to deal with attention.

The hubby and I are going through another difficult patch. I am not sure what to do or how this is going to end or begin. He has let his diabetes go out of control. He doesn't take his meds or eat appropriately. He lets his sugar drop or get too high. It affected him so badly that he is no longer in nursing school. He is now on a wait list which is 2 or 3 years. He is depressed and taking 6 medications a day for all of his issues. I am trying to be supportive -- I am trying to understand but it is hard. He doesn't want to go out or do anything -- he hardly works his part time job. I am very concerned. He has half heartily decided to go through the process of having surgery. He started his 6 month diet last month. We filled out his paperwork and went to an open house at the bariatric center where I had my surgery. Dr. Dyer was there and he was wonderful. He gave the hubby a free consult and talked to him about the different options for Type 2 diabetes. The hubby was thinking he should have the sleeve so he could still eat what he wants but Dr. Dyer told him that the R&Y would be better. I keep thinking that if we get him to surgery and losing weight that he will be able to get some clarity. I love the hubby but he is not the person I married or even close to being the person he wants to be. I really feel that if something doesn't happen this year that we will not be able to go on together. That is a hard thing to write. I do not want that to happen. I want us to be healthy and happy together. I want for us to enjoy being around each other. Right now we are so resentful of each other -- I am resentful of his lack of health and he is resentful of my health.

I am going to make an appointment with the shrinkage for both of us. I figure if we can go to therapy, work toward the hubby's surgery, and take care of what we can then maybe it will work out. I do see now why there is more divorce with bariatric patients. I will never regret my surgery but I will say that if I had to do it over again, I would make the hubby participate more in the process. I never let my inability to eat something stand in the way of what he had available in the house. I think I should have emphasized more how I needed him to eat similarly to me or exercise with me rather than thinking I should take care of myself. I don't know....

I do think that if he has the surgery that we would bond again. I would walk those steps with him --- Anyway, we shall see what happens. Say some prayers for us! Keep losing out there and God Bless you! God bless all those folks we are remembering this weekend.

6 Responses to "Happy Memorial Day Weekend!"

He sounds very depressed (doesn't go out, doesn't keep up with his meds/diet). You might want to see if he needs some help with that.

I'm sure he is finding all the changes in you -- and your business travel -- a lot to adjust to.

Hang in there. It is so sad to think how hard it must have been for you to write about the possible end of your marriage. I hope things stabilize and get on the "things are getting better" side of life.

Best wishes for a Happy Memorial Day Weekend for you and those you love.
Granny_Rue commented on 5/26/12 2:55 pm
We men are a stubborn bunch. My wife says "you can lead a mule to water, but can't make HIM drink" and note that mules are male.

Therapy is definitely warranted. But, he has to come to his own conclusion that HE wants WLS. Pressuring him into it will only exacerbate his unwillingness to do what is necessary to become healthy. Continue to be as supportive as you can for as long as you can. From your description, his compromised physical well being from the meds and uncontrolled diabetes as well as his general mental state make it difficult for him to cope.

RNY or DS is more appropriate for his type II diabetes though it is not a cure. Discipline in working the postop program is necessary to have a chance at being successful in resolving the diabetes long term. He has to be mentally prepared to do so.

May God bless you both with the patience and understanding that is necessary to be healthy in body, mind, and partnership.
Mike R. commented on 5/26/12 4:54 pm
I'll be praying for you, kelly! So sorry you're going through all this. So glad you're doing so well with maintaining your weight!! Great job!
misty Y. commented on 5/26/12 6:22 pm
Aw Kelly, I know how it feels to have "rough patches" with one's husband since RNY. I had mine 2/28/12. It's been a grating, eye-opening, consciousness-raisin g experience as far as my marriage is concerned. I'm tired... I feel like I'm always the one who has to change. I KNOW I cannot control my husband's actions. So, what's my next step? I don't know. I have a stack of books on my bed, all with the word "divorce" in them. Check out my blog. God bless you, I'm thinking of you & you're in my prayers! xo GG
goddessgrrl commented on 5/26/12 9:37 pm
Hey Kelly, I'm new to the board. Keep up the good work and stay strong! The only advice regarding hubby I can give is just to breathe and let it go, hopefully he will see the light.

Sending you a hug and you're in my prayers.

Teri
terithecook commented on 5/27/12 5:16 am
Hi Kelly. So sorry you and your husband are having a rough patch in your marriage. I can relate as I have been there with my husband in the not so distant past.

I can't even imagine how it would be if he needed to have the surgery too and was unwilling to do anything to improve his situation. That must be so hard since you have gone through the life changing process of having the surgery and then working your tool to get yourself healthy.

As previously said you can't force him to have the surgery or take the necessary steps to make himself healthier. I can only imagine your pain to watch him spiraling downward. I would recommend trying to get him to see a mental health professional as he is deeply depressed.

Hugs and prayers,

Sherri
Sherri A. commented on 5/27/12 6:35 pm

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