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Go to the gym at least 2 times a week.
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lose 120 pounds
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Kfir Ben-David
Some people absolutely love him. I didn't have such a positive experience. From his horrible cold bed side manner to seeing him in the office and him telling me that he would "cancel" me as a patient, I never once felt like he actually cared about me or my life. He didn't care if I lost the weight, and he didn't seem to care about any of the issues that I was having.....and due to his lack of concern I still have the same issues.
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Describe your behavioral and emotional battle with weight control before learning about bariatric surgery.
Before learning about bariatric surgery I was on a constant up and down battle with my weight. I would try fad diets only to lose a few pounds only to gain even more back. The diets I was trying was not healthy, most included dangerous drugs; prescription and over the counter. Most were not healthy nutrition wise; they would cut out important food groups, or limits calorie intake to unbelievably low levels just to lose a few pounds. Once you get off the diet the weight would come back on times 10. And with that added weight came the added mental and emotional stress of being a failure.
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Changes
February 11, 2013 6:42 am

I want to start by saying....I really am not crazy LOL.  I feel like I am always trying to change something, fix something, do something....DIFFERENT!  I guess that phrase "Life, Liberty and the PURSUIT of happiness" rings very true in my life.  I am always pursuing happiness to the point that I am tired.  I chase it, stalk it, I search for it high and low, I go on hunting expeditions trying to find it.  Why?  Because I feel that it truly is out there we just have to be determined and patient enough to go get it.

Those of you who have followed my story know that I have made some major changes since I had RNY in 2010.  From losing over 140 pounds to moving to a different city, to leaving an unhealthy relationship, to having another child.  I am all about change LOL...not really.  Change scares the heck out of me but I am so darn hard headed that I refuse to put up with the drama or misery anymore.  A few years about (before I lost weight) I would put up with any and everything.  I stayed in bad relationship, worked dead end jobs, allowed myself to be the doormat to anyone that needed to wipe their feet.  It is amazing how losing a few pounds can give you a boost in the self-esteem department.

So what is it that I want to change now???  Well I want to change my career focus.  I have said this in other posts and it is still very true today...I believe that people should be able to do what they reasonably enjoy for  a living.  I know that every job has its ups and downs but I believe that if an individual follows their heart and their true desire and works somewhere that they truly enjoy they will be happier (in general).  Does that sound crazy?  My dad loved his career, he had perfect attendance every day for over 30 years!!!  I woke up this morning and thought about every single reason that I could call in sick.  But then I remembered that my boss is out of town...again so I got up and came to work.  It is stressful to worry about why you don't want to go to work instead of being excited or at least "ok" with getting up and going to work.  Who wants to be miserable all day Monday-Friday?  Not me.  And don't get me wrong...I am not miserable at my current job.  I enjoy what I do to a certain degree but it is not where my heart is.  I don't have a passion for it.  I cannot see myself in 20 years bragging about how I have been on this job for so many years like some people do when they talk about their jobs.

So what so I want to do?  Well for years I have had a calling to be in the medical field.  Since I graduated high school in 1998 I wanted to be a nurse.  But life led me down a different path.  So now...many moons later I feel like I might as well give it a try.  Not necessarily a nurse but more along the lines of a medical assistant.  I found a great accredited certificate program.  It is 10 months long and the school is a testing center and they pay for the certification test after I graduate.  Sounds great right??!!  I thought so too, but classes are from 6pm-10pm Monday through Friday.  Let me also mention that I work Monday through Friday from 8am-5pm and I have two wonderful boys...one who is 7 months old and one who is 9 years old. 

I have been going back and forth on whether or not I am ready to make the sacrifice.  It is only 10 months...piece of cake right??  But at the same time I know how much the boys can grow in 10 months.  But it isn't like I am leaving the country for 10 months...I will still be there to wake them up every morning and I will still be off on weekends...minus homework time.  But is it worth it?  Will they resent the fact that I am gone?  Will I have major regrets?  I hate regrets.  I totally dislike looking back and wishing I had done things differently.  I try to be completely ok with every major decision I make.  Looking back and wishing you could change things is not fun.  I don't want the 10 months to go by and my son to not even know that I am his mother.  But at the same time...I am not getting any younger.  At 33 years old I feel like it is time to make a decision and go with it.  All this jumping back and forth from this to that isn't going to cut it.  Especially since I really want to do this.

Let me also add that my oldest son (who's school just called me...literally) has been acting out lately.  He will be 10 years old in August so his behavior is completely unacceptable but as a single mom I have spoiled and sheltered him BIG TIME!!!  He thinks that he can get away with murder and just cry and pout about it and everything will be fine.  He is disrespectful at school, after school, when he goes to a babysitter, and he is even disrespectful with me.  I give in to him way too much simply to keep the arguing and bickering to a minimum.  That is completely my fault so I do take responsibility for that.  I don't want to do anything that is going to make things worse. 

