I am a 37 year old wife and mother. I've come to a turning point in my life and realize that I should not accept being obese for the rest of my life, just because other diet trials have failed. I'm sick and tired of being sick and tired. I am ready (more than ready) to take the steps towards a permanent solution to weight loss. My health and life depend on it. I need to do this for myself and my family, who need me. I am very blessed. I have the most wonderful husband a woman could ever pray for. We've been married for 8 years. Never has anyone loved me so completely and so deeply. He is my king. I also have 2 little princesses (ages 5 & 7). They are my joy and my world. I need to do this for the 3 most important people in my life. And with GOD's help, it shall be done!
I am currently 159 pounds! Haven't been this weight since the 6th or 7th grade. The greatest thrill for me is shopping in the "regular" clothes section. I had no idea how many clothing options that are available to non-plus size folks! This surgery has changed my life on so many levels. Anyone out there unsure if this is the right decision for them, go for it! For me, it was definetely the right decision.
Hello OH Family:
I can hardly believe after this long and difficult journey, that I have finally reached my goal weight of 165 lbs. And I am truly greatful to GOD because HE has made it possible for me. I know now that I have a much better chance of being here to watch my babies grow-up. Which is the most important thing to me in this world.
I do have one probably though. And maybe it's just in my mind, I don't know. But to me, I still look extremely fat. I think I am going to lower my goal weight to about 140 or 145 lbs at the most. I think that will still be a healthy weight for me. Some people (especially my mom and my husband) think that I look great now, and shouldn't try to lose anymore weight. But I think I need to lose about 20 or 25 more pounds. What do y'all think. Let me know. I will consider all comments. Except those that are rude, negative or hurtful.
I know its been a hot minute since I've checked in. Blessings out to all of you for your weight struggles. I am all too familiar with them. I am down to 179 pounds for the past month. For my wedding anniversary this month, I actually bought and wore a halter-dress! Can u believe that? A halter dress! (Check it out on my new pix). I've never worn a halter anything in my entire life. I had the courage to try it on at a store in the mall, and yes it actually fit. And nicely. I don't know which occasion my husband looked more pleased in his facial expression: seeing me on our wedding day, or seeing me in that halter-dress! I'm glad he liked it so much. He had the shocked look I was hoping for. He strutted around with me on his arm that night like I was Beyonce or somebody! LOL! I'm loving this!!!
When I first went shopping for the dress, I went to one of my usual plus-size stores. "The Avenue". When I walked into The Avenue, one of the sales ladies who was putting out clothes asked me if I needed any help. I said no thank you. She said, are you here shopping for a relative or somebody? I said, no. I'm here shopping for myself, why is there a problem? She said, well you know we only start at size 14 right, and we're a plus-size store. I said, yes I'm aware of that. She said, no offense, but I don't think we can fit you here. I said, huh? She said, I don't think we have anything small enough to fit you. Why are you shopping in a plus-size store? I said, are you telling me I don't look like I belong in a plus-size store? She put her head down and looked somewhat embarrassed. Then she said, to be honest, no you don't...I'm sorry. I said, don't be sorry. That is about the nicest compliment anyone has ever given me. Telling me that I don't look like I belong in a plus size store! I said, thank you! She smiled and said, ok you're welcome.
This little unexpected event motivated me for the first time to try to shop at a "regular" size clothing store. Which I did. Which is where I found the black halter-dress. In a popular store in the mall called Fashion Hits. I always passed that store right up in the mall. I always envied the fashions they had displayed in the window. But I dared not to venture inside because I just knew there was nothing I could even get a leg in. But the confidence that the store clerk at The Avenue had in me, made me try it. And guess what, I could fit most of their clothing. I am officially in a size 11/12. I have Apple Bottom Jeans now too! Also something I was never able to wear before. That's a far cry from a size 30/32!
This surgery has not only saved my health and life, but it has also given me a new lease on life. I am greatful to ALMIGHTY GOD for having such mercy on me!! Thank YOU JESUS!
I am very close to my goal of 165 pounds. But after speaking with a good friend of mine, whom I've met from this website, I think I'm going to lengthen my goal to 150 pounds. We'll see how it goes...Until then, blessings and peace be with all our you. We are all in this thing together. Don't give up. It is going to happen for you!
