Melly, you are amazing !! I am so glad to have found you on OH!! Beautiful post from a beautiful woman:-) hugs!!!

It sounds like you've got just the right perception and attitude about things, dear. :) Just remember these insights...revisit this post once & a while & re-read. Stay happy & content. That is what life is all about! love & hugs! Cindy

I have found that my body will break a stall if I increase my protein. I too am slow to lose and am right about the same weight you are. I drink a protein shot at bedtime (about 40 grams worth) and, when I stay at that, it usually does break the plateau.

So glad that you are happy. Happy occurs in your brain and your heart and your soul. Happy does not occur on the scale.

Best of luck to you....

Very good post.. knowing yourself is half the battle, sounds like you are on your way to 150lbs I wish you much success and will be keeping in touch to see you make it all the way!

How much did you have to lose when you got the sleeve? If you dropped the majority of the weight with the lap band, what was your goal to lose with the sleeve? It sound like you are in a good place if you came down from 260. Best wishes, Jane

One thing I think you need to reflect on is you've lost 85 lbs!!! That's an AMAZING accomplishment! With hard work and dedication I'm sure you can meet your goal but for now just reflecting on where you are now is amazing in itself. Plus just being happy with where your life is at is a blessing!!

Adrianne

Thank you for sharing. I'm stuck at 178 and want to get to 150 as well. I know who the problem is.. ME! I will rededicate myself to this journey I choose to take. We'll get there together. Be encouraged! Thank you! Susan

That is truly an amazing post. Just what I needed to read.

Wow! This blog entry was fabulous! Love it! Your going to do great :)

that's my girl!

Thanks Melly37!!!! I sooooo needed this today and to know someone is in the same place as me. Thank you thank you!!!! You made my day.

Wow, I had never thought about how being really happy can lead you to forget where you want to go. I think that was happening to me. It was do great to get down to 230 lbs, that I stayed there a REALLY LONG time. Now I am trying to get back with the program. Thanks for giving me something important to think about.

I am in the same boat. I too feel 'tired of WLS" and all it entails. I wish I could have stayed the course in the first year,stayed away from demon carbs and i believe I *could* have made it to goal by now.

That is not what happened,however,so I have to work with what is now and try to let what I *wish* I had done go.

I don't think I have ever depended on ";osing weight* to be *happy*. I have a great DH and we have weathered some rough times the last two.5 years since my VSG,all surgery unrelated,but there nonetheless. I have lost 98# and maintained that but it is not goal after all is said and done and I still want goal. I wear a size small top and 8-12 oants,including some rocking skinny jeans,but still,it isn't goal and I didn't go into it to not make goal,esp when I could have controlled that (carbs) and just chose not to. It is all on me and I accept that. I am trying to make myself be honest about how much I want to make goal and what I am REALLY willing to do to get there. I am on the road near you and if we keep putting one foot in front of the other we will get there,one way or the pther.

Thanks for the great post and some insight.
Holly

WOW I'm really glad to have met you on OH, I'm new to WLS I'm 3 weeks post op soI need all the support I can get. That was very inspirational.

You're welcome. I also feel guilty somrtimes cause this time I REALLY felt like reaching goal and losing a significant amount of weight was possible and it has been.

I have gone so far as to muse about revising to a DS,and hubby was "shocked" as he never knew I was considering a revision of any kind. I have thought about it and made a preliminary inquiry in Mx,as I would be self pay as I was the first time.

Even with the 98# loss maintenance,it is SO much harder to lose since I HAVE lost 98# if that makes sense.

I try and try to tell the newies,don't go there,don't EVEN pick up the first thing not protein or green veggie.

Seriously ,I am kind wheen I tell them this and relate my story but FRISCO blocked me for telling my story cause it is different from his story,I guess. anyways,his loss not mine. food porn is useless to me without a recipe,LOL.

Awesome post, Melly. I have to say, I think this very phenomenon has caused me to almost change my mind about having surgery. I am 39, 5'7" 260lbs but "carry it well" (to the extent that's possible) and have a wonderful partner, daughter, and life. Sometimes I question if I'm crazy for putting that at risk with an "elective" surgery. Still, I'm tired of feeling like I'm on the sidelines and not living as the best ME I can be. I also know it's a matter of time until I develop health problems if I don't do something. Still...I think contentment can rob motivation. I am scheduled for surgery 9/3. Gotta stay strong and keep my eye on the prize...and so do you, Sister! Thanks for your posts and inspiration :0)

Hi Melly,

I think you are doing great! WLS is a big commitment. I think the first time around (I'm hoping to revise) it is so new and exciting for lack of a better word. We feel like we have so much to learn this time around you already know the basics and what to expect. It probably feels a little old to you. Best of luck!

