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Weigh Under 300 pounds

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Make it through Surgery without Complications

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154 People
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112 People
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Wear my wedding ring again!

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16 People
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wear a bikini at the beach, and turn heads!!!

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Latest Surgery Support Comments

  • Comment by Jennifer _H on 4/1/08 11:15 pm
    Jenny, I hope everything goes well with your surgery and your recovery. Enjoy the weight loss and I hope to join you as a fellow DSer soon! ~Jennifer H.
  • Comment by inchin on 3/31/08 9:24 pm
    Sending you best wishes and prayers for smooth surgery, quick recovery, and complete success! Look forward to hearing updates soon.
  • Comment by Jenny G. on 3/31/08 8:36 pm
    Jenny, here's wishing you all the best, think of us here on the board 'cause we will sure be thinking of you!!
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Adding to the Goals list
on March 1, 2007 10:11 am
1. Like everyone else, i want to cross my legs like a lady
2. I want to want to make love to my husband
3. I want to buy nice cloths in places other then Lane Bryant
4. I want to want to be girly
5. I want to be able to wear heels all day and be comfortable
6. I want to fit in every bathroom stall i go into 
7. I want to be able to sit in an airplane and not have burses when i get off the plane.

Newly added Goals

8. Fit in a booth 
9. Fit comfortable in the seats at the movies
10. Be able to ride the rides in an amusment park
11. Take a bath 
12. Climb stairs without getting tired 
13. Walk in the mall or at Walmart w/o getting tired 
14. No more Sleep Apnea 
15. Weigh less than 300 pounds
16. Weigh less than 200 pounds
17. Enjoy having my picture taken 

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Supervised Diet Update
on March 1, 2007 6:49 am
Well, i meet with the personal trianer 1st last night. She was nice. She was all worried that i wouldn't be able to do the bike test cuz i was in a skirt.....but i did it anyway....i'm always in a skirt. I feel that pants look like crap on my cuz they show my fat more but with the right skirt it is covered up more. I did all 10 minutes on that bike, and it hurt my knees, but i did it anyway. I go back on April 4th and she'll have a program for me to follow then given what equiment i have at home.

then i meet with the dietician. she's also really nice and i like the program they have. I don't have to count calories or anything like that. I have a list of what i'm allowed to eat and i have to mark a box every time i eat it. Like i'm allowed 2 milk products (milk and yougart), and then like 5 veggies, 8 startches....stuff like that. In the end it should end up to be about 1800 calories a day. 

I did some math and i could actually lose 85-90 pounds on this program and still qualifiy for surgery. I'm hoping to loose about 50 durning this next year, that's my goal. 

On the down side, in the last month since i've seen them i've actually GAINED 10 pounds. that kind of depresses me, i'm not up to 330!

My next appointment is April 4th and then i'm going in bi weekly after that till i feel that i'm getting the hang of it. I tried to come in before April 4th, but they are still just setting up shop in my area, so the schedule is tight for after 5pm appointments. 

I've also informed both of them that i plan on having surgery if this doesn't work, so that while i'm going to try my hardest on this program, i want to make sure they are taken really good notes because i do not want to be turned down by the insurance company.
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Worst birthday ever
on January 21, 2007 6:46 pm

This was about the worst birthday of my life. I came down with strep throat for the 1st time ever and i'm just now getting back on my feet. I got it from my son who got strep on his face (didn't know that could happen, but it does, it was all over his nose and his mouth) but you can't deny your 3 year old a kiss, you just aim as far away from the infected areas as you can....i didn't aim far enough away. It's been living hell and i can honestly say i am glad i've never had this before, i thought i was going to die. i think at some points i was moaning and complaining so much Tate wanted to smother me with a pillow. I missed my math class on Saturday, i missed my 1st dead line in my economics class, so i can only hope he'll make an exception to his "i don't except late work" policy.

But my daughter pick out a very nice card, and my husband got me Ninty nine nights for the 360 which i've been wanting, and my son picked out some nice Spongebob Square pants wraping paper which is cute.

My mom didn't call me or anything till Saturday and then she got Tate and informed him that my "present" is the sliver she promised me from my grandma. and I called her back today and she still didn't wish my a happy birthday nor did she ask how i was feeling, she just wanted to know when i was coming over to pick up my stuff (she hates sliver).

My dad emailed me on my birthday, and he already gave me my gift. He called today wondering if i wanted to do something today, i had to turn him down cuz i'm sick but we made plans for next weekend. I was a little annoyed when he told me my fever of 100.8 wasn't anything, cuz i NEVER get a fever, and my normal temp is 96.8 not 98.6, so that was one hell of a fever for me.

