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Username: neekyj
Location: Northport, AL, USA
Member Since: 1/2/2007
BMI: 41.8
Post Op
Surgery Type: RNY (01/08/07)
Surgeon: Andrew DeWitt, M.D.

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Comment by Cira S. on 1/13/07 8:01 pm

Denita, Congratulations on your surgery! Wishing you all the best and a speedy recovery.

Comment by Anna Bryant on 1/7/07 6:25 am

Denita, just wanted to let you know that I will be keeping you in my thoughts and prayers on your special day. Praying for an uneventful surgery and a speedy recovery!! Godbless and Godspeed!

Comment by milania on 1/6/07 4:19 am

Sending you positive vibes and very best wishes for a speedy recovery after your surgery. God Bless, Milania

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PMSing agian?!?!?!?
on April 15, 2008 11:50 am

Here I am again 'PMSing'. I don't know if it's just falling like this or if I just feel like releasing when it's my time of the month. Who knows.? Even though I was going to post today thanks to my best friend I had a little nodging to get me going because I haven't posted in a while.

Health wise I and doing really well. my BMI is @ 28, all of my bloodwork came back normal at my last Doc.'s visit and in general I am really feeling good. I am so happy with my results and I recommend this procedure to everyone who is struggling with health and weight issues. As a matter of fact a few weeks ago I got into a discussion with some friends regarding the Lap-Band procedure vs. Gastric By-pass. It is so sad how some people are really misguided about these surgries and just won't listen to people who have actually gone through it! Oh well! Fortunately my best friend has done her research and she knows what all is involved so that she can make an informed decision for herself. So I'm happy to be her Angel/OH buddy when she makes up her mind for sure.

On another note I've gotten to a point where I am considering plastic surgery. My Doc wants me to wait another 6 months, which I was thinking along the lines of Christmas time anyway. But I'm just perplexed about going through surgery again. My husband doesn't complain and I look okay with clothes on but I want to do something about certain areas of my body. It took me 3 years to research and get up the nerves for the GBP I hope that It doesn't take me that long to decide on plastics. If anyone has any thoughts about this please hit me up.

Just because I want to talk ............. my social club is having our 'Coming Out Party' this weekend. We struggled a little about our attire. To tell the truth I was a little unhappy with our final decision but I was going to make it work. Well last night I tried on my outfit and I don't know why I was scared about it but I looked really nice in it (of course my husband was tripping about me showing some cleavage, but he'll be alright). Sometimes I go back into 'Big Girl' mode and I feel so huge. I looked on my tags and for some reason it hit me that I've gone from a size 22/24 to a size 10! THANK-YOU JESUS!!!!!!!! I knew that I was down to a size 10 but for some reason I didn't really see it until last night. I am going to strut my stuff like I never have before at the party. Though I have caught myself in the mirror saying that I am fat. I don't want to get that complex so I am working on that. I know people who have had the surgery and are always wanting to be thinner and thinner. So I just reflect on them and I see how crazy they sound and I check myself. Well that's all for now I will post new pictures as soon as I can. Christy I hope you are happy now!!!! LUV YOU!!!!!

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PMSing!?!?!?!?
on February 12, 2008 11:06 am

Hi everyone,

I am trying to post monthly with my progress. I haven't been doing too good with that in the past but I am trying.

I have only lost a couple of pounds since my last post but I guess every little bit helps. I guess it is time for me to slow down anyways it's been a year but since my weight loss wasn't as dramatic as others I thought that it would take longer before I plateaued. Oh well I guess that's how the cookie crumbles. I have a goal of 34 more pounds to lose, hopefully it won't be the hardest. I think because it's my time of the month I may be a little gloomy, so I will stop complaining.

Good news on the home front my husband and I are in a better place with our relationship. He wants me to slow down some with my friends and stuff so we have come to a little compromise. I am not sacraficing my wants for him though and he knows that I still have control over me and not him., but marriage is about giving a little and taking a little I just have to learn to not give more of me to where I loss self again. I think I can handle that. Although I don't know if I can do that with the boys. I find myself trying to give and do everything for them and I really don't want to change that part of me. I was very busy this weekend and I was complianing about all the things that I had to do and my baby boy asked me to not forget his alone time with me. I had to go to my room before I cried because I didn't know if I he felt neglected or if he thought that I was just too busy for him. When we had a our alone time on Sunday we talked and he said that he just wanted to make sure he was on my list because he missed our last time because he was with my brother and he didn't want to miss it again. It's the little things like that that make me cherish being a mom because I know in a couple of years he will probably care less about our alone time because he'll want to spend that time with his friends.