Awesome post!! Needed to read this today so thank you.

I love what you wrote. It strikes a few cords with me as I've been in the 190 to 180 range for months now and the wt is no longer magically falling off on it's own. My wt goal is 135 lbs. And, I'm having to sweat the wt off now. It's good but I feel frustrated. It was really good to read your words. And, I'm not that far our from surgery - about a year and a half. So, it's also good to know that there will hopefully still be good life changing events to come! I am only a few steps down the road to re-creating my life.

Thanks Melly, I feel exactly as you do in regards to my weight goal, even though am only a little over 3 months of being sleeved (and still learning) but enjoying the best of things now and is all I can ask for. I'm not going to concentrate on numbers until I'm crazy but live a healthy and happy life and remembering where My God brought me from. God bless.
Best, Barb.

1 cheat day out of 7 is 14.3%.
What % are you away from goal?

To me, if you are having cheat days, you haven't got that this is a lifestyle change.

Or, you could change to one cheat day per month.

Hey Melly, I'm like 2pac..."only God can Judge me." lol

OMG! This is a great post! I am EXACTLY where you are! I have made it my mission to get to 150 and I have cut out processed foods as well. Thank you for opening up, I sooooo needed this!!!!!

Melly, Thanks for the post. It is true that "misery loves company" or perhaps it simply that it helps to know that I am not the only one struggling with this.

I had a Realize Band that after 2 years (and countless issues) had to be removed due to slippage. At that time, I had a revision to RNY. It's been a year since my revision and I've lost 98lbs total. My brain gets that is a good thing. I feel better than I ever have, I look healthier and I have more confidence in my physical self.

But my weight loss is slow. So far in 2012, I've lost 18lbs. I can't say I have "stalled" becuase I am losing a little bit each month, but the frustration level of losing 2-3 lbs a month when I feel like I should be losing that a week is all encompassing.

My lifestyle has changed dramatically. Am I perfect? No. But I have developed a lot of healthy habits.... working out at least 5 days a week, I'm training to run a 1/2 marathon in November, I get at least 70 grams of protein a day, drink lots of water, never eat anything with more than 5 grams of added sugar/fat (my doc's guideline). Yet, still only the .75 lb a week weight loss.

I contimplate this a lot. Is it my own mental barrier? Is my metabolism slowed way down? Am I ever going to hit "goal" (which for me is 136... that's what would make my BMI 24.9... Normal) What else can I do to lose faster? Will I ever not be so focused on this effort to lose weight?

But at the end of the day, I try (VERY HARD) to just stay calm and carry on. To remind myself that this will be a life long journey. The destination is not a goal weight, because even once I hit that (and I have to believe that I will one of these days) I will then shift my focus to maintaining it. The day I decided to have WLS, I made a life long committment.

I have 37lbs to go. If that takes me 6 more months or 6 more years, I'm going to keep at it.

Wish you well in your journey. You are right... YOU CAN DO IT!

Wow - I so know I needed to read this. I am too at a stall and very close to goal. I am a RNY to DS revision. I was told revisions lose slow..but my weight loss was that of a virgin WLS'er. I lost 125+ lbs in a year. I have 6 lbs to go. I know what I need to do to get my ass in gear, but my self pity party is preventing me to do it. I am glad I am not alone in this and you have encouraged and motivated me. I appreciate you for that. Thank you

It's more important to be happy, than to look happy! Good luck on your journy but it sounds like you've figured out what many people miss...that health is more important than weight goals. We're human, stuff happens, we continue on...

You Rock no matter what weight you end up, Melly! There is something to be said about "slow and steady", so if it takes awhile to get you to 150, it will be all the sweeter when you get there. I know when I got within 10 lb of my goal weight, I didn't really care if I reached that final goal...but I weighed a lot less than I started, and I am happy with life. There are a lot of people in this world who will make goal, but still be miserable...so it is good to stop and smell the roses. So may all your carbs be low complex ones...and may you have many high protein days... (And now I wave my magic fairy wand over your head...) Many blessings to you, Sweetie! Happy you have love in your life!