 

Decisions decisions.......

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Happy Holidays
December 21, 2012 5:32 am

Is it really almost Christmas already??  LOL my how the time does fly.  I have been MIA for a while, with moving, new job, new baby, trying to get back into some type of routine....which is still a work in progress time has literally gotten away from me.  It dawned on me a few weeks ago that I completely missed my TWO year surgiversary....not sure how that happened.  Two years, I can still remember my first informational meeting and how anxious and nervous I was that my insurance wouldn't approve me.  And now two whole years have went by and so much has changed!!

What have I learned?  Well I learned that I deserve to be happy, I learned that taking care of myself is the #1 goal, and I learned that being alone (single) isn't all that bad after all.  I do have two amazing boys who keep me super busy so I am never really alone.  I have learned that I have to love myself first.  AND most importantly I have learned that at no point in time will I ever be perfect.....and you know what???  Thats ok!  I wasn't born perfect, I don't know anybody that was.  I ballooned up to 301 pounds....that is no where near "perfect" in most peoples eyes.  And then now to step on the scale and it says between 155-160 I still don't feel "perfect" but I am satisfied.  Some people look at me and say I have lost too much weight, some look at me and say I could lose 20-30 more pounds.  But what really matters is that I am healthy, and I am ok with my weight.  Are there things that I would like to change or fix?  HECK yes!  I despise my stomach and my sagging chest LOL, I also miss my behind....this chair gets harder and harder everyday!  But at this point in my life I don't want to undergo any more surgeries, and I can't financially afford to go have plastic surgery and the things that I dislike are not hurting me health wise so why worry about it?  Self acceptance is huge in my life now.  I have focused on other things, I have a nice new hair cut that I am trying to keep up with.  I found this super awesome new curly hair product (if you have curly hair...you gotta try Miss Jessie's Quick Curls) that works wonders.  I have changed my wardrobe up a little bit.  All positive steps. 

I am also happy with my routine.  I wake up every morning which is a blessing in itself, I am able to get my kids ready for the day, I feel that they are safe while I am working, and in the evening I am able to cook and just be a mom.  I have heard horror stories about individuals gaining so much weight back after having WLS, and I pray that doesn't happen to me.  At two years out I can say that while I do still have some tummy issues I am happy with my decision.  It has completely changed my entire life.  I do still have things to work on....like my diet.  I have found that I snack more...sweets, cookies, cakes, things that I already know I shouldn't have....and the other day I ate an entire 6" sub from Subway...minus the top bread....who even knew that was possible??!?!?!?!?!  I sure didn't.  And I don't plan on doing it again even through I didn't feel any pain or discomfort I just personally feel like it was too much at one time.  I also want to start adding a better vitamin and a protein shake into my daily routine somewhere.  Maybe a shake for an on the go breakfast or something.

I am more social, I will talk to people, engage in conversations.  I can't say that I have really made a ton of friends here but I have made work associates, made some business contacts, and I am more outgoing and communicate with the clients better.  So basically what am I trying to say?  LOL, well I am thankful for another Christmas and Holiday Season.  I am thankful to be able to come here and write about it.  I am thankful for the progress and the journey and consider it a life changing learning experience.  And I look forward to 2013 and hearing more and more success stories, and being more active on the site and continuing the journey!

