Addiction, not just for those who transfere on April 3, 2007 9:34 pm
A new thought brought about by a post and the People mag. article on addiction transfere. I am looking at my life very hard to make sure I don't do the transfere part. But forgot to look at how I was handling the actual addiction. I live with an alcoholic, recovering and I have to walk a different path than he does, but the outcome has to be the same. We must both beat the addiction so as to live a healthy life.
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We live with an addiction. Unlike drug addicts and alcoholics, we have to eat food everyday. There is always a fear of falling off the wagon and more so with us because we have to control the addiction rather than avoiding it all together. Yes, most will fall off the wagon and eat wrong. Yes this can send us into a tail spin. Yes, we have to live in some fear of that food demon getting us again. But, we can learn over time how to deal with it and make it so that that demon has no control. By this I mean if you retrain your habits with food, then if you do fall off, your choices will probubly be ok foods and not the whole bag. The tool keeps us from over eating for awhile. It makes us choose food differently too. But over time, the tool looses some of it's edge. Some can eat alot, some can eat sugar, some can eat anything. But if you really use the tool, not abuse it, it can keep working for you.
Part is faith. Like sugar will make you dump, but you haven't tried it, so you go on faith that it will and not test the waters.
As time goes by, you realize that this really works and as long as you are aware of the food problems, you can soon look that fear in the eyes and say "You have no control over me!" Habits make this possible. It starts at 30 days, the length of time it takes to build a habit. After that, it is maintaining and not pushing the boundries. When you get there, you know that when you want to eat for emotional reasons, you now reach for that SF pudding that was already part of your daily plan, so it was ok to have it.
I guess that falls to it is also ok to eat. Interesting. Something I am having to teach myself now. It is ok for me to eat more carbs and such (as long as they are good carbs) It is ok to up my calories. It is also ok for the scales to stop moving down.
It gets easier and the fear gets less. There are many places you go thru before you can truely beat the demon. First to relearn to eat, then to not eat the wrong things, then to learn to eat enough to stop loosing and then to learn to not eat too much so as to gain weight. Eventually you master all of this and the fear will be gone.
It is a great theory and I have seen people conquer this, so I know I too can do this and I believe you can too. We all can if we are honest and believe in ourselves and a higher power for some.