I swear on Friday i woke up long enough for Tate to take me to the doctor. I also woke up around 3am and i couldn't get back to sleep cuz of someone's snoring, so i played my new game for a little bit before i passed out again.

So, yeah i've had better birthdays, but it's ok, cuz i'm an adult now.

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My "Goals"
on January 17, 2007 7:15 am

I know I’m still a year or so away from surgery and my friend is worried that I’ve gotten an "whatever, I’m going to have surgery so i don't really have to try on this supervised diet" mentality......which is kind of true, i won't deny that, but i am going to try and my husband will make sure of that. But either way, if by surgery or by diet i need some goals. So here they are:

1. Like everyone else, i want to cross my legs like a lady
2. I want to want to make love to my husband
3. I want to buy nice cloths in places other then Lane Bryant
4. I want to want to be girly
5. I want to be able to wear heels all day and be comfortable
6. I want to fit in every bathroom stall i go into 
7. I want to be able to sit in an airplane and not have burses when i get off the plane.


Well i guess that is all i can come up with so far....it's a work in progress.

Jenny

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Mother Vent
on January 12, 2007 12:36 pm

I'm going to include something my mother wrote me in an email (she actaully replyed about the surgery thing not two minutes after i bitch about how no one had......grant you i wrote to them on Monday, but whatever)

this is what my mother does;

"I have all the stuff from Mom. If you would like to come help me sort through it, you can take what items you would like (within reason). I haven't opened the boxes yet. I have 6 huge boxes to go through. Let me know when you would like to come out and help me sort and stuff."

now to you there might be nothing out of the ordenary in that. but to the trianed eye you will notice that at 1st she says "if you would like" but then she ends with "let me know when"  which seems like nothing i guess, but i have learned over the years that this really means "come over this weekend and help me"

Just like when she invites us over for dinner it really means "come over and help me cook dinner and then do the dishes for me while i sit there and complain about how you do the dishes wrong."

I don't know, maybe i'm crazy, maybe no one else will notice the general undertone of the message, maybe it's just me.

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My Story

I don't know why i feel like sharing all this but i do, so you can read it or you don't have too, it's up to you. I know in the end my own weight problem is my own and the choices i made lead me where i am now. 

I just started therapy recently and i have discovered that my mother most likely suffers from NPD (Narcissistic Personality Disorder). You can read more about it here: 
http://www.halcyon.com/jmashmun/npd/index.html 
 

It’s funny to me to come to some of the realizations that I have come to as of late. Well, I guess funny isn’t the right word….but I’ve never been one for using the right words. Anyway, some of the things that have come to my attention is that the reason I don’t really remember my childhood is because I never really had one. I have drifted though my whole life. And that was mostly because anytime I had a feeling or a thought that was different from my mothers she taught that my feelings and thoughts didn’t matter. I feel like I don’t even know who I am and I really mean that, I really don’t know who I am. I’ll give you an example. I was ten years old when I started my period and my mom was out that night and when she came home I ran to her for comfort because I was scared and she hit me across the room and told me she didn’t have time for my sh!t. That was the only time she ever hit me but it was also the moment I learned that I wasn’t worth anything.  

I’ve also learned that I keep this shield around me at all times. Like I love my husband but I always feel this barrier between us. And in a way it’s this shield that has made me fat.  I ate to hide the pain but then something changed in me; I started eating just to hide. I figured that this horrible thing called love is something I didn’t want because it has taught me nothing but sorrow and pain. So if I eat and eat and eat and get so fat no one will love me AND I could understand why they wouldn’t love me. Now keep in mind this is all being done unconsciously.  

This shield is built so thick that I can know all these things about my life but I can not cry about them, I have not allowed myself to actually feel them. But lately I have not been about to keep it all inside I have been feeling myself begin to crack, which is why I went looking to go to therapy in the first place.  

Now somehow despite all of this I have gotten myself a pretty good life. I have a wonderful husband who loves me and two great kids. But I know that I’m going to ruin it all if I keep living the way I live now. I mean how can I teach my daughter to love herself if I still continue to hate myself so much? I’m really not being a good example to them. I’m in constant fear of my husband cheating on me or leaving me or just plain giving up on me. 

I forgot to add earlier that i do not hate my mother. I know she did the best she could with the life she was given. I know my grandmother was a 1000x worst then my mother was. So i am trying to forgive her because she didn't know she was hurting me, she didn't treat me this way out of malice, and that has brought me the begining of some peace. I can not change the past, but i can learn from it, and i can change my future.

So this is the short version of why I’m here, that is why I’m on the journey. At this point I have to wait a year before I can have my surgery. And that is only because my insurance requires a years worth of supervised diet which I start at the end of this month. And who knows maybe at the end of this year I won’t even need surgery. I highly doubt it because I’ve tried everything else, but maybe……

 


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