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Just a thought
August 29, 2012 5:39 am
I woke up this morning thinking about food as usual and kicking myself for getting up in the middle of the night and eating those 5 chicken nuggets....but dang it they were good!!! 
While I was kicking myself down the hallway I thought to myself that maybe I wouldn't crave this stuff if I was eating more healthy "alternatives" to the junk that I am craving.  Chocolate is a big one for me.  I told my boss yesterday that we should have chocolate breaks...do I need a chocolate break? NO, if chocolate was in the office would I sit here and eat it till I was sick?  Yes.  So a chocolage break is probably not a good idea LOL.  But if I am craving chocolate there has to be some "alternative" that can give me the taste that I am wanting without the calories.  Then I thought there just might be healthier "alternatives" to most of the things that I have been craving.  For instance, the other day I was talking about the English Muffin and cream cheese.  Ok, so bread kills my stomach and makes me bloat...so it is not the bread that I want....it is the yummy cream cheese.  So why not have maybe some celery with fat free cream cheese?  I love the onion and chive cream cheese, regular fat is 80 calories in 2 tablespoons, the fat free is only 30 calories in 2 tablespoons.  Plus if I am eliminating the muffin (which isn't sweet...so why do they call it a muffin?), I am also eliminating those calories as well so I could just go head and have the regular full fat (full flavor) cream cheese.  And then the chocolate...as I was scouring through the cabinets I found a package of chocolate fudge sugar free fat free Jell-O pudding mix.  So I made it (of course) with fat free milk and to my surprise it actually had a great chocolate taste....who would have ever guessed LOL.  Only 80 calories per serving.  I think I personally am going to look into finding more of these healthy lower calorie alternatives.  I read one online this morning for pizza....which called for a corn tortilla topped with fresh tomatoes, cheese, and veggies then popped in the toaster oven till melted.  I don't remember the calories and I guess it really depends on the type of cheese used but it sounds pretty good.  AND as an added bonus the corn tortilla is thin....and eliminates the bread crust that upsets my pouch.  
So what is my point?  That I believe a balance is going to take time, research, and preparation....something that I should have started almost 2 years ago when I first had the surgery.  But I will admit that I took the easy route.  I wasn't hungry before so not eating a lot or certain things was simple....that not hungry feeling has gone far far away....and maybe it is mental but still it is there.  I wish I would have had this conversation with myself 2 years ago but I guess it is better now than never
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Oh how I despise food!!!
August 27, 2012 5:36 am
Happy Monday   It is a stormy start to the work week here in "not so sunny Florida" with Isaac moving through it is suppose to be stormy all week.  I feel a storm cloud over my relationship with food as well.  You would think that with my surgery being almost 2 years old (11-29-10) I would have already developed a healthy relationship with food WRONG!!!
I LOVE to eat.  I am sure that is the #1 reason that I ballooned up to 301 pounds before I had gastric bypass, and I feel like I have written this blog post before but it is as true today as it was the last time I visited this subject.  I love food.  I love sweets, savory foods, sauces, candys, ice cream, I want it all.....and then I pay for it by spending hours in the bathroom (TMI) and by having a not so happy trip to the scale.  I can say that when I went to the doctor this past Friday I weighed in at 158 pounds!!!!!  That puts my total weight loss at 143 pounds!!!  So I am blessed and very happy with my progress but I also know that at almost 2 years out the weight is NOT going to just continue to fall off and I AM going to have to work hard to maintain.  This hard work will have to be with both my diet and my exercise....both of which I struggle with.  I feel like if I restrict my diet too much then I am doomed to fail. A friend of mine who had the surgery in August 2010 is preparing for plastic surgery, and her surgeon told her that she isn't suppose to have more that 2 grams of fat per meal...WHAT?  Is she suppose to eat air and water all day???  I don't understand how this can 1) be accurate information and 2) be reasonable.  There is more that 2 grams of fat in just about everything except air and water....and some of the flavorings that we add to our water has more that 2 grams of fat.  When she told me this and I literally saw the look of despiration on her face it hit me that I too have to start thinking about "maintenance" and how I am going to maintain my new way of living.  Honestly to this point it has been a struggle and it continues to be so.  I have given myself a new goal weight of 150.  My original goal weight was 180....I am hoping that I will be happy at 150.  My doctor thinks that is a good number and he was very pleased to see that my high blood pressure that creeped up on me during pregnancy had completely gone away.  He was not so pleased to see that my Iron was still extremely low so I am on an Iron supplement 3 times a day now.  The number on the scale isn't as important as how I feel and how healthy I am.  Currently I feel like crap which I am sure just adds to the stress.  Why?? Well because I have this amazing little guy named Masen who doesn't like to sleep through the night.  And someone has spoiled him....not sure who but I would like to beat that person LOL (me).  He loves to be held, walked, doesn't even consider sleeping in his own bed, and he has this habit of smiling at me when I am at that point of pulling my hair out.  That smile somehow makes me feel all better until I get to work and realize just how completely tired I am.  Anyway the purpose of my rambling is to say that I am on a journey to have a healthy relationship with food.  I started a new 'diet' today, so I had a hard boiled egg and some mild cheddar cheese for breakfast.  I went in to the kitchen area at work and saw english muffins, cinnamon swirl bread, cream cheese, yogurt GRRRRRRR Of course I want one of everything with extra cream cheese.  But instead I made my cup of coffee and came back to my office totally and completely ticked off LOL.  Why do I want the things that I know are only going to a) make me feel miserable and b) are not good for me?  Yes the yogurt isn't bad, but it wasn't greek yogurt so really I can do with out.....especially since I just ate my breakfast like 10 mins ago.  Am I hungry? NO, but it looks good and I know that it tastes good so I want it.  Temptation is not very nice!!!
It is hard to say to myself that my lettuce salad is so much better than that slice of pizza....when I already know that the slice of pizza is AMAZING!  So where is the balance, how do you come to a happy medium?  I think for me it is going to be- everything in moderation.  Ok so if I want a slice of pizza I can have it.  But then I KNOW that I have to eat right the rest of the week and hit the gym for some cardio.  Is the pizza still worth it?  Maybe yes and maybe no. The english muffin with extra cream cheese is so not worth it right now.  Balance.  I hate when someone tells me I can't have this or can't have that....that just makes me (being hardheaded) want it even more.  So if I am craving ice cream, why can't I go have some nonfat yogurt?  If I want pizza, who not have 1 slice of thin crust with just cheese and only eat 1/2 the crust (since bread is my enemy)?  If I want a cheeseburger (which hopefully won't happen since I am not eating beef), but why not have a turkery burger patty, or a Boca burger?  I believe it is going to be a give and take 50/50 relationship....or at least that is what I am hoping for.  