I'm still figuring out how to approach my mom though this is very hard for me to do. I almost lost it yesterday when she commented once again on my appearrance. The first thing out of her mouth wasn't oh your hair looks nice or anything like that it was "About time you did something with your hair, I was getting tired of that same old ponytail it made you look awful." Maybe I'm overreacting but its just discouraging that I can't get her to see anything positive in me anymore. I just don't know. I'll just continue to stay away for now. See you next month!

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1 year anniversary (WOO-HOO!)
on January 9, 2008 6:11 am

I just celebrated my one year NEW BIRTHDAY on yesterday! I am so happy with my results and I have never felt better. I am down just over 100lbs! I have no health issues and life is going well.

My celebration has however been bittersweet. The only problem that I am having though has nothing to do with the surgery. It is the people that are closest to me. If I may vent for a bit.........My husband is really having a hard time with the new me. I don't understand because I am only doing and enjoying the things that he constantly prodded me to do before the weight loss. Like "get out and make some friends", "go out with your friends", "hang out with them and not me and my friends". Now that I am doing doing that he doesn't like it and now he is as clingy as he often accused me of being. I'm trying really hard to live as I've always done with the exception of getting out more and enjoying life outside of his world. I'm still doing everything I've always done at home, with the children and him. I've also joined a gym, a social organization (that I am the vp of), I'm more confidant at work and in general I'm just more active with my friends, family and community. I'm really enjoying me now! I am just as active and busy as I was during the first few years of our marriage so it is not like this is a totally new me, it's just the old Denita revisited and if GOD is willing she AIN'T leaving this time!

Now my mother......She is really the one who woke me up to my weight problem. I knew I was overweight but I never looked at myself as being morbidly obese. She stayed on me for about 2 years straight about having the surgery. And now that I've gotten it she has nothing but negative things to say about the way that I look. I only get positive comments from everyone that I meet that knew me before the weight gain and before the weight loss. Only positive. But my mother for some reason only see that I look tired all the time (i'm usually just getting off work), that I'm not standing straight like I weak, Something just doesn't look right about me to her. My beautician often comments on how healthy my hair and skin look compared to other clients and people that she know that had the surgery. Even people I meet for the first time say that if I had not told them they would have never known because I look so healthy. Since my recovery she has not said once that I look nice, even over the holidays when I know I looked my best. I just don't understand. The two people that I care for the most and that stood by me when I needed them the most are hurting me right now in more ways than anyone can imagine. I expected this from friends and others but not them.

I don't know if anyone else is having these same issues but it would really feel good to talk to someone about it. Overall I would still go through the surgery again and agian because I am a better and healthier person now. Thanks for allowing me to vent.

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A New Day Has Dawned!!!
on October 18, 2007 7:47 am

It has been almost 10 months and 93 lbs later since my surgery. Things have really been going good. I just checked my BMI last week and it has gone down to 30.2, my thyroid is now normal, my cholesterol has lowered considerably, my cycle has returned to normal and I have my social life back. I'm in a size that I was in when I was in college. GOD is good!!!!!!!!!!!

The down side is that I've lost some people who I thought were really close friends but I guess they were not friends in the first place. My husband was having some problems but we are working on that. Overall I am happy with my results so far. I know that I am only half way through but if I don't lose another pound I am in a better place than I was a year ago. I feel great and I am once again healthy!

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Post-Surgery
on February 19, 2007 1:29 pm

Well I've made it through. It is six weeks later, I am back to work and doing great. Initally I had a few minor problems and had to go back into the hospital, but it's all good now. It was worth it and I'd do it again.

I have lost a total of 26.5 pounds since my last weigh-in 2/14/07(and that's without any type of exercise). My husbasnd and I are joining a gym this week so I know even more pounds will fall off then. I will try and update weekly. Thanks for the support and prayers of everyone.

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