Hello OH Family: I am currently at 187 pounds and I'm stuck! I always try to encourage other people when they hit a wall. Yet here I am feeling down on the dumps. I know I'm not where I was 7 months ago. As a matter of fact, I look at old pictures of myself and I cringe with disgust. So I know I should feel happy everyday with what I've accomplished so far. And deep down I really am. But when you get stuck, it can be depressing. I don't know. It's something about when you see that scale move in the right direction. And when your clothes become to big again. Or when you catch a glimpse of yourself in the mirror and you have to do a double-take and say to yourself...who is that? Is that me? Nah, that can't be me.. But it is!!! So of course you want to keep that momentum going. You wish that every single time you get on that scale, you've lost 10 more pounds! But we know that's not always possible. Especially if you get on the scale everyday, like I do sometimes. But, I am taking a hiatus from the scale for a while. I think I'm going to walk more, and then check the scale in a few weeks. Otherwise, I'm going to drive myself insane!! Thank you all for all your support, compliments and love! You all look great! Let's do this thing!!
Take Care All,
Sorry about my absence the past couple of months, but as you can see by the title, I've been on a mission. A mission to get this fat off my back!! And blessed be to GOD the FATHER it is indeed happening. I haven't been in the one's since 8th grade! Isn't that ridiculous? Yes it is indeed. I remember entering the 9th grade at 205. This surgery has truly been amazing and a life-changing experience for me. I get looks from the type of fine, handsome men who would have NEVER looked in my direction before the weight-loss! They open doors for me and ask me if I'm married, which I proudly say YES I am! Nice that they even asked. Also, I have much more energy. My cholesterol is down, and no more sleep apnea! Hooray! I have more energy to spend playing with my kids and everything. I am a new woman with a new attitude. On another note, hubby has become a little bit insecure. He questions me wherever I go, and blows up my cellphone all day. He's never been that way before and we had to have a talk. He admitted that he sees the looks I'm getting from other men and he said he knows I look good. He said he didn't want to lose me. I told him I married him because I loved him, because of the man he is, not for any other reason. He told me I was always beautiful to him with or without the weight. I love him so. I have a damn good one ladies. I can't complain. God has truly blessed me with a wonderful husband. I'm not about to go crazy and let him go just because I'm getting fine (ha-ha).
I had a star moment today. From myself, someone who has always been self-contious about being so big. I went to Cato Fashions today because I had nothing in my closet to fit me...literally NOTHING! I found myself amazed when I tried on a size 16 cute jean dress that actually fit me loosely! After pacing back and forth, nervously contemplating trying on the size 14, I decided to bite the bullet and give it a try. And low and behold guess what? It fit! I purchased several other cute items I could not have put one leg in before my surgery, but can wear now. At the register, tears began to roll down my face. The cashier asked me if I was ok. I smiled at her and said: "Never better." A few of my friends have asked me if I would have still had the surgery if I'd known I'd have a complication or two to overcome. My answer to them is always: "HELL YEAH!" Many may not agree with me. And that's ok. Everyone has their own opinions about weight-loss surgery. But coming from someone who has always been the fattest one in class, or the fattest one at work, or the fattest one out of all my friends. And after trying every damn diet under the sun for most of my life with no real, lasting results. This was a day of reconing for me!! Thank you to those of you who have been so supportive and positive towards me. It really means a lot. More than you'll ever know. And you know you all have my full support and love as well. We have to represent for each other, because no one else will. I still have a way on my journey at this point. But thankfully I am not where I was 6 months ago: 314 lbs. and a size 28/30, down to 195 lbs. size 14/16. YEAH ME!!
Well for what is worth, this is my story. Like many people I've read about, I too have been overweight for my entire life. I know some people acquired excessive weight gain after reaching a certain age, or having children, or experiencing a traumatic life event, etc., But as for me, I've never seen a day in my life when I was a "normal" size. Pathetic, I know. At age 5, I was chubby, and as the years passed, I packed on more and more weight. I can't name how many diets I've tried over the years. Only to gain all the weight back and then some. Now here I am, 36 years old and I'm 309 lbs! It's stressful to say the least. But my faith in GOD, and the love and support of my wonderful family keeps me going. I decided, along with my loving mother, that the time was now for me to make a life-changing experience, in order to save my life. I want to be here for my 2 adorable daughters. I want to grow old with my loving, handsome husband. I want to one day see my daughters marry and have kids of their own. The only way to increase those odds is by taking control of my health (weight). I've been very fortunate so far not to have acquired many illnesses associated with being morbidly obese, such as diabetes, heart problems, aching joints, etc. But if I don't do something now and fast, I may not be so lucky in the near future. This web site is so inspiring. The testimonials are awesome! I pray to God that one day I will finally, finally be a "normal" size and experience life the way it is meant to be experienced. I pray that I can be a true testimonial and inspiration for someone else....Well, we'll see....here I go...