Anyway....food for thought for this Monday morning.
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Negativity
August 17, 2012 5:21 am
I totally hate negativity.  I try so hard to not be negative, I have been trying to surround myself with only positive people, and literally RUN for negativity.  I have been shown over and over and over again that if you stay positive things usually work out.  I usually don't mention religion or politics....simply because they are such touchy topics and I would never want to offend anyone but I honestly believe that God always provides a way to those who truly seek it.  I have been totally down and out and thought that I was ready to give up and something always happens to give me a "way"out of the bad/negative situation.  Whether it is a financial situation, a situation with my weight, with relationships/friendships, whatever it might be a "way" always seems to be provided if I just take the time and determination to look.  With that being said I also believe that negativity is always lurking right around the corner and I believe that misery does love company.  
So while I don't have a scale at my house right now (lost it in the move) I can tell that I have lost a little more weight. My clothes fit looser, I have on a size medium shirt on right now which I never thought would happen so I can tell that things are still moving in the right direction.  I went and got a new hair cut yesterday....super short for me as I usually keep my hair below my shoulders, but as a new mom (again) I simply don't have the time, so I am embracing change and cut it all off LOL.  Then negativity reared its ugly head in the form of a not so nice comment....someone tells me "you use to be cute and sexy BEFORE you lost all that weight"!!!!!!!!!!  WHAT?!?!?!?!?!?!?!?!?!  Sometimes it is best to keep what you are thinking to YOURSELF!!!!!  That should have been done in this situation.  OK, every one has a right to their opinion but does that mean that you can just allow garbage to fly out of your mouth anytime you want? I don't think so (and maybe I am wrong).  I don't like everything about every body that I see every single day but I don't go up to them and tell them my thoughts/opinions.  I don't even do that to my closest friends.  If I don't like something that is my problem not theirs, now I will tell my good friends my opinion on things but never in a blunt harsh manner.  Maybe it isn't necessairly WHAT you say but more HOW you say it.  

I think that the TRUE reason/meaning for most of us who have had WLS is lost.  Yes I wanted to be smaller, yes I wanted to be able to shop in the regular clothing section and not the plus size section, yes I wanted to be noticed more, yes I wanted to "fit in" to what society has made acceptable, BUT most importantly I wanted to be healthy.  I hated walking up a small flight of stairs and being completely out of breath and sweating like I had just ran a mile.  I hated hearing that my blood pressure was somewhat high, I hated seeing the diabeties commercials or having to sit and listen to my doctor lecture me about all the things that could happen if I didn't lose the weight, I hated not being able to go out and play with my son.  I remember sitting in the initial information seminar for WLS at the hospital and the surgeon came out and gave his speech and showed all the statistics, and then he flashed a photo of a very overweight man, it was the mans "before" photo.  The next slide showed the same man after surgery a few years out and he had lost a TON of weight, he didn't have a shirt on and you could see the loose skin and I remember one lady making a noise and a comment about how bad he looked.  The doctor then said that he didn't care HOW the man looked what he cared about was the fact that he had lost over 100 pounds, and that he was off ALL his medications, his blood pressure was in normal range, he was working out 2-3 times a week, eating healthy, and enjoying life for the first time in his life.  I have to sit and think back to that moment a lot myself because I too get caught up in the "image".  I want cosmetic plastic surgery but I have to remind myself that the TRUE reason for going through this process was to get my life back.  To be HEALTHIER more than anything.  So when I hear a comment like "you was cute and sexy before you lost weight" I think-while that may be true, I also was closer to an earlier death and there is nothing cute or sexy about that.

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